billhere57 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Is there something in a woman's biology that makes them like men who treat them bad? What is it about jerks that women find so attractive? Is it confidence? What's your response?
Cheshire Cat Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Is there something in a woman's biology that makes them like men who treat them bad? What is it about jerks that women find so attractive? Is it confidence? What's your response? If women really liked jerks so much, the world would be a much better and safer place to the hopeless romantics - with the jerks all taken, and a lot of nice guys still single and available who can compete for the ladies on the same level of fairness. To answer your question, most jerks can be mistaken for nice but particularly charming nice guys at first. Ladies get to know them better only later, when they are already more or less blindly in love with them. Confidence also plays a part. Btw, asking why women like jerks aloud does not spell confidence. Here on LS you can do it safely, but never do it in front of a lady.
Rooster_DAR Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 The simple truth! because they are a challenge. That's all there is to it!
burning 4 revenge Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 In all fairness you've got to admit that a lot of guys like b*tches.
Pyro Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Is there something in a woman's biology that makes them like men who treat them bad? What is it about jerks that women find so attractive? Is it confidence? What's your response? The good thing is that a majority of women do not like jerks. I think that it has to do with the self-esteem. A jerk will diminish a womans self-esteem to the point that she thinks that she is so awful and that she is lucky to have him and that she would never meet any good guys.
UCFKevin Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Some women go after nice guys. Some women go after jerks. Why go after jerks? The lack of commitment necessary in a relationship. They go after someone they KNOW nothing will ever get serious with and they can walk away from it all when it becomes too much to deal with. Or, of course, the challenge aspect, but I think it's more of a protection thing. They're protecting themselves from falling for someone who might hurt them, so they just go after someone they KNOW is going to be a douche and that they KNOW nothing will ever go anywhere with him.
Pyro Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Some women go after nice guys. Some women go after jerks. Why go after jerks? The lack of commitment necessary in a relationship. They go after someone they KNOW nothing will ever get serious with and they can walk away from it all when it becomes too much to deal with. Or, of course, the challenge aspect, but I think it's more of a protection thing. They're protecting themselves from falling for someone who might hurt them, so they just go after someone they KNOW is going to be a douche and that they KNOW nothing will ever go anywhere with him. Very good points as well. Glad you were able to find your way back to the shack.
lovestruck234 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 I had a girl I went to school with who had a HORRIBLE boyfriend. He used to call her a sl*t if she talked other guys, made her ring him 3 times a day so he knew she wasn't cheating on him....he was just horrible. And she never seemed concerned about it. She would always ring him and be like "Hey beautiful, I miss you so much" blah blah blah... My friends and I used to tell her to dump the loser all the time but she kept saying "Aww, next time he starts a fight with me"...that fight would come around, go, then she'd say "Aw, next time..." URGH!! Anyway, she finally broke it off with him...yay. After a year and a half of torture. I believe she had low low self-esteem and he was a control freak. She even said to me once "If Mitch (bf) says that it's raining...it's raining even if it's sunny outside"... Everything he said, went. He was very controlling and some guys are just like that. As far as the girls go, I think they feel as though they should stay because they have a fear of loss. Loss of what, I don't know. But I think they think they can't escape. Maybe the guy threatens them if they leave? Who knows. I know I would never be silly enough to stay with a guy like that. And if I did and he started with all that crap, I'd quickly pull him into line!!
alphamale Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Is there something in a woman's biology that makes them like men who treat them bad? What is it about jerks that women find so attractive? Is it confidence? What's your response? jerks are masculine and confident. those are the two qualities that women are attracted to on a biological level.
pricillia Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Could it be that some women NOT ALL need someone in thier life that is aggressive and takes the lead. For me personally I am not attracted to a jerk, so I don't get women who are, if that is the case. I don't belive that women are attracted to men who are jerks because they are afraid of commitment... But there is someone for everyone... Maybe it is biology maybe it is inexperience... There is more than one side to a person Jerks included...
