fjk82 Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Such a long story I dont even know where to begin..I was with him for 4years we had moved down to Florida together from PA 2 yrs ago..We were doing great but last November his father asked him if we could both move back for him to take over the family business..I didn't want to go at all but it was such an amazing oppturnity he had to take it..I stayed in FL for almost 5months with him BEGGING me to hurry and get back to PA. We never broke up at that point we were still together but for some reason i couldn't bring myself to go back there i hated it there.. well i finally went in march..i only stayed for a month..i went up there with a negative outlook and i couldnt snap myself out of it..i decided on a wim to move back to FL and to leave him...i had been telling him that i was thinking of this but could never bring myself to offially say its over and he did not want me to leave AT ALL.. i was not sure of myself 100% but i did it..there was no goodbye..i got my stuff and left..it was the biggest mistake ive made in my entire life..i had the best man that loved me more then anything in this world and i blew it. i made a mistake i am human..well he does not talk to me right now this happend easter weekend and then in june his mother died...he wont speak to me wont answer my calls etc. he sometimes emails me but it never says much at allll..he is very aware that i want to get back together but when it first happend he said that is not what he wants..he had told me before i left that if i left there was no getting back together..i should have known better i just tho9ught if u love someone so so much like i know he did how can u not try again...well im going up to PA on Tuesday to visit family and i want to drive the 3 hours to his house and see him and talk..i mentioned to him that i was going to be there the end of sept thru a voice mail and email and he wrote me back the next day and said NOTHING about my visit..i just sent him another email (bc i never wrote him back to the other one) and i said again that ill be flyin into PA tuesday the 26th and i was goin to drive to his town on wednesday the 27th and to meet me at 7PM at this diner by his house..i also told him in the email he didnt have to write me back and to please just be there..he read the email as of monday morning and so far he has not written me back so thats a good thing im guessing??? so i believe if he didnt want me there he would have said dont come ..please help me u guys..we had a great 4yrs..im human..people make mistakes..if this man loved me so so much how can he not talk to me at all..how can he not want to give it one more try..i know i broke his heart..i hurt him so bad..but all i want to do is fix that..i can not be without him..i cant...please help me i really need the advice...this man really did love me more then anything..he did everything to keep us together and im the one that broke it off..people make mistakes..please help me u guys..im goin there tuesday and i dont know what to do..i have not tried to call him sence labor day so thats a good thing for me..i did email his good friend about 2weeks ago and asked him his opinion and what he wrote back was not good..he said "i think right now you need to let him move on with his life and you need to move on with yours its goin to hurt for awhile but if its ment to be it will be you cant force it"..so im scared to death..i made a mistake.....i need all the advice i can get right now..im n tears all the time and i need him back n my life..help me..im really afraid that he wont email me back so i go and he wont be there...or if he does email me and tell me not to come..oor he does meet me there and tells me no..im really driving myself crazy with all of this bc im goin there tuesday and i know hes read my email sayin i was coming to see him and to meet me at that spot.. thank you n advance for your advice.. also i was speaking to his best friends wife and get this...(remember im in fl and hes in pa) im going to visit penn state where we went to college..well the 1 weekend that im there hes going to be there for the football game for the entire weekend!!! he lives 3hours from this town so i think its a really strange twist of fate that the 1 time im even n the state let alone the town hes goin to be there..out of the entire football season thats the one hes goin to..we are bound to run into one another...its a small town and im sure we will both be bar hoppin..please help me..i need hiim..
FolderWife Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Can you say "Obsessed"? You want the life you had together before you broke up. You will never have that with him again. Leave the poor boy alone. If you get some pride, he might want you back some day, but no one wants someone who's acting as pathetic as you are. I wouldn't put it past him to make out with another chick to hurt you, so you'll give him a break. He loves you. Trust that, and back the heck off!
Author fjk82 Posted September 22, 2006 Author Posted September 22, 2006 why is it that people get back together all of the time..it takes work and some do get back to normal as before. they really do ive seen it myself folderwife..everyone is different...im just trying to have hope..
Kinger25 Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 I think the fact that his best friend told you to let him move on with his life at the moment may be an indicator as to how he is feeling. I dont think that you are going to get him back at the moment. At the end of the day if he loved you as much as you say he did then you were VERY hurtful and nasty to just walk out of his life like that without saying a word. You had been with him for 4 YEARS for christ sake, I can't believe you did that. Then again, as you said, we are only human and we do all make mistakes. I've made my fair share. Look, to put it bluntly, you need to leave him alone now. You need to move on with your own life and concentrate on making yourself happy. You have broken his trust by walking out on him like that and he would understandably be VERY Warey about taking you back after that. If he were to get back with you now, like the other poster said, it would NOT be the same and you would probably end up more depressed than you are now cause he wont be the same towards you as he was before. Love yourself first. You may get a chance again one day but its not now honey.
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