brokenhearted29 Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Hi. I am new to this so bare with me. I have been married for 1 year and with my husband for 10 years. For the last 3 months my husband has not lived at home with me and the kids. He tells me all sorts of reasons but I dont beleive them. He comes home some days to see us and he calls me on the phone. He gives me majority of his paychecks still. He clamis he really loves me but just cant be here right now. I know there is another women (i wont get in the details on how I know, but I do) but he wont admit to it. I have asked him if he wants a divorce and he tells me know. I'm just so confused right now and lonely. He has really hurt me and somedays I dont know if I'm going to get through it. I dont know why I let him get to me. I guess he wants to stay gone but have me also. I just cant do that without really knowing where he is. I cry all the time. I hate being like this but what should I do. I dont want to divorce but whatelse can I do. I do know that the first few years of marriage is ruff but I shouldnt have to put up with this. Its now right at all. I dont understand why he waits for me to give myself to him and do this to me. In the past we have both cheated on each other but we decided to grow up and move on, obviously he didnt. I feel so stupid becasue I trusted him after all this. I married him!! Sorry just needed to get my frustration out. thanks for listening.
Zaira Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Honestly, I don't think you should have ever got married. You both cheated, and it appears you've used marriage to justify being together. It is obvious you still love him, but he doesn't deserve to have you in his life if he hasn't been home for 3 months!!!!!!!!!!! He's having his cake and eating it too, and you're letting him. You're destroying yourself. Give him an ultimatum. Come home or get out of your lives for good.
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