electric_sheep Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Jealousy was somewhat of an issue in my current relationship when it first started, and now that it's gone I must say it never occured to me that I'd miss it. At first I was jealous over a few things ... my girlfriend still chatted with some of her ex's online, she used to talk about them far too much (and completely inexplicably she would tell me details about her sexual past). Then I discovered she had sent foot pictures to one of her online guy friends (who was a foot fetishist). This sent me nearly through the roof. All this culminated when she told me her last ex boyfriend had contacted her out of the blue. Some of her revelations about him (spurted out in an act of anger) had caused me considerable pychic harm. I could tell she was dying to get into a little tit-for-tat struggle with him, bragging about how well she was doing and her new boyfriend. Anyway, I more or less told her I didn't want her developing an online chat relationship with him. The odd thing I noticed about all this was I wasn't anywhere near as jealous as I would have been before. It's like my jealousy was sort of working it's way out. Now I'm hardly jealous about anything ... and, well, I sort of miss that feeling. I miss the jump in blood pressure and the light feeling you get in your heart. I miss the hot sex too, because for some reason all that jealousy sort of acted like an aphrodisiac for me ... stirring up my libido. It's almost like there is a side of me that wishes I would discover some new evidence she has been chatting with her ex. This is all very strange, but I think I liked not feeling so secure in my relationship. All this security can be a tad boring. What's next ?
Hevsent Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 NNOOOOO!!! Not FOOT pictures !!!! sorry....its 3 am and I'm feeling silly. Aside from my silly comment...I have nothing as far as advice for you....I'm sorry. I will say that you till need to find different ways of spicing up your sex life etc etc....Being jealous ..and MISSING it is not sounding like the healthiest way to an exciting existance. Maybe you could try role playing? But before that.... I honestly think you should explore what it is you really miss here.. Hev
catgirl1927 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Drama can be addictive. It honestly sounds like that's what you miss. The excitement rather than the emotion itself. I'm just guessing though, because while drama is exciting I personally hate feeling insecure and jealous.
Spectre Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 my question is why the hell is this chick sending foot photos to guys she knows have foot fetishes? Since she knows its a fetish, its almost equivalent to sending pics of her titties or something. I agree drama can be addictive, but dont let your love for jealously cause you to not notice red flags like that, no girl with a bf should be acting that way at all.
Author electric_sheep Posted September 20, 2006 Author Posted September 20, 2006 my question is why the hell is this chick sending foot photos to guys she knows have foot fetishes? Since she knows its a fetish, its almost equivalent to sending pics of her titties or something. I agree drama can be addictive, but dont let your love for jealously cause you to not notice red flags like that, no girl with a bf should be acting that way at all. No no, I agree, and I told her as much when I initially found out. In fact I completely flew off the handle for a day or two ... then I decided that ultimately it really didn't matter. I knew she was never going to actually meet this guy in person, and that she was just enjoying a little flirting. I think you guys are right though, I think it was the drama. Specifically drama + sex + jealousy. That's a powerful brew and can be quite addictive. Now things seem so settled, she seems so endlessly content with me, and frankly I'm feeling a little restless and bored. I think part of this is because she basically moved in with me a couple of months ago, so now I see her all the time. How is it possible to maintain an interest in someone you see every day ?
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