Divine Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Its fact that 8 out of 10 guys will cheat, so who is to tell that my next boyfriend wont cheat on me. I still want and love my ex, and vice versa but he wants to be with other girls as well. Do i take a chance and get cheated on again, or allow him to indulge in other women, which more or less is gonna happen with the future boyfriend. bottom line is all men will cheat eventually!!! Feedback would be appreciated
Art_Critic Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 You sound jaded. I never have and never will cheat. Certainly there are guys that cheat.. just as there are women that cheat but to say all men will cheat is just jaded thinking
Pyro Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Yes its a sad reality that men and women will cheat. Its silly to believe that they all eventually will cheat because that is not true. Believe it or not, there are decent and good hearted guys and gals available. You just have to meet one of those type. Don't get discouraged with a few bad experiences. We have all had some sort of bad experience or two. You don't want to grow up and be bitter toward the opposite sex because that is no fun.
loveinlife Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 They are right. It false thinking to say all men will cheat. I have not done it myself or will I ever do that. If I am in a relationship, I plan to keep it that way. It is more special to keep one girl than to sleep around. Because why would I settle if I am on the plan to not have any strings attatched. I was surprised to see that statistics. It is pretty scary. I wonder what is the stat on women.
Touche Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I don't believe those statistics. Where did you get them. I'm married, been married before and had a few relationships before that..never had a man cheat on me. So either I was REALLY lucky or those statistics are bogus.
Author Divine Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 saw it on a survey that was done on askmen.com some time back Oh and i must admit you have been really lucky.
Touche Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 saw it on a survey that was done on askmen.com some time back Oh and i must admit you have been really lucky. Granted yes, I've been lucky BUT that statistic is VERY questionable. I would say it's more like 60% not 80%.
joriel Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I would say that the viability of the statistic is based heavily on how "cheating" was defined... Regardless, to resign yourself to life with someone whom you know is cheating on you seems ridiculous. I wouldn't do it. Frankly, I know too many women who have and wound up missing out on being someone's one and only true love... 60% or 80%, it still leaves at least 20% of men being non-cheaters. We're not all bad. Give yourself some time, and then go find a good one.
Tony T Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Its fact that 8 out of 10 guys will cheat, so who is to tell that my next boyfriend wont cheat on me. I still want and love my ex, and vice versa but he wants to be with other girls as well. Do i take a chance and get cheated on again, or allow him to indulge in other women, which more or less is gonna happen with the future boyfriend. bottom line is all men will cheat eventually!!! Feedback would be appreciated It is not logical to quote statistics without stating the source. And who said all men will cheat eventually? Who is such an authority that they could make such a wild and erroneous pronouncement of that sort. You have to go into every relationship trusting that the person will be faithful. You have to PAY ATTENTION. You will always get hints that the person you're with has an inclination to cheat if that's the case. There is nothing better on the planet than trusting your instincts. Don't get paranoid, though. You have to give every guy a fair chance at first and don't hold past experiences against him. That's not fair at all.
superconductor Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Ya know, I was in the midst of typing a response but I thought I'd spend just a few moments with Google first on this topic, and the OP may be more right than we suspect. In fact, experts estimate that nearly 75 percent of married men, or men involved in serious relationships, cheat. According to “Today” show contributor Dr. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist with New York Presbyterian Hospital, statistics on how many men cheat are hard to come by because most men do not want to come clean on this subject. Saltz said figures range from 22 percent to as much as 70 percent. Recent statistics say a whopping 71 per cent of men cheat. Why good men cheat: If you think it's only about getting some, think again. Baggage and bad judgement - and even a woman's own behavior - are often at the root of a man's betrayal
Art_Critic Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 The OP quoted 80% and also said ALL men.. I googled a little research and found percentages from 21 to 78 Hardly nailed down Here is an interesting tidbit I found about the Hite Report An amazing 60% of men - and 40% of women will have at least one extramarital affair. The Hite Report on Male Sexuality of 1980 found that 72% of men married two years or more had had an extramarital affair. The Shere Hite's 1987 survey of women found that 70% of women married five years or more had had an extramarital affair. Approximately 15% of women and 25% of men have more than four affairs during their married lives. Fewer than 10% of people having affairs divorce their spouse and marry their lover (of which 75% of these marriages end in divorce). Basicaly it says people cheat.. men and women But then we all know that already.. The trick is to not let the fear run our lives and to trust in ourselves that we pick the right ones. I bolded the text for the OW's eyes out there
Diver012 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I have never cheated Ever I have been cheated on I have never felt compelled to returen the favor... Not in my character I would be curious to know how many women cheat??
Touche Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Yes, the 60% men and 40% women statistic is what I had heard from a reliable source. As far as the OW's seeing that statistic! Ha ha! Tell me another joke! They all seem to think that they're going to be one of the less than 10%!
Kittiecat Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I think if a man can cheat and knows he won't get caught, he will. I also think if he's ridiculously in love with a woman, he won't. There's no telling. I have no idea if I've ever been cheated on. The cynic in me says yeah, I probably have. But I can't spend my whole life obsessing if the man I'm with is screwing around with someone else. I've never loved a man enough to care, I guess.
re-searching Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I think men/women both (may) cheat when something is missing in the realtionship. Keeping honest & open communication is the key. Tell & ask what is might be that is missing before an outsider finds the way into your cozy domain. Pry if you have to. I do believe with some people "once a cheater/always a cheater" does apply. They get off when they think they are getting away with something.
Diver012 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 anyone ever catch that show cheaters? Ive watched it a few times and it always disgusts me how these people can just run around and live dual lives. I also find it interesting that there seems to be just as many women cheating as there are men. I really dont think its gender specific, but it has to do with the moral fiber of the individual. I liked the line above, once a cheater always a cheater.
Ariadne Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Hi, I still want and love my ex, and vice versa but he wants to be with other girls as well. Do i take a chance and get cheated on again, or allow him to indulge in other women If you can handle it, sure. Women have been doing this for centuries. Ariadne
Author Divine Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 thats whats killing me, dont get me wrong, i am very busy, i have a 9-5 job, and i go to school also, i barley have time for myself sometimes but i am still lonley. I have also never cheated, i do not have it in me, i totally believe in Karma, so i would never mess around with a married man, or someone that is in a relationship. Riddler and Joriel, i like what you said, i am going to stick it out a few more months and pray that a good guy will come my way.
calalily Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 An Australian study of 5000 random people was done, and it was found that 60% of people - men and women equally - cheat. You should be careful of select surveys only answered by certain people - they are not typical. Plenty of people cheat, but that doesn't mean that all men cheat - some are quite nice.
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