britchick Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 I've never gone for looks, sense of humour is my first priority. A man that can make me laugh and is intelligent will make my knees go weak, although the men on this thread won't believe it! Never had a thing for men with money, although a lot of men will try to let you know they're loaded thinking it will get them somewhere - now that's a turn off.
phyrespryte Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 This is just your own personal opinion ladies.. Do you believe that a good personality can make an ugly man appear to be more attractive than he actually is? Yes. I dated a hideous guy for 2 years, but he really knew how to talk. I was obsessed with another guy that had all kinds of negative things...i.e. 1. Crooked teeth with some discoloration 2. Balding 3. Hobbit feet 4. Stuttered 5. And he liked to wear camoflage shorts Despite all that I thought he was so hot because he was so funny. And I wasn't the only one who thought so. My roommate had a crush on him. Two of my classmates went after him. And one of my teachers is now dating him. And since girls talk...we all agreed that he wasn't attractive at all, but he was funny. But I don't think that this applies to all guys. I think if a guy is overweight he's going to have a harder time. I know a guy that's kind of overweight, but he's really handsome and funny...but no one really notices him. Oh and if the guy is dirty too. Like seriously smells bad...then he really has no chance.
britchick Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 I have to agree with the smelly comment, wouldn't like that. I would also like to add, I don't look like a bag of potatoes!!!
burning 4 revenge Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 Yep!!!! I don't know many funny guys.... But when I encounter a quirky, hilarious guy, regardless of how he looks, I just want to rip his clothes off :D Didn't you say I always made you laugh before?
magichands Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 Didn't you say I always made you laugh before? You go for it, buddy. My clothes deserve much more respectful treatment (hypothetically speaking, of course). Anyway, spontaneous is a very dangerous word...some would even say impulsive.
Pink Amulet Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 Didn't you say I always made you laugh before? :lmao: Talk about painting yourself in to a corner. Despite all that I thought he was so hot because he was so funny. And I wasn't the only one who thought so. There is just something about funny guys!!! I haven't encountered one (in real life) for such a long time
Guest Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 Ok first of all I wanna say that I'm not a sack of potatoes. I often get told by complete strangers that I'm beautiful. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. His not the most attractive of the males I know but I am so unbelieveably attracted to him. Whenever I see him i wanna rip his clothes off and I don't see that changing any time soon. We just click. My boyfriend has said before that us going out is like the girly movies where the geeky guy gets the pretty girl and I honestly don't believe him. He is wonderful. The males I know who are hot, yeah they can be funny and nice and flirty but when it comes to relationships they are *******s. They will do anything and everything to get a girl into bed and they are the cheaters. I would never date one of my hot male friends because I know I'll only get hurt. A great personality and sense of humor can make you more attractive but I think another way to make yourself more attractive is when you meet girls don't meet them with the intension of getting laid cause us women arn't stupid we see straight through that. But meet them with the attention of building a relationship with them. Don't go rushing out trying to meet a girl and think that all that matters is the first impression. If your not the most attractive guy in the world then yeah you'll probably have to meet them a few times for them to get to know you and for the two of you to click. Be a bit more patient when you meet a girl, let them get to know you before you try something on them and you'll be successful.
skimmy Posted September 25, 2006 Posted September 25, 2006 I think I need clarification on ugly...personality makes up for looks if he does whatever is in his control to improve his appearance, like normal grooming, etc. I think most women, or at least for me, want decent looking men, at least not painful to look at. Like someone else said, hot guys are nice eye candy, but not necessarily relationship material. That's where personality and sense of humor come in. Is it the same for men?
Meg_77 Posted September 26, 2006 Posted September 26, 2006 yeah - i agree. skimmy has pointed out a great opportunity for the ladies to find out what the guys think about this. does a good personality compensate for good looks? what do the guys think about this from their point of view? i'm waiting in anticipation...... *tapping foot*.... guys?????
filiasan Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Well of course. Women look for more in a partner than men do. Seeing beyond the flesh is one of the positive things about that.
