The letter i compiled.

[Parky]

After reading some good things on this board. I have compiled a letter i will not send. It just makes me happy when i read it. Thanks to people who contributed towards the letter.

 

LETTER START:-

 

 

Our relationship was not a bad one. We got along well, there was no cheating, and we could talk about anything with each other. I honestly admit, I thought you broke off with me in the hope I would realise what I’m missing and the infinite amount of love and support you gave me. There are always doubters who say that people break up for a reason, and you know what? They are absolutely right. Me and you broke up for the best reason possible - so we could get back together and fall in love all over again!

 

People might say, “Oh, this is a quick fix for you, and once you get comfortable again, you’ll go right back to your old self!” Well, I have been through a lot of reading, heartache and understanding, I think I have finally learnt my lessons and realised what it takes to make a relationship great. Everything that I am doing right now is practice for me and I know if I keep it up, I will get better and better over time. I love you and I have made the decision to love you, 100%, unconditionally.

 

Things were good between me and you for the first 12 months; at least I thought they were, until you dropped the bomb of "wanting to break up". I was devastated, but soon came to realise that I was not putting enough into the relationship and I got too comfortable. I was just not giving the same in return. I knew I loved you, but I was not showing you through action.

I know most people say they change and then slip back into their old way, but I know in my heart I will give 100% to this relationship.

 

I took time out to re-discover the real me, the person you had fallen in love with back at the beginning on the 11th April 2005. When you ended it, it was like a dagger to my heart and I realised then how much I truly loved you and wanted to be with you.

 

If I go anywhere, I imagine what it would be like if you were there. And if I think your there, I feel better.

Why did you leave me with so many questions?

You have always known that I wasn’t all glitz and glamour; you know I was more the quiet and withdrawn. And I thought that you accepted me for that. It leaves me wondering if you ever think about those times, and how much they meant to you.

 

How am I to know how you feel if you don’t talk to me, you always danced around it, but me, I told you what was in my heart, and after awhile I stopped because it made you uncomfortable, something else that you weren’t use to. So I stopped because I didn’t want to make you uncomfortable.

 

Why couldn’t you believe that I just wanted to love you? I believed we could have gotten through anything. Do you remember the first time we talked? Do you remember our first kiss, and how nervous I was to kiss you, how my hands trembled to touch you?

You left me alone, alone now in my head and doubting myself more then ever. If you ever loved me, even in the smallest measurement, talk to me please…let me know that this really isn’t the end. It was supposed to be you and me…..at least that’s what I was leaded to believe.

 

Are the things we talked about (dreams) are they gone too. Is there any future for us?

I can’t just stop loving you; you have become so much of my life. I wanted to be the one to kiss your lips at night and lay you down to sleep, and watch you while you sleep. I wanted to be the one to see your beautiful face in the morning and whisper to you “good morning Angel”. Did I not compliment you enough?

I love you Laura, I have for a long time.

Now all I am is hurt and confused, and left wondering why you walked away from me like this and quick without having to discuss our problems.

 

We were together so long; I just don’t want to throw away all that time. Now that I’ve realised what I’ve done to you, I can honestly say between the break up and now, I am a better man. I want us to try again. I think if we get back together we will love each other like never before, and will put 100% effort to make it work.

I decided to go away for a few days to try sort out what I really wanted…was it just someone because I had lost you, or was it really you that I wanted. After some soul searching, I came to the realisation that it was you I really wanted and would do my best to win you back to me.

 

You never said we weren’t in love with each other. You just weren’t happy with the way our relationship was. I want to take it to the next step and make it work.

I think exe’s who get back together after a period of time have a better shot at working out in the long run depending on the reasons for breaking up.

I promise I have changed my ways and be more active in the relationship.

From the time we broke up, and up to now, I am me again without actually realising it. You may think that six weeks isn't a long time, but to me, it was an eternity.

 

I really, really don’t know why I realised when we broke up; I truly loved you and wanted to be with you. Lesson learnt. I will do anything to keep us together. Was the break up a good thing? Of course it was, simply because it’s made me realise what I’ve done wrong. To be honest, if we were still together now, the relationship would be the same as it was before, so I’m glad it ended. It has made me change, you wanted me to change in the past and I didn’t. Well this is the time I’ve changed properly because of the break up.

 

I really feel like you are the one. Forget about what other people say and think, they will only just agree with you. It’s not about other people, it’s about me and you.

 

I’ve never been heart broken before. All I ask is can we give it another go because now that I’ve realised, it will never go back to the way it was; now I know what it’s like to be heart broken. I will succeed and put everything right that wasn’t right before. Do you think I would be doing all this for nothing? I really want to prove to you I can do it. I want to take care of you like the princess you are.

 

Now I know you have probably fallen out of love with me, or you may still love me deep down, or maybe not. Either way, the idea is to meet up and to see if we still have that attraction for each other. We can make a fresh start, get the spark again, and to take it slowly. I promise I will NOT let you down.

 

Please Laura,

 

I want to take you out for a meal, to have a talk, to see the changes, and a possibility of a fresh start.

 

Love always, David.

 

LETTER END.

 

What do you think?

[turtle32]

It sounds great, but i am sure you will be told not to send it. I did the very same thing with my girlfriend and she left me cause i didnt put what i needed to into the relationship. I now know i love her and want her but what do you do? I want to call her and talk but cant how do you get them back just not talking? I have had no contact for 11 days and it is killing me. She called a friend of mine and hers that lives in my county and ask about me the other day i dont know if that means anything but it was nice to know she asked. Just hang in ther and we will see what the others say for you to do, should be interesting

[superconductor]

Parky;

 

Turtle is right; I'm telling you NOT to send it.

 

Don't don't don't send it.

 

If you need to write it all out to vent, then by all means go ahead. But sending it is something else entirely. Some people call it "closure" but the fact is that there's no such thing as "closure," it's just wimmen-speak for "getting the last word."

 

Yes, it's difficult and yes, it's heart-wrenching, but the ONLY way that you'll find healing is through complete and unequivocal NC.

 

If there's an easier way, then I'm all ears, but in my experience and the experience of countless board users here and readers, it's the only process that works.

 

Sorry for your pain, dude. Sucks, I know.

[Parky]

Well, me and my ex agreed to meet up in a months time and go on a date or something to discuss if a second time would work etc.

 

My friend told me to read this letter to her face at the date. Good idea?

[Joyvke]

This is such a emotional letter . Ireally feel sorry for you what happened and all....

 

I don't know. I would love to hear these things, but I'm someone who really likes to know how much someone loves me... And I think, well she's the dumper, dumpers might think different...