HeyYouGuys Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 so typical for an alcoholic....to BLAME their partner for their drinking! RUN...RUN..RUn away from this man! I'm sure the thought of him destroying himself is very painful. But he is destroying your sense of self and dragging you down with him I think the debate about whether or not alcoholism is a 'disease' or not is moot. The point is that this codependent/enabling relationship is not healthy and the OP needs to remove herself from this situation to save her own sanity. Hopefully the bF will realize what he's lost and make a turn around. Maybe not. It is NOT your responsiblity, OP. He makes the choice to drink....every day.
luna999 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 things are still bad.. i told him where i stand and same old things happening today. yesterday was okay.. i felt as if maybe he took what i had said to heart.. but now today i know that he didn't believe i would leave. that he thinks i was just saying it to manipulate him or hurt him. it really hurts so much but i am tired of this.. really tired of it..and it makes it easier that he isn't even trying. he's more or less making the decision for me. it just hurts so much.. i feel so alone. even though we had some horrible times it was really great most of the time. i love him still and i feel so sick. i don't want to leave but i know that i have to.. i can't continue to endure this kind of treatment. i can't deal with constantly wondering about his safety and health and knowing there is absolutely nothing i can do for him. i am crying as i type this because i know i have to arrange to leave. i am not orginally from this town and i am quite young so i will most likely leave to go live with my mother. this means quitting my job and packing up all my things once again. i know i don't have any other choice right now.
shawn_68 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 Luna, Just wanted you to know that I was touched by your situation. I'm praying for you. -S
magichands Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 i am crying as i type this because i know i have to arrange to leave. Hey...things will get better. You have done everything you can - and you're just going to get dragged down even further if you don't get yourself away from this toxic situation. I'm so sorry that he is indifferent. You deserve so much more.
D-Lish Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 You just have to do something healthy for yourself at this point. If that means packing up and moving home- you should do it. It's tough- leaving someone you love. But it doesn't sound like this person can make you happy as he currently is. Good luck, Keep posting and let us know how you get along. D
Tormented Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Luna, How old are you, and how old is he? There's a reason I ask this, because your ages will determine the advice/comments I will offer. How long has he been drinking? What is the longest time span he's gone without drinking? ~T~
luna999 Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 we are both 23 years old. i don't know how long he has been drinking but i suppose since high school.. not as heavilly the whole time of course. As for longest time span since I've been with him probably a month or so. Since he started i'm not sure probably a couple months. Thanks
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