sexyLMC Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 hey all.. wow i havent been on this site for ages.. i dont no if anyone remebers me from a while ago but i split up with my ex it was so hard.. but trust me.. u do get over it.. and life does come back to you.. my life couldnt be any better then what it is now.. trust me all.. if u just do the no contact and follow the rules.. ull get totally through it.. U CAN DO ANYTHING IF YOU REALLY WANT TO!!!! thanks to every1 who helped me on this site.. x lisa x
swirly27 Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Hey Sexy, I never read your other posts, but what happened before? You broke up with your ex or did he break your heart? How long ago was that? How long did you guys date? Are you in something new now or are you just at a place where you are completely happy with yourself, which is awesome either way? Just being curious.
RecordProducer Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Hey, Lisa! Thank YOU for posting. Now tell me how I can get rid of my sister-in-law and brother-in-law without divorcing my husband! (They live next door ). They are all over me and obsessed with me, hate me for no reason, and trying to ruin my marriage...
Author sexyLMC Posted September 19, 2006 Author Posted September 19, 2006 hey again.. well we broke up at the end of july we was together just over a yr well on and off you know how it is.. but i totally thought my life was over crying an stuff..lol but im really great now. i have met someone i think i may get close to in time but im takin things real slow.. I just wanted to post on here cause loads of advise on here really helped me out e.c.t. The 1st cuts always the deepest.. and the 1st steps always the hardest and every1 helped me loads on here. so u just broke up with some1 or just lookin around?
swirly27 Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 hey again.. well we broke up at the end of july we was together just over a yr well on and off you know how it is.. but i totally thought my life was over crying an stuff..lol but im really great now. i have met someone i think i may get close to in time but im takin things real slow.. I just wanted to post on here cause loads of advise on here really helped me out e.c.t. The 1st cuts always the deepest.. and the 1st steps always the hardest and every1 helped me loads on here. so u just broke up with some1 or just lookin around? Thats great that you feel so great now. I have been thru many breakups, some I was heartbroken over, others I ended. I ended things with my last ex, but not cause I wanted to. We only dated for 6 weeks, so it wasn't long at all. Plus, like I said, I've been thru heartbreak before so I know what all it takes and endures, but it doesn't get easier each time, it gets harder. My ex started being real blah with stuff and we never even fought but he blew me completely off one weekend and then the next night when we were supposed to talk and then that night later on he'd said he'd be over and never showed.....so I ended it with a text message. If you are really bored, HAHA, read my post called 'Baffled'. Its been going on now for 6 weeks so its long, but you'll get the jist of the story in the first couple posts. I made one phone call attempt and left a nice message and never heard anything, even after I broke it off with him. A text is NOT the way I ever would have ended things, but it seems its what he wanted anyway. We just had such a clicking a connection and fun and I can't believe he just pulled away. I am still hoping he'll come back, even though I know I shouldn't want that. Did your ex that you spoke of from July ever try and come back or you have found someone else and its all over with the ex? I don't even want to look at another guy right now.
tine_23 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 but trust me.. u do get over it.. and life does come back to you.. my life couldnt be any better then what it is now.. trust me all.. if u just do the no contact and follow the rules.. ull get totally through it.. I wish I could feel just as great...!! You're so lucky SEXY! Man! I was so much better working this summer...not seeing him every week... How do you deal with someone you still love...that doesn't love you anymore...and that you run into at least once a week...and it hurts so much everytime.. How do you people deal with that? I would really rather do the nc thing...but it is almost impossible... It it impossible for me to not run into him...I try to avoid places he might be at certain times cuz I know he works...like when I wanna go swimming...I don't go when he's working (he's a part time lifeguard)...but like this mornin he was not working but I ran into him at the pool anyway...he had his training to do... How do you deal with that? it's so hard...! Please...any advice...???
swirly27 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 I wish I could feel just as great...!! You're so lucky SEXY! Man! I was so much better working this summer...not seeing him every week... How do you deal with someone you still love...that doesn't love you anymore...and that you run into at least once a week...and it hurts so much everytime.. How do you people deal with that? I would really rather do the nc thing...but it is almost impossible... It it impossible for me to not run into him...I try to avoid places he might be at certain times cuz I know he works...like when I wanna go swimming...I don't go when he's working (he's a part time lifeguard)...but like this mornin he was not working but I ran into him at the pool anyway...he had his training to do... How do you deal with that? it's so hard...! Please...any advice...??? Tine, I feel for you because I was once in this situation. Granted it was back when I was in highschool, but it was with my first love and we went to school together AND worked together and it was HORRIBLE. The school part wasn't too bad cause we had different classes, but I still saw him and I would be sad whenever we passed in the hall. Same with work.....but he was being a jerk back then and I started to pretend I was fine when I was around him (its what he deserved) and little by little I didn't have to pretend anymore. It was hard though, don't get me wrong. I've had other exes where we went out to the same places and one time, I had to watch my ex flirt and dance with other girls. I wasn't really hardcore broken hearted over that guy, but it still hurt cause I had liked him....but again, thats a different situation than yours cause that ex of mine was trying to piss me off. But when working with your ex, just prepare yourself each day that you may see him and when it happens, put on a smile and keep walking and when he's not around, go somewhere and take a deep breath. I am sure its hard, but you are doing good by trying to avoid him. In TIME (the evilest thing for broken hearted people HAHA) it will get easier and soon it won't affect you when you do run into him.
tine_23 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Thanks swirly...!! I hope I do get better soon...I'm tired of crying my eyes out when I get home everytime I see him...We run into each other about once a week...even that is too much! He is acting like a jerk too...I'm being nice when I see him smiling and everything... It makes me angry to think that he's over me and I'm not...he has a new gf since like 2 weeks ago... I heard I'm way prettier then she is...ahahaha...!!! he even told one of his friends that his new gf " is not like ugly but she's not as hot as my last gfs..." what a jerk!...how can you say that about someone you care about! anyway...that's not the topic of this thread... It makes me mad that I jut can't get over him even thought I try so hard!...I feel like I start all over again when I bump into him... My god he was so georgous today!
swirly27 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Thanks swirly...!! I hope I do get better soon...I'm tired of crying my eyes out when I get home everytime I see him...We run into each other about once a week...even that is too much! He is acting like a jerk too...I'm being nice when I see him smiling and everything... It makes me angry to think that he's over me and I'm not...he has a new gf since like 2 weeks ago... I heard I'm way prettier then she is...ahahaha...!!! he even told one of his friends that his new gf " is not like ugly but she's not as hot as my last gfs..." what a jerk!...how can you say that about someone you care about! anyway...that's not the topic of this thread... It makes me mad that I jut can't get over him even thought I try so hard!...I feel like I start all over again when I bump into him... My god he was so georgous today! I know how you feel. I had a bf once and we would break up and make up alot and on one of our breakups, he met another girl and then we got back together and then broke up again and he ended up going to her and not back to me (not a healthy pattern I know) but I was devestated....but, she was soooo not pretty, had baggage, issues and was a mess and I kept wondering why is she better than me....how can he be over me so fast and not miss me....but you know what, he was the jerk and loser. To this day, he now has 2 babies with 2 different women and back when all this first happened, he came to me twice wanting to cheat on her with me....so, in the end, I was the lucky one, not her. I don't know your whole story with him, but if he's a jerk and cocky and all that, and treating you like crap too, then consider yourself lucky. No matter how gorgeous he is, he's still an A$$.
tine_23 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 You're right! I'm a Queen...I deserve a King ahaha
Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 can some one explain to me what nc and the rules are?
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