Guest Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 My husband and I have been married for a little less than a year - and we dated for a year before we were married. Just lately, I've been having a very hard time having an orgasm with him. I've never had an orgasm through penetration in my entire life - therefore, before or after intercourse, either I play with myself while he touches me, or he rubs my clitoris to get me off. I've never ever had to fake an orgasm in my life with him - but lately it seems like it's all I'm doing. My sex drive isn't lost though. Sometimes I'll get really turned on in the shower, or while he's out and I'll take care of myself. It takes me seconds to get myself off alone. But it's starting to take nearly a half hour to get off with him - it used to be just 5 to 10 minutes. I try to close my eyes and think of things that will turn me on but that doesn't even help. In the past, I used to fantasize about him with other people (I'm not sure why this turned me - I would NEVER want to introduce another partner in our relationship). It would even get me off fantasizing about him with another man. I'm not sure what I can do anymore. This man is my best friend - our sex life just isn't the hottest. I tried to introduce porn into our relationship but he got upset because he knows I used porn with an ex of mine (my husband is an extremely jealous man). Any thoughts?
PWSX3 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 I would suggest reading the book His Needs, Her Needs. I am reading it right now and I have learned a lot of things I didn't know about the difference between men & woman and what they need when it comes to sex.
portableversion Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 tell him to go down on you. That works for most women. Most women don't climax during penetration. If he won't go down on you...then toss him. In fact, read Dan Savage's opinion on guys that won't 'go down'.
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