I want to call

September 22, 2006

Well everyone pretty much knows what I am dealing with right now, but in case you have not read my other post " I want to die " this is a short virson..

I dated a guy for a year, he tells me that he is not falling in love with me and our realtionship will not go anywhere.

For some odd reason I fell in love with him and I miss him so much, I know this was not the best guy I could be with and I no I need to do the n/c thing..

I just need help.. I just want to hear his voice.. I am so scared he is going to forget about me..

September 23, 2006

Delete his telephone number, e-mail address, website address, etc...and if he gets in contact, refuse point blank to respond to his calls and messages. Why? Because he's in the past!

Next, have a look through your contacts and organise a night out with some friends - this will give you something to look forward to, as well as give you the opportunity to take your mind off the guy who's done you bad.

Then, when your pre-arranged night out arrives, get out there and look for someone who has the potential to love you more than "he" did!

If you fear he's going to forget about you, do yourself a huge favour and forget about "him" first, because obviously, "he's" not worth it!

See, who needs "his" voice when you've got the self-styled voice of reason, eh? (j/k)

September 23, 2006

Hey,

I want to call

Then call him!

What's the worst that could happen? (You'd die)

Ariadne

September 24, 2006

I just need help.. I just want to hear his voice.. I am so scared he is going to forget about me..

I think you should make a list of all the BAD things in this past relationship. All the hurtful things he did and said. Write them down. One by one.

When you feel the urge to call, read the list. Remember the hurt he put you through.

We are so inclined to dwell on all the positive things when a relationship has ended. As if this will never happen again. So our minds have a tendancy to get stuck.

The best way to get over someone is to get pissed -- and KNOW that you deserve better -- and will find it.

September 24, 2006

Hey,

I want to call

Then call him!

What's the worst that could happen? (You'd die)

Ariadne

Please don't listen to Ariadne, she doesn't know good advice when she sees it

Ariadne, if you read her other post, you'd know this guy was horrible to her and led her on and used her and treated her like crap - so NO, she should not call him. She deserves way better than to call him and have him back in her life. Obviously, she's not going to die if she did call him, but its not the right answer, he was horrible to her.

How are things Summer?

September 24, 2006

Well everyone pretty much knows what I am dealing with right now, but in case you have not read my other post " I want to die " this is a short virson..

I took the time to read some of your ealier posts. And I am sorry that you are hurting.

But I think it's also important to realize it was not the best decision to get involved with someone like this. He probably wanted you for sex and very little else. At some point, you should have realized this and dumped his sorry a**.

But you fell for him because he was a challenge for you. He was unattainable. And this is why you are still longing for him. You can't have him and so you want him MORE. You should understand how human nature works.

You have also stated that there are other guys that would love to go out with you and would treat you very well. And yet, you won't give them the time of day.

Maybe it's time to reevaluate your decisions in men. There are men who will treat you well. And probably they are all around.

I would use this cirumstance as a turning point. An awakening.

The choice is yours.

September 24, 2006

I am done with him, I don't want to call him, well I do, but I will not call him..

I know he moved on with his life, so I need to accept this.. I need to accept the fact that we are over and we will not be getting back together.

You are so correct when you say I want him more because he is a challange.. I know this.. I know I am hurting so much since my ego is bruised... But... I guess this is a fact of life..

My next realtionship I am going to live for me, and if he wants to be part of it great, but I will not give up my life so I can make him happy.. If I don't want to have sex because I am tired or something, then I will say no.. If he desides that he wants to be with another girl.. Well, then go.. I am done begging for men to love me.. You either take me how I am or don't.. I will never let a man walk on me again like this.. This is his loss, not mine! He had it made with me, hell, the guy could have his cake and eat it when he was with me..

I am beginning to see that he was not happy with me, since I was not a challange at all to him, I would do whatever he wanted me to do, at anytime.. A man does not like insecure woman, and thats what I was with him.. I was always so scared he was going to cheat on me again or he would give me another std..

Once he gave me a std, I should have walked away, but I did not, and from that point foward he knew he could have his way with me..

He does not want to be with me now, since I was no kind of challange to him..

He does not have to tell me that, thats just what I think.. It does not mean that he does not care about me, it just means that he does not want a doormatt, he wants a woman who can stand up for herself, and I am learning this now..

I want to stay single for awhile, as I need to get to know myself again.. When and if I am soppose to meet a good guy, then God will bring him to me..

September 24, 2006

Also, on Friday I sent him this e-mail.. I am glad I need.. I took a stand and I don't really care how he feels at this very second.. He is probable mad about this e-mail, but he deserves to know how I felt.. Read below..

[FONT=Comic Sans MS][sIZE=2][COLOR=#800080][FONT=Comic Sans MS][FONT=Arial][sIZE=2]I wish things were handled different as well.. I wish you would not have lead me on to believe that you actually wanted a serious relationship, but you did, and we can not change the past.. [/sIZE][/FONT]