skimmy Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Men, I'd love to hear any dating gripes you have about us women, and women feel free to share any gripes as well, and I'm terribly sorry if this has been discussed before. There are too many darn posts to sift through. For instance, after talking to a few guys about my current honey, I've been told to stop overanalyzing and just enjoy my time with him (which is a bit over 3 weeks now). And not "talking relationship talk.." but I'm having trouble resisting that, because I'm starting to want more!
norajane Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 At 3 weeks you barely have a relationship - what is there to have a 'relationship talk' about? You should be talking about your interests and what movies you like and where to go for dinner.
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Annoying women habits: Getting annoyed when men don't act according to their expectations Over-analysing the relationship Trying to "improve" the man they are seeing All talk, no action - instead of leaving when dissatisfied, they stay and whine incessantly PMS freakouts Excessive insecurity about theirs looks, bodies, and sexuality Scared to take initiative or ever assert themselves Inability to be self-reliant or self-confident, frequently asking for reassurance of the man's feelings or even their own self-worth
filiasan Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 I like to hear gripes about women because I then compare myself to those traits and realize how different I am. I am really quite different from most women!
johan Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Before you start dating and when you first start dating, she is the coolest most interesting girl in the world, worthy of great respect. Then she falls in love with you and she turns into a major league jealous cling-on with great expectations and tendency to show up at odd times with tears in her eyes. I hate that.
pricillia Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Before you start dating and when you first start dating, she is the coolest most interesting girl in the world, worthy of great respect. Then she falls in love with you and she turns into a major league jealous cling-on with great expectations and tendency to show up at odd times with tears in her eyes. I hate that. wow no wonder why men run, I would hate that as well. There is Johan walking down the street with a woman clung to his shirt... Now we know how to recognize you...
fishtaco Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Why date women then? Because there's no third gender with a coochie and none of the drama. I do have friends that have basically become asexual. They simply just don't date, for at least the past 8-10 years that I've known them. However whether voluntary or not is up for debate.
Jozef Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Well I'v been going out with my gf for about a month now and everything its great(we'v had some bumps concerning a guy she had been seeing before me and it was a purely 'sexual' relationship) but she wanted to stay friends with him even though she told me he used her.. anyway we straightened it out n now he is no longer in the picture(she chose me over him) but lately I'v been having jealousy issues over stuff thats happened before(apparently a week before she met me she let herself be used by 2 diff guys(the same guy and another one) and I didnt let that get in the way of the relationship either.. but just recently on myspace she got a message from one of her ex's: "hey hun, how u doing??? we might be able to catch up during the holidays or sutmhin.. thats if joey boy dnt mind. well yeh hit us bak sumtime n ill call u asap k well yeh have agood one n hopefully c u soon sxc xoxox" (this guy mind u is single and sortof looks like me too).. anywho she replied: well well well mr u didnt call me last night =0 oh well i like passed out ne ways i was so tired from work it was not funyn man yer we gotta catch up i aint seen ya for months literaily lmao so watcha doing for sum of ya hols xo? now I guess this could just be 2 old friends talking but the fact is they have went out and 'done stuff' before n the fact that she would consider goin to catch up with him after he's messaged her out of nowhere sortof makes me feel insecure about our relationship, I trust her and everything but I just wouldnt know if anything happens if she goes to see him.. and being a guy I know how guys think and the whole messaging an ex to catch up just doesnt sound right to me n the way he said it. So I asked her about him the other day and she said oh dw about it I had a fight with him the other night and I said ah ok what happened? and then she tells me she never implied she was gonna tell me what the fight was about and suddenly went all quiet.. so yeah.. just asking for some advice on how to work through this with her.. I tried to keep talking to her even changing the subject and she told me I was in a bad mood and she wasnt going to talk to me at the moment.. even though I was acting completly friendly(this was on msn) so I eventually just said ok wahtever and turned it off.. just need some advice on wth I should do because seriously should I be worried or just forget about the whole incident? is she hiding anything?
stoopid_guy Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 The angriest I ever got on a date was over jealousy, she "went off" on a waitress for flirting with me, and I left her sitting in the restaurant because of it. Other things; Indirectness (say what you think.) Extreme insecurity. Asking questions when you don't want an honest answer. PMS? never bothered me, never even noticed it. I tend to like ladies who are a bit "sassy" anyway.
