missy77 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I need some advice please. Out of the blue my ex's mom calls me, to ask me if I would like a cat. I bumped into her the other day at Petsmart and she saw me looking at the cats up for adoption. I told her no I don't want a cat, I only talked to her for about 2 minutes, then told her I had to go. My ex and I have been broke up for at least 2 years!!!! I just thought it was weird for her to call me, I think she has other motives in mind. She has does in the past, and my ex and I ended up seeing each other again. What do you guys think?
bluechocolate Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Well, if she has form on this then perhaps that is what she is trying to do. However, 2 years is an awful long time for her to wait to try & attempt a reconciliation between you & her son. It could just be that she needs to off-load some kittens or knows someone who does.
Author missy77 Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 i thought the same thing too, se is just trying to find a good home for a cat. But why would she call me!!! Her sons ex!!! Thats just odd for her to call me, I don't why I think this but I think she is being nosey, or trying to get me and her son back together. Please help me to figure this out, I don't know what to think!!!
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 But why would she call me!!! Her sons ex!!! I think she was just trying to find a home for the cat.. After 2 years you were no longer her son's ex.. to her anyhow.. you were someone that might want the cat.
almostthere Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 How long did you date the son for and how close of a relationship did you have with the mom?
amaysngrace Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I think AC's right on about this. She saw you looking up cats for adoption, knows what kind of person you are to your pets (esp. since you shop at PetSmart for them), and thought to call. Did she pry into your personal life? If not, then know it was because she wanted to find a home for a cat.
Author missy77 Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 I've know him for at least 6 years, we dated on and off during these years. Then one day I just got tired of us being on again then off again, on again then off again. My ex, left me a message, on my answering machine saying he would call me when he got a free minute, well he never called. Eights months later a got a letter in the mail from him sayinghe was sorry he had not stayed in touch with me, he had a drug problem, was scared of getting his heart broken, said he always had a good time when we went out, and said he would like to hear from me. Well, I didn't respond to his letter in anyway shape or form, I was mad at him. Didn't want him to think the could write me a letter and I jump. I had a good realtionship with his mom, I know both of his parents liked me.
Author missy77 Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 I think AC's right on about this. She saw you looking up cats for adoption, knows what kind of person you are to your pets (esp. since you shop at PetSmart for them), and thought to call. Did she pry into your personal life? If not, then know it was because she wanted to find a home for a cat. I didn't give her a chance to ask any questions about my personal life, I cut her off before she had the chance.
Author missy77 Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 Please help. I know its so confusing.
whichwayisup Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I had a good realtionship with his mom, I know both of his parents liked me. Then this is why she thought of you when it came to the cat. Don't be so suspicious, that she's out to screw with you and your life, trying to get you back with her son. It seems he (your ex) has had alot of issues and problems, so maybe she feels you helped him and wishes that you were back in his life. I don't know. I think you're being overly paranoid about her intentions. The cat needed a home, you said no. End of story...
Author missy77 Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 What should I do, if I want to get in touch with my ex again????????????
bluechocolate Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Please help. I know its so confusing. It seems that you are the only person who is confused here. If she hadn't bumped into you looking at those cats no doubt you wouldn't have heard from her. Are you sure you don't want to go out with her son again? What should I do, if I want to get in touch with my ex again???????????? I guess that there's my answer.
Author missy77 Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 Please help. I know its so confusing. It seems that you are the only person who is confused here. If she hadn't bumped into you looking at those cats no doubt you wouldn't have heard from her. Are you sure you don't want to go out with her son again? What should I do, if I want to get in touch with my ex again???????????? I guess that there's my answer. I would like to go out with him again, but its been so long! What if he has a girlfriend, and laughs in my face?
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I would like to go out with him again, but its been so long! What if he has a girlfriend, and laughs in my face? You could start out by taking his Mom's cat.. that should buy you points.. We all need to do our part in helping with animals What if he is still druggy ?
bluechocolate Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I would like to go out with him again, but its been so long! What if he has a girlfriend, and laughs in my face? You could try writing him a letter. Keep it light & breezy, like how you ran into his mother the other day & that got you wondering how he's doing. Then leave it at that. His reply, if there is one, should let you know if he's single and if he is at all interested in meeting up.
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 So this wasn't about what his Mom wanted ? This was about the fact that you want him back.. Nothing wrong with that .. Either take Blue Chocolates advice or pick up the phone and call him. I'm sure that after 2 years you both could have a nice conversation that would put you guys back together .. Don't worry about if he has a GF or not.. you can talk about that to him on phone..
alphamale Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 What do you guys think? I think you're being silly.
Author missy77 Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 You could try writing him a letter. Keep it light & breezy, like how you ran into his mother the other day & that got you wondering how he's doing. Then leave it at that. His reply, if there is one, should let you know if he's single and if he is at all interested in meeting up. He wrote me a letter and I didn't respond. I thought maybe he would have done something else to contact me, but he didn't. What do you think me not responding to his letter told him???
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 What do you think me not responding to his letter told him??? That you were being rude and that you didn't want to talk to him.. It certainly didn't convey the message " hey lets get together "
whichwayisup Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 He wrote me a letter and I didn't respond. I thought maybe he would have done something else to contact me, but he didn't. What do you think me not responding to his letter told him??? Ah, you want him to chase you! Well, don't play that ego game. If you want him, talk to him. You've got nothing to lose. If he says no, it shouldn't be a big deal seeing as you've been apart for a long time anyway. If he says yes, just take it slow because if he's still into the drug scene, I highly doubt you wanna get all attached and then have problems come into your life. How old are you and how old is he? Oh and you not responding to his letter has told him that you're not interested in him.
bluechocolate Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 He wrote me a letter and I didn't respond. That's why I said, if he responds. If you decide to write him a letter then you have to accept the possibility that he won't respond & the same goes with a message on his phone for that matter. What do you think me not responding to his letter told him??? That one certainly isn't rocket science. It told him that you weren't interested in continuing the relationship. You wanted him to chase you & he didn't. Instead he left the ball in your court & you walked away from the game. Just write the letter or pick up the phone.
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 If you want him, talk to him. You've got nothing to lose. I agree with this.. you just need to make the effort and contact him..
Author missy77 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 Ok, so I have dedided to write him a letter. But do you think it has been to long to even think about contacting him?
Author missy77 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 Help, Help, Help!!!! Please!!! What IF he doesn't respond to my letter? I'll be soooo hear broke, and I feel like he is laughing in my face. I'm scared and nervous to send him a letter, but at the same time I want to send it to him!!!! Help!!! What should I say? Or should I even write a letter?
bluechocolate Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Ok, so I have dedided to write him a letter. But do you think it has been to long to even think about contacting him? I think almost everyone pretty much said either write the letter or pick up the phone. If you honestly think that you can't handle his rejection or non-response (two distinct possibilites) then move on.
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