texastapper Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Okay here is my last thread, just to update.. I just met this girl about 2 weeks ago, and her and I talked every day the first week about 10 times a day on the phone. Then this past weekend I invited her to come up and hang out at my lake house, where a couple buddies and myself were going to be. Well she came up on Saturday with one of her friends and her and I hit it off like no other.. We had the best time ever... We joked around, teased one another, kissed and hugged.. It was all around just fun.. So she has to leave early from the lake house to go to a wedding that evening, so I knew i wouldnt hear from her too much. Then on sunday I still dont hear anything from her so I give her a call and leave her a couple of messages. I finally get a text message from her at like 1:45 in the morning saying she is fine, just had a busy weekend etc, she tells me that she will call me tomorrow on her way to Austin, where she has a job interview. So the day goes on and I hear nothing from her.. I knew she was going to be in the car for a while, so I decided to call her.. She finally answers and is kind of dry on the phone. I kind of got the mixed signals from her.. We talked for a short bit and then she let me go.. About 2 hours later I had a question I had to ask her so I called her back.. She was in a better mood and we talked for about 15 minutes.. I asked her if she would call me later and she was like definitely... I never heard from her at all. I sent her a text message wishing her luck in her interview, and never got any response... Am I being over kill with her or something. I mean, all I am trying to do is get to know this person, which usually involves talking to them. But my friends tell me its just a game and that she must like me if she drove all the way out to see me. What should I do, just lay off and not call her? I've gone all day today without calling her, and its been hard.. I'm in that stage where you just want to be gitty with the person and learn everything imaginable about them, but at the same time I dont want to scare her off.. Help me here, Is this just a game or am I just totally being nieve and getting blown off??? Okay so I took the advice from a lot of you not to call this person for a couple days. Well today being the third day without hearing from her, I gave her a call. Of course only to get her voicemail. I left her a message simple stating, Hi, I havent heard from you in a little while so I just wanted to be sure that you are okay, please give me a call when you have a second. Now this was at 11 o'clock this morning and I have not heard a thing back from her, so I called her again this evening, only to get voicemail again, and I didnt leave a message. What the hell am I supposed to think here. This is just way too weird, this girl told my buddy she liked me, and we had an awesome time together.. why no calls, why is she not answering.. Is this some game or something?? Should I email her or text message her, and see if I get any response that way? What should I do??? Any help is so appreciated..
moman Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Yes that is part of the game. In that situation I'd probably be silent for a while. if she is curious she will call. Else, move on.
Walk Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Maybe her bf got home from his business trip.. j/k. Don't call her anymore. You had a great time, you have wonderful memories, but if you keep calling her she'll think you're a pathetic, desperate loser. I'm sorry she wasn't as interested in you as you were in her afterwards. Her life may have gotten too hectic at this time for her to feel like she wanted to pursue a relationship.. She may have decided that there were things about you she really didn't want in her life after she met you. She may have used you as an escape from her reality and now she no longer needs that escape. She should've been a big enough woman to tell you straight up what the hell is going on. But since she refuses, and is being juvenile about the situation, then all you can do at this point is move forward.
MadDog Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 I think you were too clingy (e.g. calling her 10 times a day) and it made her lose interest. It happens. Just make sure you don't make the same mistake with the next girl (this means you should cut your losses with this girl.)
Author texastapper Posted September 22, 2006 Author Posted September 22, 2006 I think you were too clingy (e.g. calling her 10 times a day) and it made her lose interest. It happens. Just make sure you don't make the same mistake with the next girl (this means you should cut your losses with this girl.) It wasnt just myself calling her 10 times a day, that was a mix of both of us calling each other, but either way it's pretty strange her behavior now. especially after her telling my best friend how great a guy I am, and how excited she was that she met me. There is a million scenarios that have run through my head, and I think I have gotten wrapped up in her way too early. I havent had that gittiness with someone in a long time, so I think with having that, made me want to be around her even more.. Kind of the since of urgency running through your mind, trying to figure it all out.. Flat out sucks, people can be so cold hearted.....
Values Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Here's my take on it having sort of been there before. Guys are simple. We like good things, we enjoy feeling good. We will do what we can to our lives, surroundings, etc. to feel good as much as possible. We find a girl who makes us feel good and we see her and a possible relationship as nothing more than that. Just an opportunity to feel good and be good to someone else. A girl wants to feel good too, usually. But a girl's good feelings often come at someone else's expense. It's just the way they are. They expect to receive (some more than others). In their brains it's okay for them to use someone to feel good instead of trying to create a mutual good feeling that both can benefit from. It sounds like even if you stopped contacting her and she came back to you, that she would eventually mess you up worse later on. A lot of women (I hope not all of them) expect to be given everything and to be coddled without having to give back or without having to be honest and fair with anyone ever. Try to find someone else to make you feel good, cause this one's already making you feel bad. Her name didn't start with a "B" by any chance did it?
Author texastapper Posted September 22, 2006 Author Posted September 22, 2006 HAHA...No I guess I should say, "Fortunately, her name didnt Start with a "B"." Thats great insite though, and it's just amazing how much different men and woman are. I'm 27, and I feel like I am constantly on this rollercoaster ride of emotions with woman. You try your best not to let yourself get all wrapped up in someone, and before you know it you are! Sometimes sooner than you would ever expect, just like in this case here. I dont care what anyone says, everyone needs someone in their lives to fill that void in their heart. It's just how we have been made up. I guess in this case I was used to boost her spirits, and she got what she needed and now is on her way somewhere. But I am a true believer in Karma, and what goes around comes around. I will add this to one of lifes little lessons. Thanks a lot for your input!! Justin
Recommended Posts