Jozef Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Well my gf is still talking to her ex's and one messaged her myspace out of nowhere saying: hey hun, how u doing??? we might be able to catch up during the holidays or sutmhin.. thats if joey boy dnt mind. well yeh hit us bak sumtime n ill call u asap k well yeh have agood one n hopefully c u soon sxc xoxox and she replied: well well well mr u didnt call me last night =0 oh well i like passed out ne ways i was so tired from work it was not funyn man yer we gotta catch up i aint seen ya for months literaily lmao so watcha doing for sum of ya hols xo? now I dnt care if I sound like a paranoid jealous bf but fact is this guy is an ex, she has done stuff with him b4 and he's single,, so wth am I meant to think. when I asked her about it an hour ago on msn she said nvm she had a fight with him the other night.. when I asked what it was about she went into a bad mood and wouldnt talk to me,, then proceeded to tell me I was the one in a bad mood and she isnt going to talk to me atm. Now wth am I meant to think,, I am open with her in absolutely ALL aspects of my life and she cant even tell me about a fight she had with an ex.. now she's mad at me for being jealous or whatever and isnt talking to me.. all because I asked what about a fight she had with an ex that SHE mentioned to me, why mention it at all if she cant even say what it was about.. and I'm getting the silent treatment on msn.. gr8.. advice anyone?? I seriously have been talking nicely to her and I even said ok babe dun worry about it talk later and shes just like 'yep' now shes changed her msn name to a bunch of swearwords.. and no it isnt that time of the month.
littlekitty Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Jozef.. you're a little off topic there. Why not start your own thread for advice on your issue? As for dating gripes. It's been a while....! But I'd guess I'd say men who start out seeming like they're laid back and fun, and then get all clingly. YES... men do it too you know....!!! Suffocating...! Although it's a good sign you aren't really that interested if you're feeling suffocated!
catgirl1927 Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 well well well mr u didnt call me last night =0 oh well i like passed out ne ways i was so tired from work it was not funyn man yer we gotta catch up i aint seen ya for months literaily lmao so watcha doing for sum of ya hols xo? You should end it with her because she writes like this. Seriously. Annoying.
Adunaphel Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 The angriest I ever got on a date was over jealousy, she "went off" on a waitress for flirting with me, and I left her sitting in the restaurant because of it. What an unpleasant scene. Were you ignoring the fact that the waitress was flirting with you, or were you flirting back? I'm asking because if a guy flirted blatantly with someone else on a first date with me, I'd be the one leaving him sitting in the restaurant.
stoopid_guy Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 What an unpleasant scene. Were you ignoring the fact that the waitress was flirting with you, or were you flirting back? I'm asking because if a guy flirted blatantly with someone else on a first date with me, I'd be the one leaving him sitting in the restaurant. We'd been dating for a while, and she'd always been jealous. Half the people I meet are going to be women, I'm not supposed to be friendly to them? Anyway, we'd argued about it before, but that was the straw that broke the camel's back. Was the waitress flirting? I didn't think so, she's literally paid to be friendly to people. Insulting a waitress (or waiter, or bartender, or whoever) without very good reason is just plain rude.
Adunaphel Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 We'd been dating for a while, and she'd always been jealous. Half the people I meet are going to be women, I'm not supposed to be friendly to them? Anyway, we'd argued about it before, but that was the straw that broke the camel's back. Was the waitress flirting? I didn't think so, she's literally paid to be friendly to people. Insulting a waitress (or waiter, or bartender, or whoever) without very good reason is just plain rude. I actually absolutely agree. No matter whether she had real reasons to get jealous or not, insulting the waiitress is rather crazy behaviour - and very embarassing for you, I guess!
