steenerz Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Bf and I decided to take a break. Academically, he's turned 360 degrees and that has been his main focus. He goes to an Ivy League school, so yeah, he should be doing well. Which is good. Another reason for the break is that my depression has been coming back and is making me insecure, and negative all the time, which he would like me to work on so we can get back together. However. I'm scared I'm going to lose him. That he's gonna look for someone else in secret. He said it's not true. Can I believe him?
magichands Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Bf and I decided to take a break. Academically, he's turned 360 degrees Maybe you mean 180. Otherwise it's just a fancy spin, haha. Another reason for the break is that my depression has been coming back and is making me insecure, and negative all the time, So the break is his idea? I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but if he really loved you he would be supporting you through your problems. What have you been doing to address them?
D-Lish Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Just make sure that you take the steps necessary to get better. I agree with the above poster that if he loved you he'd be supporting you. On the other hand- if he is just getting back into the swing of things with school, he is probably in need of being focused on that at the moment. That is why it will help if you can at least make the appearance of getting better. I made the mistake of letting my negativity with depression and stress get the better of my last relationship. I was going through a hard time and I leaned on him too much- it eventually drove him away. Take the opportunity to talk to your doc- if you truly are depressed, there is help out there for you. I just started meds for depression and it is helping me immenseley. It's been 6 weeks since taking them and I'm glad I did. I'm happier and more focused in the right areas. Just give him space, show him you're happy- don't appear needy. That's a killer in a relationship. D
magichands Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Just give him space, show him you're happy- don't appear needy. That's a killer in a relationship. D-Lish advice. Sterling stuff from someone who has been there. (I had better get out of here before you depressed sorts take me down with you.)
Author steenerz Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 thanks guys. Now that you've told me that, I don't wnna be with him at all....I don't need that in my life!
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