Online dating email

[Nomad]

For the ladies: Those of you who have tried online personals sites (such as EHarmony, Match, etc), what gets your attention most? If a guy sends you an email to start up an interaction, what are the best emails? What do you most like to hear? What kind of stuff creeps you out or turns you off?

[Sand&Water]

Nomad,

 

I have not tried, signed up, or engaged in any online personal sites. However, I'll throw in my $0.02 worth of thoughts.

 

I'm disgusted, when men have an e-mail etiquette of a 5 year old.

 

Example: "Whats up babe. how r u dawng? livin' it up the sub rbs. whatcha werin rit now." Ect.

 

Major turn off. And, don't turn it into a sexual game.

 

Have some self-respect, as well as respect towards potential daters [women].

 

Try: Look up e-mail etiquette. And, I think a few people on LS have guides to Online Dating.

 

Sand&Water

[Adunaphel]

For the ladies: Those of you who have tried online personals sites (such as EHarmony, Match, etc), what gets your attention most?

 

My experience with personals sites is very, very limited (I had enough of them after some 24 hours), but I already know quite well what would get me interested or make me decide I don't wish to communicate with a specific person.

 

e-mails that suggest that whoever sent them has something in common with me will catch my attention. If I like their style, I will write back.

 

If a guy sends you an email to start up an interaction, what are the best emails?

 

Keep it short and be yourself. Make sure your email does not sound like something you sent in multiple copies to a number of women.

 

What do you most like to hear?

 

Anything that will make me think "wow, this guy is/might be smart" or "he has/might have a lovely sense of humour/ unique style, I would like to try to understand what kind of guy he is".

 

What kind of stuff creeps you out or turns you off?

 

Boring emails.

Sexual references/inappropriate jokes.

People asking me what I look like on first (or second, or third) e-mail.

People asking me what I like to wear.

Comments like "I've seen your pic, you are pretty" or "I like your pic" on first email.

Chatspeak. Spelling or grammar errors, unless the guy is a foreigner.

Excessive flattery.

Guys saying or mentioning on first email that they are looking for true love, are really religious, were hurt by their exes, hate women, have problems making friends.

[gemmab2020]

I met my ex through an internet dating site... he sent me a lovely email. I had on my profile that I was Irish and he said about how he loved the Irish accent... asked me how my day had been and just said that he would like the chance to chat to me a bit more and get to know me a little better.

 

Theres nothing nicer than someone taking an interest in you!! (Sometimes wish now he had never taken an interest in me but that's another story!!) Lol!!

 

But just be nice, don;t be too cheesy and don't be sleazy!! That's a deff no-no!! Maybe once you get speaking, just speak casually about your day/your week, without putting too puch detail in!

 

I have to say sorry to all of you who read my posts, my fingers tend to do their own thing as I am typing and I know I type a lot of words back to front and leave letters out etc... sorry! I will try to use spellcheck in future!