RyTom21 Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 This is just your own personal opinion ladies.. Do you believe that a good personality can make an ugly man appear to be more attractive than he actually is?
Sally00 Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 OF COURSE. Looks are NOT everything. They can only last so long. Personality is what lasts. And that is more important to me.
pricillia Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Yes that is true, for me when I get to know someone and I find qualities I like, that makes him more attractive to me. But bottom line he needs to be clean cut, no drugs ect ect...
RecordProducer Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 This is just your own personal opinion ladies.. Do you believe that a good personality can make an ugly man appear to be more attractive than he actually is? ABSOLUTELY! And vice versa - a lousy personality can make someone seem ugly in my eyes. Personally, I prefer people with average to cute appearence and great personality to hot guys with great personality - I would feel very insecure around someone who is perfect and desired by every woman on earth.
rainfall Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Yep I agree with this. There have been times when I meet someone a guy or a girl and after getting to know them my opinon on how they look chnages for the better/worse depending on how they act.
magichands Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Do you believe that a good personality can make an ugly man appear to be more attractive than he actually is? Right...and that's exactly why you should never allow yourself to be sucked in by an ugly man's persona!
Pink Amulet Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Yep!!!! I don't know many funny guys.... But when I encounter a quirky, hilarious guy, regardless of how he looks, I just want to rip his clothes off :D
TheSilentType Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 RyTom21...I don't mean to rain down on the advice given by the women above. But I don't quite believe them and feel they are sugarcoating the ugly truth. Physical attraction is often the first gateway to getting another person's attention. If you meet the other person's criteria...chances are they will give you the time of day. But if you don't meet it, then even if you have a good personality, you may not really get a chance to prove yourself to the other person. The only situation that I can think of where a good personality can help you get into the good graces of another person is when you know that person for a long time and meet them often. But if you are meeting someone for just a short period of time (such as at a bar), looks may play a more decisive factor; so even if you are funny and have a good personality, that may not make you attractive enough in such a situation. Don't mean to be harsh. Just telling it how it is. By the way, I didn't want to comment on your picture since you asked ladies for comments, but maybe you can get a more sleeker haircut or style your hair differently....your hair looks unkempt and doesn't fit your face.
Pink Amulet Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 RyTom21...I don't mean to rain down on the advice given by the women above. But I don't quite believe them and feel they are sugarcoating the ugly truth. Physical attraction is often the first gateway to getting another person's attention. If you meet the other person's criteria...chances are they will give you the time of day. But if you don't meet it, then even if you have a good personality, you may not really get a chance to prove yourself to the other person. The only situation that I can think of where a good personality can help you get into the good graces of another person is when you know that person for a long time and meet them often. But if you are meeting someone for just a short period of time (such as at a bar), looks may play a more decisive factor; so even if you are funny and have a good personality, that may not make you attractive enough in such a situation. Don't mean to be harsh. Just telling it how it is. By the way, I didn't want to comment on your picture since you asked ladies for comments, but maybe you can get a more sleeker haircut or style your hair differently....your hair looks unkempt and doesn't fit your face. In response to all that. Yes this is true, but not what he asked. Reread the original question. Where is his picture?
luvkitties Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Pink, It's in the thread entitled "HOT or NOT" ~Lori
RecordProducer Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 RyTom21...I don't mean to rain down on the advice given by the women above. But I don't quite believe them and feel they are sugarcoating the ugly truth. Silent, I don't want to get into any deep men-vs.-women type of conversation, but I think men are more visual than women. And despite that fact, many people of both gender are enormously in love with somebody who is not that good-looking (often not even a good person ). Look at the couples around you, are they always good-looking? Most of them are not model types, but have success in love. I personally am NOT attracted to men who look like that could pose for a fashion magazine. I have never been with anyone who would take women's breath away just by showing up (and men consider me pretty). Charm, sense of humor, self-confidence, intelligence, education, and a good heart are what I have always been looking for. I am not saying I could be with someone who is physically ugly in my eyes. But if someone is OK-looking and has all the rest, he is the winner.
