scobro Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Where did you meet your last or currentboyfriend/girlfriend/wife /husband etc.I am beginning to think meeting women is a myth, just don't seem to meet anyone new who i find attractive so just need some peoples feedback.
Sally00 Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 I met my first bf in a game of HALO online. I met my second through a friend (the guy was his cousin). I met my current one through friends almost 2 years ago. Love will come once you stop trying to look for it.
fishtaco Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Last girl that I hung out with (as in group setting) that I'm attracted to I met through salsa events (but not sure if she's interested in me) - her father, whom I've met on several occasions, brought her along. I'm currently testing the waters to see if I can get a date out of her. Step one... get my friends to distract her dad (i.e. drag him on to the dance floor) so I can have some time with her. Last girl that I met that was interested in me was at a friend's house party. Unfortunately I'm not interested in her. She's my friend's co-worker. Before that I met a girl at another friend's party. We hit it off pretty well. Hung out with her a second time at another group setting two weeks later. She seems interested in going on a date, but it hasn't happened yet. All three of these women I met for the first time this month. So once you have your social network built up, it's not difficult to meet women. But of course meeting them is the easy part. Finding the right one and doing the right things to get her is the hard part. My most recent ex girlfriend I met her at a club, but we were in the same "group" since we were both invited by mutual friends to go. It wasn't a setup, but we just hit it off really well. In fact I was going to go play hockey that night, then my friend gave me crap about not going out with her, and I ended up scrapping my hockey plans and met this girl that became my girlfriend for 2 years.
Values Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 My last long term gf I met cause she lived nearby. Soon after first seeing each other we started "conveniently" running into each other outside. It took awhile but one thing eventually led to another with her. Since we split earlier this year I am meeting NOBODY! I set my life and work situation up to marry her, so in doing so I put myself in a non-social environment that I'm stuck in now. Four of my friends are married and two of them don't ever do anything fun, so I'm out of luck with my social scene. I do think it is true that you need to be a part of some social circles and live/work in the right environment. In response to your other thread on online dating, I've tried that. I know a lot of people who have used it. All differenty types of people too, both male and female. I went on two dates from it that I was not interested in continuing with that girl. I also talked to one crazy girl on the phone and ended that quickly, and was hoping to get in the sack with a hot girl from a dating site recently, but it went nowhere. Most of the girls on there are not attractive to me, and the ones that I like, I've had some luck with, but there is no substitute for real face to face meetings. Overall the online thing has been a bust, and I'm not even trying to get anything wonderful out of it. Advice: Never arrange your life around a lying, cheating, piece of trash, no matter what they tell you. Always try to maintain and create new, quality social connections.
superconductor Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I had a first date tonight with a girl that contacted me through an online site. She's yummy, too. A good evening, with plans for a second meeting late next week.
Sally00 Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I do think it is true that you need to be a part of some social circles and live/work in the right environment. I'm glad my bf and I have the same circle of friends. She's yummy, too. LOL yummy.
Author scobro Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 I'm glad my bf and I have the same circle of friends. Until you break-up:p
alphamale Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I am beginning to think meeting women is a myth, just don't seem to meet anyone new who i find attractive so just need some peoples feedback. dude...if you can't meet chicks in Toronto then you may as well throw in the towel
Sally00 Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I'm glad my bf and I have the same circle of friends. Until you break-up:p Wow........ thanks dude. [That's highly unlikely. We plan on getting married after college.]
lovebug76 Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I totally agree with you!! Sorry I can't give you an answer but I really can't seem to find any man worth my time. They all want to play games or jump into bed the first night. Very frustrating
Author scobro Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 Wow........ thanks dude. [That's highly unlikely. We plan on getting married after college.] Yes and nobody breaks up once they get married:rolleyes:
Author scobro Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 dude...if you can't meet chicks in Toronto then you may as well throw in the towel *sound of a towel landing*
lovebug76 Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 maybe i need to move to canada.....you sound like a good guy to me
lovestruck234 Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I'm very lucky in this aspect seeing as my lovely bf is my neighbour...BoyNextDoor sort of scenario...friends for years then decided we loved each other...lol Previous bf's...in different places. Some random places, some not so random. I had a drummer bf whom I met at one of his gigs, other bf's some through friends, at parties, at surf comps, motorbike rides... You just have to get out there, I guess. I was out there doing things with no intentions of finding a guy. I was just having fun. Love comes when you least expect it, TRUST ME! And sometimes when you need it most. I was going through a bit of a bad time in my life when I got with my current bf and he has lifted me up in every way a person can be lifted up. Like I said, I'm just lucky, I think. I haven't had tonnes of bf's, and have gone through stages of being single for years on end. I wouldn't worry too much. Go and do things that you like to do, and you may just find a lucky lady there who is into the same sort of stuff as you! Good luck! Keep us updated!
Pyro Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Where did you meet your last or currentboyfriend/girlfriend/wife /husband etc.I am beginning to think meeting women is a myth, just don't seem to meet anyone new who i find attractive so just need some peoples feedback. Most of the women I have dated in the past, I have met through friends, through school, or just being out and about. I met my current SO at a bar. Yes, believe it or not, you can meet decent people at a bar. Meeting women is not a myth. It just happens when you are not thinking about it.
dreaming4ever Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Hmmm let's see....met first and second boyfriend at a summer job and my last boyfriend through a set-up by a friend who talked to him and realized he and I would have a lot in common. I have the same problem as you though......I don't meet anyone. Maybe I'm picky because I don't want to date or be with any guy who is only interested in sex or who drinks a lot/does drugs but that seems to be the only type of guy out there at my age. I'm not really looking for anyone at this moment as my ex and I just broke up 5 days ago but I know that once I'm ready to date it will be impossible to find anyone nice. Blah......I think for now I'll just go drown myself in the covers of my bed and curse relationships for a while.
Walk Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I seem to meet my LTR SO's at coffee shops. Not the yuppie ones though. But the ones started by a local resident who is trying to eek a living out of being his own boss. All the rest were through group organizations. One through work. And one was a friend of my brothers. I really have the best luck in finding someone I'm interested in when I'm in the frame of mind of just being interested in the person, but not thinking of it in terms of "relationship potential". Just as a unique individual who I find interesting. Doesn't really matter where I go at that point... but my frame of mind. And a sincere effort to talk and listen to others. (I'm introverted so I usually don't talk to people much.)
Walk Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 [That's highly unlikely (breaking up). We plan on getting married after college.] Sally has an interesting way to look at relationships. I never looked at marriage as the "save all" for relationships. I always assumed I wouldn't break up because I put a hell of a lot of effort into ensuring my SO's needs and wants are satisfied. I ask a lot of questions regarding things I can do to make the relationship better, and what he'd like...etc. Seems Sally has more of a mentality that "marriage" ensures the well-being of your relationship. It's not just a symbol for the effort put in to a relationship, one single step in a long line of them to ensure a healthy and happy relationship. It seems the real reason for her great relationship is that golden moment of marriage. Interesting... The blissful naivete of youth... Almost inspiring in it's steadfastness.
SmoochieFace Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Where did you meet your last or currentboyfriend/girlfriend/wife /husband etc. Met my current GF online. She lives out of state. I am beginning to think meeting women is a myth, just don't seem to meet anyone new who i find attractive so just need some peoples feedback. I agree. Meeting women 'in person' is a joke. That's why I stick to online.
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