sapphire0903 Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Hi all! I am posting in this forum, because after my boyfriend started dating his wife again, I became the O/W. Since then, we have "broken up". I have wondered many many things about the future. We have both agreed to remain friends, that his wife knows of me, and knows how he feels about me (as far as I know), and wants me in his life. We have not seen each other in aprox. 3 weeks, and have spoken on the phone just once. The conversation was good, about life in general stuff, inter mingled with how much he thinks about me, ending with I miss you and I love you. I have been friends with men before, but have never transitioned from lover to friend. I hurt now, but I cant imagine him not in my life at all. What do you all think? Realistic or no? I know no one can predict the future (well maybe somebody out there can, ) but really, he has always been honest with me and is a very good friend to me, I hate to just walk away from a close relationship. Thoughts?????
outofdarkness Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Hi all! I am posting in this forum, because after my boyfriend started dating his wife again, I became the O/W. Since then, we have "broken up". I have wondered many many things about the future. We have both agreed to remain friends, that his wife knows of me, and knows how he feels about me (as far as I know), and wants me in his life. We have not seen each other in aprox. 3 weeks, and have spoken on the phone just once. The conversation was good, about life in general stuff, inter mingled with how much he thinks about me, ending with I miss you and I love you. I have been friends with men before, but have never transitioned from lover to friend. I hurt now, but I cant imagine him not in my life at all. What do you all think? Realistic or no? I know no one can predict the future (well maybe somebody out there can, ) but really, he has always been honest with me and is a very good friend to me, I to just walk away from a close relationship. Thoughts????? Yes, this is possible...but not without heartache, misinterpretation, resentment and anger in the mix...I have stated before on a different forum...In my opinion..it is NOT possible for married men to be "just friends" with any woman...MW, SW, DW, etc..Sounds like you're really hooked on him and will take him however you can get him or keep it going..Have you thought about how the wife or is it ex wife? might feel? Are there kids involved..It doesn't sound like he has made up his mind about what HE wants or mabey like so many of them, he wants his cake and eat it too...His W/ExW will always have the upper hand as long as he continues to let her know that he is still interested in her.. He's playing with your feelings/heart...run...don't walk...away from him...find someone who respects you and loves you for YOU...not themselves...
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