He said the "L" word, but did he mean it?

[skimmy]

I've been seeing this guy for three weeks, and I think there's definite potential for something long term. Today we had our first phone conversation (he lives about 5 blocks from me so when we're not talking face to face, which is often, we email or text each other), because I was having an emotional day and needed to tell him about it, and at the very end of the conversation, as a farewell, I think he said "Love you." But I think he might have said that out of force of habit...do I ask him about it or do I let it slide? We haven't even had any serious relationship discussions yet.

[whichwayisup]

But I think he might have said that out of force of habit...

 

What exactly does this mean?

 

3 weeks isn't very long and to say I love you so soon would make ME wonder too.

 

It is possible that you misheard him, or maybe he did say it, as support.

 

I would let it slide and not bring it up - For now. See how things are in the upcoming days.

 

Next time you talk to him though, tell him you appreciate his support, and listening to you when you had that bad day.

[Art_Critic]

I think he slipped..

 

I had a GF say that she loved me on our 3rd date.. She was going to the restroom in a movie theater and she just said.. I love you..

She didn't mean it and it was a slip up..

 

I was from that day forward able to joke with her about the fact that she said I love you first

[Sally00]

LET IT SLIDE.

Especiallyyyyy if you think he said it accidentally.

And also since it's only been 3 weeks.

 

If you bring it up, he will probably feel really awkward and uncomfortable about it if he did it on accident.

 

Now if he did it on purpose, you will know because he will say "I love you" again and show it in his actions.

[Sand&Water]

Skimmy,

 

It is early in the relationship. It has, only, been three weeks. Don't get too excited. Allow him to gradually decide when to take it to the next level.

 

I think he said "Love you" as an alternative to "Good Bye". [Although, it hints to 'potential']

Sand&Water

[superconductor]

Jaayzuz...

 

First, you wimmenfolk get all upset when a guy doesn't say it. Then you get all bent out of shape when a guy does say it.

 

Willya make up yer mind? sheesh...

[pricillia]

LET IT SLIDE.

Especiallyyyyy if you think he said it accidentally.

And also since it's only been 3 weeks.

 

If you bring it up, he will probably feel really awkward and uncomfortable about it if he did it on accident.

 

Now if he did it on purpose, you will know because he will say "I love you" again and show it in his actions.

 

 

yes I agree. take the relationship slow let it simmer for a little while.

 

and what ever you do, don't have a "relationship talk" that will just ruin it all.

 

Just enjoy him

[david616098]

Just take it easy and enjoy the time you are having with each other if its meant to happen then it will happen

[mental_traveller]

Yeah I think it was just said offhand as a farewell. Obviously it didn't mean anything. Stop getting your knickers in a twist woman!

[chrisy484]

the same thing happened to me awhile back. it was some guy i was talking to on the internet and we talked on the phone for a few weeks and a few times i could of sworn he said "love you" as the conversation was ending, but i never was sure b/c he would say it muffled or really fast. i think its just some guys way of saying bye. you could even confront this on him if you think you hear it again, just act like you didn't hear what he said and ask him to repeat himself and see what he says. play dumb lol that might work. then you can see where hes coming from, now if he says hes in love with you then i might be a little worried lol. good luck.

[skimmy]

Yeah, I'm letting it slide, thanks for the advice