Guest Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 I have been the OW for about 2 months now to my ex boyfriend of five years to his ex..who is now his current girlfriend. He has been telling me he doesnt see a future with her and that he wants to be with me. Since she lives two hours away he never had the courage to tell her while she was at his house because he said shes afraid she might cry on the road or something and he said telling her on the phone is immature. He told me he is going to see her tonight and talk to her about the relationship, he said he will break up with her. SInce she lives two hours away he feels like he needs to sleep over because he is exhausted from work and does not know when their talk will end, should i be mad he is sleepin there? i mean couldnt he just tell her and leave? So while he was on his way there i talked to him on the phone, i guess you can say i was nagging him a little by this point reminding him that he is going there to break up with her. I asked him for the 5th time " so your going there to break up with her" and he said yes he will try? try!?? i dont get it...i dont know how it came from yes i will break up with her to ill try, he says he doesnt like that fact that im reminding him..what do you think he means by this>? or am im getting manipulated into thinkin he will actually break up with her?
stillhere Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 I'm thinking exactly what you are. He has no intentions of breaking up with her and he's just telling you that to get you off his back. Maybe he is going to, but i'm sure it's depending on the way she treats him when he gets there, otherwise, my guess is that he has no plans to break it off. I'm not good with this NC stuff, but you're best bet would be to apply it in this situation. Let him see that he can't have both of you, that he HAS to make a choice. If she lives 2 hours away, you think it would be easier for him, since he doesn't see her on a daily basis. At least it would be easier for me, but i don't know him. I wish you luck, he's playing the both of you and you don't deserve that. I'm not really one to talk, my MM just left, but he's M and our situation is a little different........you're guy is only dating this other girl. He has no reasons that are keeping him where he is.
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 He has been telling me he doesnt see a future with her and that he wants to be with me. If that were indeed true, you wouldn't be talking about this in the future tense. It would have already happened. Since she lives two hours away he never had the courage to tell her while she was at his house because he said shes afraid she might cry on the road or something and he said telling her on the phone is immature. But cheating on her is mature? Come on! SInce she lives two hours away he feels like he needs to sleep over because he is exhausted from work and does not know when their talk will end I laughed out loud when I read this one. I know you don't actually believe this. You were intelligent enough and articulate enough to type out your topic. Surely you know this is a crock and he's sleeping over to sleep with her. He could break up with her in a matter of 5 minutes. He's not even a good liar. i mean couldnt he just tell her and leave? Uh, yeah. He's already cheating on her with you. Why the sudden respect of breaking up in person? or am im getting manipulated into thinkin he will actually break up with her? That would be my guess. My instincts tell me he'll continue stringing both of you along. I hope you don't mind sharing. If you do, lose this guy's number. You're being playing for a fool.
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