SweetMisery Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 This friend and I were talking and the subject of my b-day came up. He asked if I was having a party to celebrate. I told him I wasn't going to do anything, and he was all well I'll give you a b-day present. The thing is I am turning 25 and I don't feel like making it a big deal. So I don't want him to think that he's obligated to do something for me, but I asked him what he had in mind. He said that I have to come up with something creative for him to do for me for my b-day. When I asked what my options were he got silent. He would not answer me and there was just dead air on the phone, so finally I got frusterated and he said well just think of something and I'll say yes or no. My question for him was why do I have to come up with something when it's my b-day and again all I got was dead air again. Is this a common things for guys to do? Girls would you rather a guy think of something to do for your b-day? Like I said my b-day isn't a big deal to me it's just I have been freaking out a little about it because it made me realize my 20's are almost over and it's time to get more serious in life. Like last year all he and I did for each other was just send each other an email saying happy b-day since our b-days are two weeks apart. It's not uncommon though for him to tell me that I should come up with something for us to do when we hang out, but as far as me coming up with something for my own b-day isn't that just a little weird?
superconductor Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 By all means, tell him. It's not weird in the least; in fact, it's good because he's not fumbling around trying to find something that you may like, and you get what you wanted. There's no downside to it. Men aren't blessed - or cursed - with that shopping area of the brain.
Cheshire Cat Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 It's not uncommon though for him to tell me that I should come up with something for us to do when we hang out, but as far as me coming up with something for my own b-day isn't that just a little weird? I actually think it's a smart thing to do. I'd love it if my friends told me what they'd like to get for their birthdays - or gave me hints about what they'd like me to do for them. Ideally I should surprise them by doing the right thing, but my mindreading skills are far from perfect (I'm working on them though). Your friend is actually a smart guy - he asked you for ideas about something creative he could do - so he gets to do the right thing (that is, if you cooperate a bit) and surprise you (with creativity)! Oh, just to state the obvious - he sounds interested. Unless he just cares so much for *all* special people in his life. In both cases, he sounds like a keeper!
norajane Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 What's the big deal? Just tell him you'd like to go on a picnic (even if it's just in the living room!) so he can get all creative with food and wine and picnic blankets and whatnot, or tell him you'd like to do something you've never done before, like go-cart racing or whatever. Have fun and enjoy your birthday - there's no need to turn this in a psycho-drama.
filiasan Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 By all means, tell him! Guys don't like to guess, and it's a brain-racking job to try to figure out what someone else likes. I'm like this, myself. When I had to get a present for my sister, using my own so-called intuition, it drove me up a wall. And after I purchased the gift, I worried off-and-on whether or not she would like it. Just tell him. It'll put his mind at ease (I'm sure).
Author SweetMisery Posted September 27, 2006 Author Posted September 27, 2006 I have a question. Today is my birthday. My friend that wants me to tell him what I want seems to have forgotten that today is my b-day. He just brought it up Friday. But I got no email or call just to say happy b-day what's up with that? Maybe something came up, who knows.
Author SweetMisery Posted September 30, 2006 Author Posted September 30, 2006 He wrote: Subject Have a good birthday this year? How was it on the 26th? how does 25 feel? So if he remembered why did I not get an email then saying Happy B-day? Just kind of wondering.
Loserdude Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Maybe he was silent because he was thinking about something really cool and didn't want to give it away. Gifts should be from the heart, not from the mind of the other person. See what he does...
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