Meaplus3 Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 I have been around here for awhile now. Got involoved in a E/A with a MM, I am married aswell he is my neighbor. We progressed into a slight physical affair without actually having sex. We end up hugging and touching every so often and we have continued to talk. I was the one who started this, infact he has never called me not even once, I always call him. After about 6 months of the affair my feelings grew stronger and stronger for him. I told him that I love him in July. I am not certain it's real love but it sure feels like it. He does love his wife. I love my husband but not in the way I used to and I am kind of sure a divorce for me might be best, however I just can't leave right now, due to my lifestlye and our three children. In some way's I want to continue this A with MM, but I know he won't let the sex part happen and that's what I want. I feel like he has been using me as a visual aid to create a better sex life between him and his wife. Ok, so back to how to get him out of my mind and heart when he lives next door to me! And don't say MOVE cause that can't happen right now! what would you do? AP:eek:
GreenEyedLady Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 If you feel that you can't leave due to your lifestyle (which is?), you should try MC. If you truly feel that you need to end your M, I would make a plan on how to get out and go from there...If you are just worried about the kids, they WILL ADJUST...IC would probably help... Ok, what would I do...well I already did it...my exh was gay...it took me a long time to see it...i made my plan because I had two babies and no job...but I was in school...it took me two years (which seemed like a lifetime) but I finally did it... my family is one that doesn't divorce, so it was hard for me...especially that I am a high achiever and it was hard to fail at something so important...but in the end I didn't want to give my kids a bad example of what M is...I had a good example (they've been happy for 34 years) and I thought my children deserved more... This is hard for you to probably hear...but if you want sex from someone you love, it seems like you should end both and get what you really want... How to get him out of your heart and mind? It just takes time...and eventually, you'll probably be done with him...anyways, i am in no position to preach...Just be good to yourself...SEE WHERE YOU WANT TO GO AND GO THERE!!! I am a believer that IF YOU CAN IMAGINE IT, YOU CAN ACHIEVE IT!!! Sometimes there's just speedbumps along the way...
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