Pink Amulet Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 I wish.. Awww... *clings to your shirt*
LaughMachine Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Well usually when you can't stand a women at first, she shows her greater characteristics later on in the relationship. And when you like the women at first in the relationship, she gradually becomes who she really is by showing her true colors. After the honeymoon stage is over haha
MadDog Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 In no particular order, my gripes include chicks who: 1. Are drama queens (e.g. everything is the end of the world to them) 2. Can't get over their ex (this can go for both sexes but girls in this category seem to outnumber the guys) 3. Are too clingy and needy 4. Get jealous easily (e.g. thinks the fact that I read Maxim is a problem, thinks I check out every girl that walks by when I dont--at least not in front of her hehe) 5. Are just a pretty face but have no intelligence or personality (girls like you are a dime a dozen baby) 6. Argue more than necessary (I'd say maybe once a year it's necessary and only to have makeup sex) 7. Get PMS 8. Lack skills in bed 9. Bitch all the time about everything (once in a while's ok but Jesus, I don't need to hear you complain every single day) 10. Lack self confidence (e.g. keep talking about how she's fat, not pretty, etc.) 11. Have a low sex drive 12. Have no realistic goals in life The list goes on. To change it up, things that are a huge turn on are girls who: 1. Are independent 2. Aren't moody 3. Are confident/don't get jealous (they know they're hot and that you're into them so other girls aren't a threat to them) 4. Are into sports/are athletic 5. Have career goals 6. Have skills in the bedroom 7. Have a high sex drive 8. Take good care of themselves (work out, wear decent clothes, etc) 9. Look like Jessica Alba MD
fishtaco Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 To change it up, things that are a huge turn on are girls who: 1. Are independent 2. Aren't moody 3. Are confident/don't get jealous (they know they're hot and that you're into them so other girls aren't a threat to them) 4. Are into sports/are athletic 5. Have career goals 6. Have skills in the bedroom 7. Have a high sex drive 8. Take good care of themselves (work out, wear decent clothes, etc) 9. Look like Jessica Alba MD I believe you've just described a man in Jessica Alba mask. I keed, I keed... That's a good list. We need more lists like this. Women have lists like this for men... what kind of car, how much they get paid, shoe sizes... etc that men try to strive for. Well, we need a list for women to strive for too... except it probably won't work as well since most guys will just go... ahhh f--- it, at least I get to do it with someone that's not my right hand.
Quinch Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Among the worst dates I've ever had ... 1. The girl who shouted at the barmaid because they didn't have her favourite flavour jelly beans. 2. The girl who told me her favourite hobby was 'clubbing baby seals to death'. 3. The girl who couldn't switch off from work and conducted the date like a job interview. 4. The girl who got a phone call from her ex halfway through our date and then decided to go back to him. What is it about me that attracts the loonys?
amaysngrace Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 What is it about me that attracts the loonys? Maybe it's how you trained your pet to use a shotgun???? I dunno...
a4a Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Among the worst dates I've ever had ... It was not the dates it was you. You obviously cannot see a good thing when it is in your face. 1. The girl who shouted at the barmaid because they didn't have her favourite flavour jelly beans. So she is assertive and is able to easily express herself and needs to others. Awesome traits! 2. The girl who told me her favourite hobby was 'clubbing baby seals to death'. A girl who is athletic, loves the outdoors, and probably would love to sit and watch contact sports on the TV with you. I cannot believe you let this one slip away. 3. The girl who couldn't switch off from work and conducted the date like a job interview. She is focused and loyal. 4. The girl who got a phone call from her ex halfway through our date and then decided to go back to him. Again another loyal girl. She does not forget her attachments to others just to seek quick and easy fulfillment. What is it about me that attracts the loonys? Ah usually they say birds of a feather flock together?
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