skimmy Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Anyone else experience sudden bouts of insecurity about the guy/girl they're seeing? How do you deal with them, esp. if you've only been going out a short while?
Sally00 Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Why do you feel insecure? Is it because some guy in the past has made you feel that way for your future relationships? Or is the guy you're seeing now acting like he's cheating on you?
skimmy Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Why do you feel insecure? Is it because some guy in the past has made you feel that way for your future relationships? Or is the guy you're seeing now acting like he's cheating on you? No, actually, I doubt he's playing, if anything, I'm the wild one, but I guess I'm starting to really like this guy and I'm just insecure about whether he'll really like me if he knew just how freaky I am...I've lived most of my life conforming to an image, and now that I'm breaking out and enjoying who I am for the first time, I'm worried that this really nice guy who treats me well will be too good for me, and that he'll see it that way. But it's only been 3 weeks, so maybe I'm overthinking it??
Guest Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I had so many insecurities when I first started going out with my bf..i even do now sometimes and we've been dating for two yrs now. I had insecurities because i suffered from an eating disorder for a number of yrs so never had much confidence in myself. A good way i found to keep it in check is if u feel insecure and want to ask a question like "why are you going out with me", thinking about how you would feel if your boyfriend asked you this. Ud think "are you crazy! why wouldnt i!" if your bf is going out with you then chances are he feels exactly the same way and you have to remind your self of this. But also remember that people generally don't like insecurities. I think you should make sure he doesnt feed your insecurity because otherwise you'll never be able to overcome them. By feeding them i mean if you ask a question like "why are you with me". chances are early on he'll answer these sorta questions and by answering it makes you feel better which in turn when you next feel crappy you'll ask it again. Really aviod asking silly questions. If you begin to feel insecure then think about the moments you've shared together. Maybe it was the first time you kissed each other or looked into each others eyes. This will remind you that he does feel the same way about you.
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