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My fiance is twice my age and I am worried about how this is going to affect our baby when he gets older. If I had planned the pregnancy I would have taken into consideration our age difference. People sometimes comment and refer to him as the grandfather not knowing he is the father. What do we say to these people and is it going to bother our son having an older daddy?

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Simply tell them, "This is the child's father"

 

 

No further explanation needed.

 

 

If people are rude enough to comment on your age difference, simply tell them "I really don't see how this is any of your business"

 

 

Be firm, direct and assertive (without being rude, only be rude if people are rude to you first)

 

 

Your child will simply see his dad whenever he looks at him. He won't care about the age difference.

 

 

If you act like it's a perfectly normal thing and handle other people's comments with tact and calmness, your child will learn to handle things the same way.

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My Dad was 55 when I was born - the bonus is you get a stay at home parent later on if he retires. It is embarassing when you're a teen, but what teen isn't embarassed by their parents?

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My fiance is twice my age and I am worried about how this is going to affect our baby when he gets older. If I had planned the pregnancy I would have taken into consideration our age difference. People sometimes comment and refer to him as the grandfather not knowing he is the father. What do we say to these people and is it going to bother our son having an older daddy?

 

My Dad was 50 when I was born. He was the best father I could have wished for. He never once raised his voice to me, nor did he ever raise his hand against me. He taught me so much about life.

 

I am glad that he was so much older, even though he is terminally ill now. I am glad because he was pretty wild when he was young and probably wouldn't have been such a great father. Being old made him much more settled :laugh: and he had a great perspective on things. Things didn't bother him as much as they bothered my mom, because he had twice as much life experience under his belt.

 

WHen I was little people would mistake my Dad for my grandfather....but I was never embarassed. The only thing that embarassed me was the horrible red plaid jacket he used to wear to all important events. :laugh:

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"You must be his grandfather!"

 

"Thank you for seeing the wisdom in the face of my husband, but you are missing the twinkle in his eye. This is Little Joey's Father. He does have the even handed love of a Grandfather"

 

 

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BO--very cool post! THanks for sharing.

 

My mom was 40 when I was born (old back then) but she beat herself in the sun and looked a lot older. As a teen it was a bit embarassing and she did get mistook for my grandmother a bunch, but it was not unbearable by any means. Clothing will always embarass your kids. Hey, that is half the fun of being a parent!

 

But seriously, these May December relationships are much more common now along with interracial, cross cultural, inter faith, etc. I do not see where it will be an issue.

 

I look at kids every day and no matter how old, young, fat, skinny, ugly, pretty, smelly, rude, whatever----all they see is a loving mom or a loving dad. And really now, isn't that all that matters?

 

 

(Besides, you might get the life insurance proceeds a little earlier :))

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