Do you ever get over your fist love???

[Lovely_Girl]

I dated my first love off and on since i was 13 years old (I am 30 now). We last dated about 3 years ago- and it ended ugly - he left me for another woman - who he ended up marrying. I eventually forgave him - and we became casual friends again (like we had many times before) and I have since moved on. I have met the man I'm going to marry (he is the very best and i couldn't ask for a better mate), but for some reason my ex still haunts me.

 

We have recently lost contact but we had been friends in between our breakups with no problems. I still have dreams about him, and have periods where i think about him a lot. I don't consider myself to be still in love with him - and I know things would never work out with this man (nor would i want them to-we're obviously uncompatable as a long term couple!).

 

I am completely in love with my current partner - that's why it bothers me so much i can't get my ex out of my head. I don't know if i just miss the way he made me feel - maybe he reminded me of my youth...I don't know.

 

I know I should probably see a therapist before i get married- and don't have a problem doing so (been in therapy before!) - but i wondered if anyone else had this problem, and what they learned from it- or did about it. thanks

[Rx-8aby]

I havent get over my 1st love 6months ago broke up with me...Havent found my 2nd love..

[LakesideDream]

To answer your question honestly, No.

 

Like all kids, (most?) we drifted apart and married others. I remember my wedding day hoping my soon to be wife would love me like "she" did.

 

Twenty five years, and two raised children came the divorce.

 

And I'm still dreaming about The Lady by the Lake.

[Miss1984]

It's been two and a half years since I broke up with my first love and I've never stopped thinking about him, even though I've been out with someone since (which was, admittedly, a disaster). I never stopped thinking about my ex while I was with him and comparing my new partner to him.

 

We're not in contact now (my decision) but I still think about him- not in the sense of wanting him back or thinking we'll end up together, because I know we won't, but wondering if I'll ever feel like I did then again, wondering if I'll ever find someone I love so much I don't need to compare him to my ex or think about him anymore.

 

I've never been in love since him and never had a relationship like we had again, so I think thats part of it. But, we had our problems- otherwise we'd still be together, so I hope that when I find someone else who I fall in love with and find something that works better than what we had hopefully I'll stop thinking about him so much.

[Woggle]

My first love is in prison now but I would be lying to myself if I said there were not some good memories. I don't she was the same person back when we were teenagers that she turned into. It is really sad how it turned out but she did it to herself.

[Bogun]

Do you ever get over your fist love???

I can not answer this as I do not have a love of fisting.