Icarus01 Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 I broke up with my ex girlfriend over a year ago and I think I still might love her. We met in France and dated for three years. It was complicated and in the beginning parts of it were long distance. She eventually came to live with me here in the United States. We were madly in love for those 2 3/4 of those three years. Its a feeling I still can't even describe to this day. The last few months in the relationship went down hill pretty badly, and we broke up. I joined the United States Marine Corps and she went back to Europe to live in Malta. I thought I had long gotten over her and I've dated since then, but time and time again I find myself coming back to what we shared together. Recently I've been asking myself "If it was as possible for us to get back together right away, would I do it?" I'm still not even sure how I feel about that. Its been over a year and I still haven't come to terms with myself apparently. I keep asking myself "Could I have done more to keep that love going? Or did I let something go?"
db75 Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 I broke up with my ex girlfriend over a year ago and I think I still might love her. We met in France and dated for three years. It was complicated and in the beginning parts of it were long distance. She eventually came to live with me here in the United States. We were madly in love for those 2 3/4 of those three years. Its a feeling I still can't even describe to this day. The last few months in the relationship went down hill pretty badly, and we broke up. I joined the United States Marine Corps and she went back to Europe to live in Malta. I thought I had long gotten over her and I've dated since then, but time and time again I find myself coming back to what we shared together. Recently I've been asking myself "If it was as possible for us to get back together right away, would I do it?" I'm still not even sure how I feel about that. Its been over a year and I still haven't come to terms with myself apparently. I keep asking myself "Could I have done more to keep that love going? Or did I let something go?" I'm going through something similar right now. All I can tell you is to keep pushing forward. Alot of what you're feeling right now is fear, even though you might not recognize it as fear. Basically you look back very fondly on those good times you shared and you fear that you'll never be that happy in your life again. So the natural inclination is to start thinking about that ex and wondering if you could somehow still fix it. While everyone's situation is different, it's unlikely you can fix it. Alot of time has passed and were you two to catch up, you'd find that you are both very different people now than you were then. The person you were and the person she was when you two were in love are both gone. Life and time changes us all. We can second guess ourselves to death, but the thing you've got to remember is that we all have to keep moving forward. There's no hope for any of us in the past, hope only exists in the future. Hang in there man. -db
MadDog Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 If things were really that good between you two, you'd still be together. You broke up for a reason. Those issues would still be there even if you got back together. That's why I don't believe you should ever get back with someone who you broke up with. It's wasted time.
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