amu2005 Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Why do you lose your erection during sex? The guy that I have been seeing now for a few months....we've had great sex and I just don't understand. I know that he is embarrassed about it. But I can't help but feel that it has something to do with me. He tells me no, that it is him and not me in any way, but I have a hard time believing him. I think he spent more time appologizing to me and consoling me because I thought it had something to do with me. I know that he feels awful about it and embarrassed. But we've had great sex many times before this. Why did this happen now? Has this happened to anyone else. Any advice would be appreciated. We haven't really talked about it since and haven't had sex since it happened about 3 days ago.
whichwayisup Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 It's not about you. He's stressed about something and that's probably what it really is. Relax and both of you take a break from sex for abit. Enjoy eachother's company, go out and do things together. Trust me, if it was about you - I think he wouldn't wanna spend any time with you, so don't worry so much. Believe him, k. You not taking him for his word is probably making it worse as well.
Author amu2005 Posted September 22, 2006 Author Posted September 22, 2006 okay. But I'm trying to figure out what he is so stressed about and that makes me think that it has something to do with me. I will try and relax. What should I say or do to make him feel better about the situation? I don't really want to bring it up now because it happened a few days ago and don't want to embarras him anymore. I have a lot of insecurity issues and that is why I though it was me. He later told me that I was the best he has ever had and wasn't just saying that. That is definitely nice to hear!
Zankon Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 I don't usually talk to my guy friends about sex so I wouldn't know if we can generalize here but as far as I m concerned, I lost my erection once because I really wasn't into it (because of work load and stress) and my GF kept asking for it too many times... so we had to stop in the middle of it. Another time it happened because honestly I wasn't physically attarcted to her so during sex I thought "what the hell am I doing?" that shut mini-me right away. Other than stress and physical attraction, I never ever lost my erection. But be careful, it could really be an issue he's suffering from... u know like those who suffer from premature ejaculation etc
moman Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Well at least I know my GF isn't posting since it's been longer than 3 days for us Seriously though, I have lost quite a few erections. Primary cause is because I don't like the girl, sometimes I would get too nervous and have a partial ejaculation right away, and other times it was just because I was upset about something. You should just talk to him, tell him that it's OK, you will support him, and don't take it personally. I lost it the first time my ex and I slept together. You can imagine the thoughts going through her head - she thought I didn't like her, that she wasn't any good, etc. In truth I was so nervous because I wanted her so bad I just blew it instantly. RELAX.
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