Shana555 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I just started a thread in coping, but now thinking I should have posted it here. I would really appreciate anyone that reads my break-up that happened last night and responds. I could really use any and all words right now. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t100019/
Tshepi22 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Sweetie you are not telling us what happened, give the details so that we can be able to help you.... but whatever he did! run a mile my dear. The reason why im saying this it's becoz i've been there done that got the T-shirt and burnt it.... He is no good... if some1 loves you, they wont cheat on you or hurt you.... Run a mile sweetie...!!! there are many guys who will love you and not hurt you..... He won't change if you think he will say sori and buys you flowers...and everthing!!!! No...No... No... He will cheat even if you get married to this hearless guy Run sweetie and run until you sweat... make sure he does not keep in touch with you.... Gud luck....
Author Shana555 Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 Well I made the mistake of taking back my ex, AGAIN. I got burned hardest this time. We were together 5 years and we have been working things out and got back together a couple months ago. But the whole time he was acting strange and distant. He had all the signs of cheating, but I refused to believe it because he always said how much he loved me and wanted to be with just me. Last night I was fed up with him ignoring my calls for whatever reason it was that night (the list of excuses is endless), so I decided to make a surprise trip to his house. I used my key to quietly get in and found him in bed cuddling with another girl. I was speechless. I don’t even remember my exact words. He sure didn’t say much at all though, but he did admit that yes he has been hiding this from me. Well obviously!!! I didn’t yell, flip out, or anything. My friends say that was a good thing because it shows I have class, but I have sooo many things in my head I wish I said to him. Oh, my pretty finger did spring up to him in the face at the door. So I guess I did make one statement. When I left, he didn’t even try to stop me.
B-3128 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Your friends are right. Read my post: A Really Nasty Story. I envy you a lot. I wish I had just walked off like you did, without saying a word. Of course, what I did I did, and I can't change it, but I would do what you did if I could have my time again. You'll find this thread helpful. Three of us in a situation similar to yours. And I know you probably have 1000 things you want to say to him. Thing is, it's not him. He's dead. Only a zombie remains. Seriously, just read the thread. It'll help. Good luck! B
SUMMER 1969 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Honey I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with all of this.. I was in your boat too.. I was cheated on and I stayed with the piece of crap and in return I got burned as well.. Whatever you do, do not take him back! Once a cheater always a cheater.Not only that but you will always wounder if there is someone else.. You will be snooping through his things and all.. I know how you are feeling, you may wounder if you did something wrong, but I can assure you that it is not you.. It is him.. When he calls you, and I know it will be hard do not answer the call, if you do, tell him you are busy and hang up.. Or maybe get your number changed.. Men like him will tell you anything just to get you back.. Let him go, you do not deserve this.. Try and stay strong, we all care and we are all here to help you in anyway we can. Summer
Island Girl Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Oh I am so sorry. You are dealing with a whirlwind of pain and anger, I know. But the good thing is you caught him red-handed. There weren't any signs you were seeing that he can explain away or turn around to make you think you are crazy for thinking he is cheating (I call it Turn-Around-Talk). That just prolongs the suffering and the person's self-esteem gets way beat up in the process. I am so glad you have friends around to support you telling you the right things. You may feel you have a lot to say -- write it out. Add to it and keep in mind it is venting so it doesn't even have to make sense. I'd write out the angry and gry out the pain. Then you can re-read the anger in weak moments when you are stuck in the 'wondering' phase. Make out a list of all of his faults and put it on your fridge so you can easily see why you don't want him and why it was a waste of your time anyway. Thankfully you hadn't progressed to more of a commitment with this jerk. You deserve better.
D-Lish Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 what a jack-A$$! You deserve better. There's no explaining that one! Cry your eyes out, get mad, lament to your friends...but never let him see you distraught. He sounds awful. I hate that you discovered it that way!! Keep posting here- we're all here for you if you need support! D
Author Shana555 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 I am having a really hard time. I feel good at moments, and then start to feel sick and unhappy. Last night I had a dream about him and when I woke up I was in tears. Nice start to the day! So of course all day I was thinking about him tearing up. I even had classes all day, but it was so hard to sit and listen to lectures without my mind wandering. On of my girl friends has been cheated on before and is totally furious about what he did to me. She felt like playing a little prank to piss him off as a little revenge. She set up her fax machine to dial his number. When she told me she was doing this, it had already been calling him 3 hours and she still had it going... I didn’t tell anyone to do anything like this, but it did finally make me smile and laugh the first time all week. I wonder what he’s thinking right now. It’s so hard to get him out of my mind and I keep wondering if I’m in his Well I hope I can sleep well and have happy dreams and wish the same for all of you reading this tonight
Author Shana555 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 B-3128, thanks for the links to those threads. He texted me today asking if he could please call me. Looking back at that thread and the games the three of your ex's played, there's no way in hell I'm going to respond or answer if he does call. I'm going through so many emotions right now. I pray that I can stay strong
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