MsArtful Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Yes, Definetly. Just as jerks can appear more unnattractive.
littlekitty Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 A funny and good personality can make someone appear more attractive. However, I need the physical attraction as well personally, so it wouldn't make me go for someone I didn't find attractive. Sorry!
gemmab2020 Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 I think a good personality can make someone grow on you. I keep talking to my internet guy... but he's lovely! I have been chatting to him ont he phone/net for almost a year and he's amazing! I have never met him before (only 23 days to go until I do!!), but basically, I don;t even think I CARE what he looks like now!!! He has the most amazing personality and he really makes me laugh. I really don;t think physical looks are going to be that important to me when we meet. Besides, if I had seen him in a bar I probably would have said no (he's sbalding on top and that would have turned me off totally), but now I have spent so much time getting to know his personality without having looks to go on, I think he's perfect! I really hope I don't get proven wrong with this by the time we meet each other... but I firmly believe that his looks won't make any differene to me.
hopeto Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 just to let you know that when you are the perfect guy, that is emotional and that is considerate and always is in tune with the other first then yourself you will be suprised what you will find. why waste you time with someone that is shallow, non into you and that is not there for you mind and emotional.... I love the fact that when I meet people I see the first reaction. first impressions are lasting and I will tell you I will right you off in a flash if you are shallow. I dont care if you are the best looking man on the planet!!! I see wiht my heart and not with my eyes.
Picking_thru_Garbage Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 You meet a beautiful woman, you don't have the courage to make a move on her, but you become "friends". You spend the next several months (or years!) of your life obsessing about this woman, pining for her from a distance, never having the courage to even touch her hand. Occasionally, you'll get a friendly hug or a friendly peck on the cheek, and you will pathetically crave and need these displays of affection, which for her are nothing but friendly overtures, but for you are the tip of some *imaginary* iceberg of lust and sexual furor. You won't be able to approach other women either because you've convinced yourself that you're supposed to be with this one woman, and it's better to be her "friend" than nothing at all to her. So you'll be alone, just you and your right hand, and the misery will build, the frustration will grow, until it is unbearable. So you decide you MUST do something. Anything! You agonize over it for days, going over every possible permutation of the conversation in your head. You can't sleep at night because you keep running through what you are going to say. Finally, over an otherwise totally innocent cup of coffee, you decide to broach the subject. You casually mention that you think the two of you would be better as a couple. Oh, you think you're being so suave and subtle, don't you? But she laughs, because she thinks you're joking, since to her it's so blatantly obvious the two of you could never be more than friends. This breaks your carefully constructed facade (because all of the scenarios you ran through in your twisted, obsessive mind never ended with her rejecting you; that wasn't even a possibility in your consideration). It puts you on the defensive -- you have to rebuild your little fantasy, so you start listing the reasons why you are right for each other and explaining how deeply you feel about her, not noticing the look of horror growing on her face as she realizes that the deepest thing about you is your set of deep-seated psychological problems. Directly as possible she puts you in your place and beats a hasty retreat outta there. You, of course, are crushed and hate yourself for being so stupid as to tell her how you really feel. Now you don't even have her as a friend, she's totally out of your life. So you immediately plan to regain her friendship...because "it's better to have her as a friend than not at all." You call her or meet her, and totally lie and debase yourself. "Oh, silly me, it was just a crazy idea, I've been lonely, but I'm all over it now, I really couldn't bear to lose your friendship, blah blah blah." She, of course, accepts you back as a friend because she enjoys having you around to give her rides home and go to coffee or movies with between boyfriends. You, of course, are back to jerking off three times a day and living in misery. Somewhere in the distance, though, you can hear a voice. If you strain, you can make it out . . . listen . . . it's saying something to you . . . it's saying something . . . it's saying . . . "Welcome, young sir. Welcome to Hell."
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