noclobber Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 RyTom, Don't believe any of those replies by the women. That's what they will tell. It's so nice to hear. But remember that that's not what they do. What a woman says and what a woman does are two different things. They will yap about personality but if you ask them out they will say "Sorry... I don't feel like kissing you". Yup that's right, if a woman doesn't feel like kissing you the game is over, right there. All the personality in the world will not save you. But also remember that they won't admit it. I know that I will get a lot of fire for my blanket statements about women but I don't give a sh*t! Ok ladies now come on and gang up against me -- NC
noclobber Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Charm, sense of humor, self-confidence, intelligence, education, and a good heart are what I have always been looking for. Please tell me you are joking RP
Toni_no12002 Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 If someone makes me laugh i seem to find them more attractive. I mean if didnt think someones particularily attractive and i was talking to them and they was funny i probably would find them more attractive because they have other good qualities.
mental_traveller Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 On behalf of my fat, ugly, funny & friendly friend: yes, you can definitely get action with personality alone. You just get more if you have my rugged good looks as well
RecordProducer Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Please tell me you are joking RP Ok, I was joking. All my guys were models... And my husband is 49, but he looks 22. Sure I wouldn't be with someone who looks like Deni de Vito, but he shouldn't look at a girl like me either. (Modesty is my middle name... did I ever tell you that? )
Pink Amulet Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 F*ck I hate men. The two of you cynical male posters better have rock hard abs, and rock star looks to make up for your sh*tty attitudes
Values Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 F*ck I hate men. The two of you cynical male posters better have rock hard abs, and rock star looks to make up for your sh*tty attitudes Pink, could I interest you by saying I AM a rock star. Although my profile info says I'm an American on the east coast, I'm really the drummer in an Australian pop-rock band. My real name is Dingo Starr.
Meg_77 Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 In my experience I have had 2 long term relationships that came from people who I originally was not attracted to by looks at all. Before I got to know them I would never have even taken a second look. It was their personality that stood out for me. But then - that is what is important to me. I can't imagine I am on my own here when I say that guys I have ended up going out with have not all started with how he looks. I guess there are particualr physical things I like about a man - I guess I have ideals but the only time I have ever been with what I once thought was my ideal man (physically speaking) - he turned out to be a ****. (Choose your own word!). And I watched over the years how girls swoon over him - and I laugh because I feel I know what he is REALLY like. But how many women have actually ended up with their 'type'?
Values Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 My ex had a sister who was BEAUTIFUL. I was never attracted to her, because she was my gf's sister and I am a one woman man, but I could not ignore the fact that the sister was a classic beauty. Long hair, perfect skin, big round ass and perfect sized chest. Anyway the sister was a Class A, Grade A, Primo #1 BITCH. Probably the most outwardly selfish person I've ever met. (My gf turned out to be just as bad.) Point of all this is, the sister had a bf of about 5 years and dumped him to get with this well-off much more business successful guy. This guy was your typical try 2 be alpha male and was fat and just goofy looking. Balding, big gut, kind of looked like Jim Nabors around the time of the Stroker Ace movies. The only reason the hot sister got with Mr. ChubbyJerk was for his money and local notoriety, and I guess she is attracted to bossy *******s. They got married and he's cheated on her a couple times already. In my opinion men are sight oriented and like beauty first, women notice looks first too, but can ignore looks depending on the size of the wallet in his back pocket. And yes sometimes for decent girls the size of the man's heart makes a difference.
SoCalCatman72 Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 There's a reason "Beauty and the Beast" is still such a popular fairy tale for children. Maybe we as adults are trying to teach our children that it's not what's on the outside that really matters.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Don't believe any of those replies by the women. That's what they will tell. It's so nice to hear. But remember that that's not what they do. What a woman says and what a woman does are two different things. They will yap about personality but if you ask them out they will say "Sorry... I don't feel like kissing you". Yup that's right, if a woman doesn't feel like kissing you the game is over, right there. All the personality in the world will not save you. But also remember that they won't admit it. -- NC Haha! NC, you have definitely wisened up! I am a woman, and I definitely do not agree with many of the women who posted something like "most definitely". Women are going to pay attention to how men look, unless they, themselves, look like a bag of potatoes. So, if the OP is aiming for a 7 and above - well, he'd better look that way too, OR, he could compensate it with a good income! In my experience, the 'attractive behaviors', such as confidence, humility, intelligence, and etc. are almost always found in good looking men. Ugly men - or men who let their bodies go - would not bother with 'refining' their behaviors. Sorry, ugly guys. That's been my experience.
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