pricillia Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Hi everyone, Does anyone have any ideas on how to loose a MM in ten days. I know that this relationship is going to get the best of me if it has not already. I am to the point where I think about a future with him and I know that the liklihood of this happening is very slim. I am in love with him and care for him and would do anything for him, however I do not want to end up alone... any ideas on how to accomplish this... I am not going to betray him and let his wife know so that is out of the question...
BenThereDunThat Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Tell him you want to have his baby ... that should make him RUN! Sorry, couldn't resist. I wish I had the magic words for you. I know so much how you feel. I think you and I are a lot alike. You'll just have to get to that point where you can't take it anymore and then it gets easier. I think you're on the verge of that point, by your posts.
Author pricillia Posted September 24, 2006 Author Posted September 24, 2006 That is a good one, I am not sure that would work, he is the one bringing up having a baby, or maybe that would work. I have to think about this one.
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 I am in love with him and care for him and would do anything for him, however I do not want to end up alone... The thing is, you already are alone. He belongs to someone else. Here's my suggestion, for what it's worth. Send him an email that says: Dear __________, I have decided that I can no longer see you, for obvious reasons. I'm asking that you not contact me in any form or fashion and I will show you the same respect. I wish you the best. Sincerely, ____________ That's all you need to say. You owe him nothing further. I'll repeat, you owe him nothing further. Next, delete him from your address book, cell phone, etc. Put away any and all pictures, gifts and other reminders of him. Don't ask about him or check up on him in any way. Get yourself busy and get out there and mingle. Get a new hairdo, a new outfit, a new manicure, etc. and make yourself look and feel special. Make plans in advance with friends, family, etc. so that your calendar will always be filled. DO NOT reply to phone calls, text messages, etc. You've said good-bye at that point (hopefullly). Let it be. Treat yourself like you're a vital, important and respectable lady and in return you'll attract a man who treats you the same way. Treat yourself like worthless leftovers and that's the type of man you'll be sure to get.
Adunaphel Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Convince him that you are trouble. BTDT's advice of telling him you want a baby is a good one. Find other ways to scare him away. Ask him sounding as casual as possible where his wife works. Mention that you have financial problems. Mention that your wife sounds like a nice person, that if you weren't in an affair with him she's exactly the kind of person you'd like to get to know better. Talk about your future together (as if you were married). Leave lipstick smears on his shirt, drop an earring in his car. (if you don't want him to get caught, make sure he sees them first) Start calling him from an anonymous number and hanging up. ...he'll be running like hell away from you.
Island Girl Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Follow BenThereDunTaht's advice. Honesty is the best policy. Tell him you don't want to see him again by e-mail (so there can't be a conversation that may sway you and keep you in this 3 ring circus). Block him from sending you an e-mail, change your phone number if you have to, and don't talk to him at all. Just drop it. Drop all of it once and for all. Then move on and do things for yourself and figure out what exactly you want out of a relationship and hold anyone you want to get involved with to that standard. For me, I heard about problems with baby's momma drama so I mad it a rule -- no one with kids. Then, wouldn't have to deal with that. Relationships all have their ups and downs but a basic rule should be find someone that will deall with the problems with you standing by you just between the two of you. You deserve someone who loves you and can build a future with you. Good luck.
stoopid_guy Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 You ladies are EVIL!!! :lmao: Tell him about those "funny bumps," but assure him it's nothing... Stop bathing and/or brushing your teeth. Let the hair grow out.
alphamale Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 any ideas on how to accomplish this... yes, start dating men who are single.
Adunaphel Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 You ladies are EVIL!!! :lmao: Tell him about those "funny bumps," but assure him it's nothing... Stop bathing and/or brushing your teeth. Let the hair grow out. Unfortunately this has nothing to do with evilness. It's about making sure that even if we have a 'weak' moment they'll stay the **** away from us! All it took to scare my MM away for a few months was mentioning casually his wife by initials (I was not supposed to know her name and expecially her surname) and making a reference to her star sign. Anyway letting the hair grow out is a *great*suggestion for when you might see them in person. I did it myself once in march - did not shave my legs and bikini area for a couple of weeks, enough to look repulsive and a sure fire way to keep my pants on.
