dazednconfuzed Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 My gf and I have been involved in a long-distance relationship for six months. The sex has been wonderful, and up until recently, I felt we were a good match. But we went on a 7-day trip together and discovered that things aren't peachy keen. She thinks I'm immature and doesn't understand, or appreciate, my sense of humor. She doesn't like how I dance (because I don't know how to salsa.) And here's the kicker ... Because I'm playful, she is embarrassed to introduce me to her business-like friends. I think she takes things way too seriously, but what do you think. Is my relationship doomed???
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 The fact it's long distance, makes it safe, and the few days you are together or are in contact through emails or phone BOTH of you want to be happy and stuff...Now, you've spent alot of time one on one which neither of you are used to, the reality of life has set in...Really getting to know eachother, bad habits, irritations and all. She is who she is, and you are who you are. One cannot change the base of their personalities - Though you both can compromise and learn to put up with the little annoying things about eachother. Depends on how much you like her and want it to work - And same goes for her. It isn't doomed but maybe the honeymoon stage of the relationship is over, and now is the test to see if you two can mesh and make it work.
Author dazednconfuzed Posted October 12, 2006 Author Posted October 12, 2006 My gf and I had a talk. We talked about our disastrous vacation ... and I told her that we had some obstacles to overcome, personality conflicts, distance, etc. I asked her if she still loved me and was willing to work with me to "mesh" and to overcome these obstacles. She told me that her feelings had changed ... She cares for me deeply, but doesn't love me. She told me she couldn't see herself with me a year from now. I told her that I still loved her, but I couldn't save the relationship without her giving 100%. So we kissed goodbye and parted ways. A few days have passed and she is telling me that she misses me terribly ... she's confused and it's confusing me. When she text messages me, I answer her politely. After all, we have been together for nearly 7 months and to ignore her would just be wrong. I still love this girl with all my heart, but I don't see any hope for us. Is there any way a situation like this could be turned around or should I just cut my losses and move on?
Guest Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 Why would you want to go back? Because she misses you? It sounds to me like you never really had much of a solid relationship which you can go and rebuild. 7 months of long distance, only seeing each other for a few days at a time is not really even a long term relationship. And now she's playing games with you? Move on buddy.
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