XMizer Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Me and this girl went to a museum. It ended pretty quickly, so we didn't to walk around the area and go to a coffeeshop. We ran out of things to do. Even though I really enjoyed her company, she was bored and wanted to go back home. I asked her if she wanted to meet again. She said sure. I asked her where would she recommend. She recommended a theme park. So I'm confused right now. If she was into me, wouldn't she still want to stay a little longer? What's puzzling me is that she's willing to go to a theme park with me a few weeks later.
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Hmmm, I don't know. Maybe she was having an off day or maybe she really wasn't all that into you and just agreed to a second date to be polite. Wait and see how things go at the theme park. If she bails on the date (has an "emergency" come up, gets "sick," or has to change the date) then you should take that as a major hint that she's not interested. If she does end up going and acts bored again, don't bother with her. She sounds like a dud.
Cheshire Cat Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Is she aware you are interested in her? If so, perhaps she still hasn't made her mind up about you. Perhaps on your first date (was it a real date?) she was having a bad day - or had a headache. Perhaps she likes theme parks. Like Jane Doe said, see how things go next time.
Author XMizer Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 Nobody can give me more insight?
littlekitty Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Nobody can give me more insight? Not really just from the info you've provided so far! Well someone might be able to, but I don't think there's much you can read from this! Perhaps the museum wasn't her thing and she wasn't interested in prolonging the date that particular time. Since she agreed to a second date it looks hopeful. But until that one is arranged and gone on, it's a little hard to tell you how much, or if she is interested. If she cancels the second date, then you have a clear answer. Otherwise the other day might just have been an off day.
fishtaco Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Maybe she likes theme parks, especially when everything is paid for by someone else.
Author XMizer Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 I am not going to pay for her admission to the theme park. I didn't even pay for her admission to the museum nor the lunch and the coffee that we had. She perfectly understands that.
Author XMizer Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 We tried to prolong the date already by going to have coffee and walking around, checking the shops around. But afterwards, we had nothing to do. I tried to offer alternate possibilities, such as going to the zoo and some other places, but she simply just wasn't interested. I was enjoying every second of her company, whether we did anything or not. That is why, when she wanted to leave, I took it as a sign that she didn't want to be with me.
Yamaha Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Me and this girl went to a museum. It ended pretty quickly, so we didn't to walk around the area and go to a coffee shop. We ran out of things to do. Even though I really enjoyed her company, she was bored and wanted to go back home. I asked her if she wanted to meet again. She said sure. I asked her where would she recommend. She recommended a theme park. So I'm confused right now. If she was into me, wouldn't she still want to stay a little longer? What's puzzling me is that she's willing to go to a theme park with me a few weeks later. I don't understand why YOU would want a second date with her. If she acted bored and wanted to go home I would have took her home and never contacted her again. Maybe the 2 of you just didn't click. She must be hot for you to want to see her again. News flash. Not all women have fun personalities, even hot ones. Find a girl who's attractive AND fun.
Author XMizer Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 We have a confusing relationship. I have known this girl briefly before the date, so it's not just some girl that I met and wanted to date. I really like this girl that's why I want a second date with her. I admit....she does look good but that's not the only reason why I like her.
dgiirl Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Maybe she's confused on your intentions? Are you sure it was a date? Were you just friends before? Maybe she wasnt feeling very well and wanted to go home. Noone can tell you for sure if she's interested except her! You can get an idea tho if she continues to go out with you
Author XMizer Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 We were friends before but like I said, the situation is quite complicated. We were friends but we were not very good friends. The first time I asked her out, it was 13 days after I met her. She came out with me but I had no idea she had a bf at that time. She has since then broken up with him and we contact each other by email once every few months. I'm not sure if I'm put in the friends zone because everytime I spend with her, our friends are not around. It is just me and her.
Jeepwranglrchick Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 first dates are sometimes awkward give it another chance...
Author XMizer Posted September 26, 2006 Author Posted September 26, 2006 To make things more confusing....when I would tell a joke, she would laugh. I don't think she was giving off those fake polite laughs (or smiles). So I thought that somewhat she was enjoying my company until she hit me with the bomb (wanting to go back home).
littlekitty Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I think perhaps you're over analysing a bit here. Just try to relax and see how it goes. No-one except her can explain why she left early, or tell you if she's interested. Set about getting the next date arranged and just chill out a bit and see what happens huh?
Island Girl Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 I am not going to pay for her admission to the theme park. I didn't even pay for her admission to the museum nor the lunch and the coffee that we had. She perfectly understands that. It wasn't a date. --- If you are worried about being in the Friendzone this is a surefire way to help add to the mystery. If a guy asks me out, and it is a date, he pays. Call me old fashioned. You treated her like a pal in my opinion or, if she knew it was a date, you may have come off as cheap. --- The way you wrote what I quoted above that really may be the case. How are you sure "she perfectly understand that"? She may like you and want to go to the theme park to have fun. Or be unsure about you and want to spend more time with you to figure out how she feels. It is tough to tell without more info. FYI -- if it was me, you'd be out as far as boyfriend material.
Author XMizer Posted September 27, 2006 Author Posted September 27, 2006 If it was just dinner, I would've paid for it...in fact, when we weren't dating, I have paid for her dinner on several occassions. But admission to museums and theme parks isn't cheap and if she expects me to dish out money for her, I think she might be a gold digger then.
fishtaco Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Don't worry XMizer, you're just being smart. It's virtually impossible to differentiate between an "old fashioned girl" like Island Girl vs. a woman that's just using you for free food and drinks. You're just keeping an eye open to protect yourself. There are all types of women out there. Some are "old fashioned", some are not. Your choice which type of women to go after.
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