Guest Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 In my opinion I think it would be better to say - "Women also like Jerks". Saying that "Women like Jerks" sends the wrong message that women like ONLY jerks. There is a huge difference between the two statements. Everyday I see decent normal men with beautiful women coupled with them. On the same lines I have also seen a jerk with a gorgeous babe beside him. Why that girl chose to be with him is up to her. As Alphamale has mentioned she may be drawn to him because of his confidence and strength. A man does not have to be a jerk to exude those two qualities.... he just needs to be a man! -- noclobber
Rooster_DAR Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 jerks are masculine and confident. those are the two qualities that women are attracted to on a biological level. LOL You know, I always want to disagree with you alpha, but somehow everytime I read your responses I humorously agree to some extent. D'oh!
pricillia Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 I don't think jerks are masculine and confident at all, I think they are covering up for something that they are lacking... A confident smart woman, (not chick) see through this
Rooster_DAR Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Pricilla, you are absolutely correct. We were talking about another category of women, not the good women such as yourself.
alphamale Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 A confident smart woman, (not chick) see through this she may "see thru" it but she'll still be attracted to them and sleep with them.
Rooster_DAR Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 I don't think jerks are masculine and confident at all, I think they are covering up for something that they are lacking... Even so, is it not surmisable to assume that there are lot's of women who find this interesting, a challenge, and unpredictable? I mean lot's of women thrive on drama, excitement, and the unknown; so the dysfunctionality a jerk or bad boy present these kinds of opputunities. I know this because I was in a rock band for years, and back when I was an a**hole, I had women throwing themselves at me. Just a thought to ponder!
pricillia Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 she may "see thru" it but she'll still be attracted to them and sleep with them. Sometimes but not all the time. I guess it depends on which degree. For me I am attracted to confidence yes, but not someone who is an *******. I like a more subtle approach, I meet different men everyday and aggressive men turn me off when they try to hard... Just be yourself
pricillia Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Pricilla, you are absolutely correct. We were talking about another category of women, not the good women such as yourself. very well said;)
norajane Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 We believe true love will tame the beast. Of course, it doesn't. Not the real beasts, the ones that have no respect for women or for themselves. But, by the time a woman realizes he's a feral beast instead of a beast with a heart of gold, the damage has been done. I blame childhood fairy tales, romance novels and chick flicks for this phenomenon.
alphamale Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 I blame childhood fairy tales, romance novels and chick flicks for this phenomenon. don't forget to blame the mothers also.
magichands Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 don't forget to blame the mothers also. Did they "pop them out" too quickly? No breast feeding? What's the scoop?
Rooster_DAR Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 We believe true love will tame the beast. Of course, it doesn't. Not the real beasts, the ones that have no respect for women or for themselves. But, by the time a woman realizes he's a feral beast instead of a beast with a heart of gold, the damage has been done. I blame childhood fairy tales, romance novels and chick flicks for this phenomenon. This is so damn true. You forgot Hollywood as well.
lovestruck234 Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Sometimes but not all the time. I guess it depends on which degree. For me I am attracted to confidence yes, but not someone who is an *******. I like a more subtle approach, I meet different men everyday and aggressive men turn me off when they try to hard... Just be yourself Agreed. I hate guys who are that in love with themselves they automatically think they are some kind of God or something.... No offence Rooster DAR, but band members are the worse offenders. I went out with a guy who was a drummer in a band and I soon realised he was nothing but a self-obsessed bi-sexual! ...(not saying that you're a bi, but....he was pretty far up himself!!)
alphamale Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Did they "pop them out" too quickly? No breast feeding? What's the scoop? many moms fill their daughter's heads with fantasies of the knight in shining armour on a white horse, blah blah....and on the other side of the coin many moms tell thier sons to be "nice guys" and defer to women. both are falacies.
whichwayisup Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 I can't comment on yet again, another why women like jerks. So many threads about this.
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