ely Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Can anyone tell me what are the steps of healing yourself when you go through a separation. I was so hurt when I found out my boyfriend of three years cheated on me with a prostitute. Now I feel so much anger inside and I feel I hate him. Is this normal? To top it off I will be out of a job in December and it's like everything is coming down on me. I text him this morning and told him exactley how I felt wich was to go f**** himself.
bluechocolate Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Some people say that a break-up is like dealing with the death of a loved one & that there are five stages of grief you will go through: Denial Anger Bartering Depression Acceptance In which case you are at step 2. Personally I don't fully subscribe to that philosophy though it does make some sense.
B-3128 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 There are no steps. Free yourself. Feel how you feel. Say how you feel. Don't try and fit into an ideal. Path not the destination and all that. If you're angry, let it out. If you're hurt, do the same. You may not go NC straight away. That's fine. You may end up there after some self-degradation and pleading. Whatever. Just go with your flow. Everyone is different. You're your own best guide. B
umbo Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 "my boyfriend of three years cheated" He is your boyfriend not your husband not your fiance, so where is the commitment, why all the hard feelings about a kiddie relationship.
joriel Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 "my boyfriend of three years cheated" He is your boyfriend not your husband not your fiance, so where is the commitment, why all the hard feelings about a kiddie relationship. Umbo, what are you talking about? A serious relationship of three years implies an element of monogamy and trust. As we all know, marriage isn't always full of commitment either. It's nonsensical to think that because two people aren't married their relationship is "kiddie" or immature. Perhaps you're the one that needs to grow up.
swirly27 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Umbo, what are you talking about? A serious relationship of three years implies an element of monogamy and trust. As we all know, marriage isn't always full of commitment either. It's nonsensical to think that because two people aren't married their relationship is "kiddie" or immature. Perhaps you're the one that needs to grow up. I agree...Umbo, what are you talking about?
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