Vanquish Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 So i figure hey this girl dumped me im done with her for good i said what i said and left it at that. But is there anyone else out there that has it in they're head that its a game that they know they can win? I feel weird because after all i do love this girl but i feel like i have to prove to myself its possible to win an ex back against all odds. Don't ask me why i feel this way but i do, maybe its because i know she screwed up and i want to get even with her by getting back together and then hurting her im not sure. I know thats not the best intention especially for me because honestly im a nice guy but some part of my heart wants to prove myself that anything is possible in this reality. So how about it? Anyone out there have this determination only in a very accurate successful light? I suppose you'd have to be in the exact situation im in as the dumped person who fought for this girl with all his heart to understand why i want to prove myself and reality wrong. I'm stickin with NC and being my casual old crazy self, but a part of me wants to win her back when i see her even though i know its in my best interest to be neutral and try to forget the past. So anyone else ever feel the same way? I dunno maybe its a stage of denial.
shawn_68 Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 But is there anyone else out there that has it in they're head that its a game that they know they can win? I feel weird because after all i do love this girl but i feel like i have to prove to myself its possible to win an ex back against all odds... After I was dumped I made it a mission in life to "win" her back. Afterall, I was still in love with her, we ended on pretty good terms, and heck, I was a good guy to her throughout. I thought I had a great chance. So, I let time work it's magic and became friendly again towards her. I pretended to be indifferent all the while showing her attention and affection. It became a project. A project that I lossed. She never wanted to get back. And so I was left months later with the same confusion, hurt, and feeling of rejection. I lived through the breakup all over again. I've since decided to never attemp this again. I am now a firm believer in cutting all ties. I've experienced enough of the hurt to learn a valuable lesson. When a breakup is over ... it's over for me. I vow never again to try to win someone back. It just isn't worth the pain or effort. Hopefully you'll have better luck. But I wouldn't hold my breath. -S
Ariadne Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Hi, I feel like i have to prove to myself its possible to win an ex back against all odds. Don't ask me why i feel this way but i do. I feel somewhat like that... Not in the sense that you can conquer them back, because they know what they want and there's not much I can say to change that. They made their decision. But I do have this confusion about, how could this happen? Why? How can I feel all these things, of it being so absolutely perfect, when he doesn't? So I still hope, against all odds, that one day we'll be together (while the questions remain unanswered). It's a silly hope that I have that might change with time, Ariadne
Ruff Ryder Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Whats up mate. Can I be honest with you. First of all I won my ex back 2 months after we split up but it didnt work so I left it then again 4 months later and that only ended about June - July this year. The question here is why did I want to "win" her back? It wanst her I wanted back it was the felling I had inside me when with my loved one. I think on the other hand human nature wants what it cant have. Its human thats why every boy wants a fast sports car and every girl the ideal romance. We want things that we cant really have. But there is a flip side to this. You have had her now go get something better. It doesnt matter if you WIN with her or not the best possible revenge you could possibly have is to show her, you and the world that you have moved on to bigger better things. She will still be doing the same old routine and you will be living the high life. Thats what Im doing. Have a nice house a super fast sports car "lotus" and im seeing a lovley model. She is living with her new man cause she cant afford to live by herself and just to rub it in she is still driving the same car she had before. When I met her I didnt have a car and when we split up I had a 1983 mini. Now I drive a lotus and she has to see it once a week with me in it in traffic as she lives down the road for me. Now thats how im getting my own back and its not to hurt her in fact I should thank her she hurt me so bad that all I did was work and its paying off for me now. Just live your life and have fun doing it mate. Oh and all her friends tell her how well Im doing as I gym at a gym one of them works at. So Its not about revenge its about living. Keep your head held high all the feelings will fade to grey at some point.
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