Guest Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 I was the OW in a marriage that was pretty much over, every way but legally. He filed, the divorce went through, he and I lived together for awhile, I got pregnant, and we ended up getting married. I thought our story would have a happy ending but instead I find myself filing for divorce after only four years. At the time of our affair I thought that he was a good guy in a bad situation. I found out by stumbling onto a secret e-mail account two months ago, that he isn't the man I thought he was. Aside from a couple of one night stands with women he met online, my husband had been having an affair with a close friend of ours. He tells me things ended and I believe him but I know he didn't end the affair because of me but because she was trying to get him to cut off contact with our kids... this is what I don't understand. She really pushed the issue. She kept telling him that all he really needed to do is send a check and that my kids are young enough that they would forget him after a little while and it wouldn't make a difference if he wasn't around. I can't understand how another mother could try and keep a father from his kids. He was going to leave me to be with her (I think) until she started this crazy BS. I want revenge on this woman so bad. I hate that she could do this to my kids when she knows them and used to be around them nearly every day. Hurting me is one thing and is quite bad enough considering I have done so much for her over the years, but why would she want to deliberately hurt my kids? I can't seem to move past this. What kind of person would do such a thing?
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 Your husband obviously has lied to you about what happened with his first wife. A man who easily cheats SO many times and continually fools his wives, you and his ex, (I'm sure now you're questioning ALL that he told you about his first wife?? I hope so, cuz if I were in your shoes, I would be!) just shows the type of person HE is. The fact he may be listening to his new OW, just shows again, what type of man he is. She wants him and is doing ALL necessary to prevent him from going back to you or being around his children. She is probably cut from the same cloth as him. SCUM. She obviously too, isn't thinking of your children at all, because any time spent with them, is time she isn't with your soon to be ex husband. Talk to your lawyer about these issues too. Don't try to figure her out, she was never your friend to begin with...She used you, and by her actions just shows she's very selfish and a cruel person. The thing is, IS he actually listening to her? If he does, HE is the fool.
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