fanou22 Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Here is what you do: Suppose you start today.... Day 1: Get up real early take a long shower and wear the best thing you have for work. Make sure to apply some make-up too. You want to look your best. This way once you get to work and everyone starts telling how nice you look today....you empower yourself with the feeling of being highly desirable. Do not go home early. Stay as late as you can. If you have to go home and have no one to hang out with...think of what could you not to think about MM Day 2: Repeat Day 1. Ask some co-workers to go out for drinks. If you feel that you don't have the energy....make the energy. Drink a red bull, take some energy pill. Whatever it is do not be by yourself. Day 3: MM would have attempted to contact you in some way so make sure u tell him you have been hanging out with some new friends. Do not attempt to make him jealous. Stay mysterious. Day 4: If it is too much to do (making yourself beautiful), take a day off and go do something totally uncharacteritic of yourself. Maybe sign up for some sky diving. Anything that could give you an adrenaline rush. I am sure by day number 4 some SG would have asked you out. Day 5: if any SG asked you out. Go out and have some fun. You don't have to come home early. If you have children, make sure someone could take care of them while you are out. Be bold. reach for what you want give the SG a chance. If there are no SG, then go out with some of you girlfriends, have them pick a guy for you at bar and buy him a drink. I am sure you will get his attention and who knows what might be in store the rest of the night for you. Day 6: Go out again. Paint your place if you have to keep your mind off of MM. Drive out of town. Whatever you do do not attempt to contact MM. I can do 6 days....I am not sure what to do the rest of the days. One thing I know for sure and I hope my words help you out. MM does not make your happiness, you are the one who can make it happen. If you really want to leave him, look for that strength that you don't think you....It is there u simply haven't noticed it yet. Always remember to smile. When people see that they have a tendancy to want what is making you happy. A sunny smile and a happy face are a sure recipe for honey to the bees (bees being available men) Each one of us gets over things differently. For me it was the power trip knowing how upset he would get that I don't have time to pine for him and be there for him whenever he wanted. He never did have to decide, I made the decision for him and I left. I always cherish him in a certain way, but I know he will never be the man for me.
stoopid_guy Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Unfortunately this has nothing to do with evilness. I understand, and meant it as a compliment.
BenThereDunThat Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Excellent post, Fanou. Great tips for getting over ANY break-up!
will2power Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Tell him that you are in love with him and that he needs to make a choice between you or his W. Tell him he cannot have it both ways. Then follow fanou22's advice on how to get over a breakup.
Author pricillia Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 yes, start dating men who are single. Thanks Alpha Male, That is what I thought I was doing with this man, but I found out otherwise... That is my plan...
Author pricillia Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 fanu22 Thanks this is great advice, I need all the help I can get. I have also been job searching and am having some luck this will make it easier for me not to see him everyday as we work in the same building. He knows how to reach me when it is not my cell phone, if he calls the business phone I have to answer. I am going to take your advice. Yesterday I did not call him he called me and he was upset that I did not call him all day... I wish you could all listen to the message.
Author pricillia Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 You ladies are EVIL!!! :lmao: Tell him about those "funny bumps," but assure him it's nothing... Stop bathing and/or brushing your teeth. Let the hair grow out. Stop bathing and/or brushing your teeth, ahhh I love my showers, just call me greedy!!! Let the hair grow out... funny I trim and he gets all upset, never met a man who like longer hair but he does... maybe I will shave it all off... freak him out... he he:lmao:
Author pricillia Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 Convince him that you are trouble. BTDT's advice of telling him you want a baby is a good one. Find other ways to scare him away. Ask him sounding as casual as possible where his wife works. Mention that you have financial problems. Mention that your wife sounds like a nice person, that if you weren't in an affair with him she's exactly the kind of person you'd like to get to know better. Talk about your future together (as if you were married). Leave lipstick smears on his shirt, drop an earring in his car. (if you don't want him to get caught, make sure he sees them first) Start calling him from an anonymous number and hanging up. ...he'll be running like hell away from you. Yes he will run if I do the above things, I don't want to be a crazy woman in this scenario...
will2power Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 maybe I will shave it all off... freak him out... he he:lmao: lol. For some reason, while I think it may freak him out, I don't think he'll break up with your for that.
GreenEyedLady Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 P: No way would he break up with you and I doubt it would freak him out...he'd probably love it...I suggest waxing over shaving though...
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