Guest Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I'm new to this internet message board community, in fact, I'm not a member of any message boards but I feel after reading some of the threads that there is alot of helpful people here and talking about my probelm may help me. My gf and I broke up after a 2 year relationship back at the start of summer. We were very close, and did everything together almost like best friends (very intimate best friends). Towards the very end of the relationship, its almost like we were spending too much time together, and finally started to get sick of one another. We both decided to break it off, cold turkey, just like that. But we got back together a week later. Everything was fine again, but when I left town for a summer internship she dumped me two weeks in. The rejection cut me pretty low, but I didn't see her or talk to her all summer so it was easy to not think about her. Now that I am back in school I see her sometimes when I'm with all my friends, and its like I'm back right back to when she dumped me. The worst part about it is that she got a new bf a week or two after dumping me. I know its best that the relationship is over, because we were getting sick of each other. And I know that she's moved on, and I'm pretty much over the fact that we will never get back together. The problem here is me moving on. I unfortunately still think about my last gf almost daily, and I want to know if anyone knows any tips or tricks to stop doing that. It's killing my new love life, because I still think about her. I've had opportunities with two women since school started- hell, I've even slept with one of them -but the next day I still think about my ex more than them and can't start developing a new relationship because of it. It's killing me here, because I'm a very pro-active guy, not only in my career, athletics, but my love life as well. This constantly thinking of her though is draining my confidence, even though the two new women I've been with were more attractive than she was. I have tried to ignore her, but we share the same friends, and she approaches me whenever she feels like she can get a private word in. She tells me she wants to be friends still, and doesn't want me to ignore her, but I told her I just wanted her out of my life. Is this the best way to get over her? I'm trying to cut her off but she's still going to be a part of my life because we share alot of the same friends. Like I said, I know its best that its over, that she's moved on, and I have already tried to cut it off so that I can move on - but I still think of her too much to be able to start new relationships. If someone can offer some advice here, it would be much appreciated.
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