alphamale Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 I'm 41 years old me too R_DAR...dating now is much easier than 15 years ago mainly due to my experience.
Author db75 Posted September 21, 2006 Author Posted September 21, 2006 One thing I would like to mention is that I have noticed that the available guys in my age group seem to go for the YOUNGER 20-something girls. This is something that depresses me often. Of course, I know that they would be better-off dating in their own age group, simply because women (and men) in their 30's hopefully have enough experience under their belt to have learned from their past mistakes. That's where I'm exactly the opposite. There are alot of attractive women in their 30's. For my part, when I'm ready to start dating again, I really just want to date women closer to my own age(31). Having just gotten out of a 3.5 year relationship with a young woman in her 20's struggling for her identity, I really want a woman in her 30's who seemingly have more of these issues worked out. It's a maturity thing, despite what 20 somethings might say, very few of them have things sorted out and don't know exactly what they want. Whereas those of us in our 30's, while I'm not saying we've got everything worked out 100%, have a better idea of what it is we want out of life and a partner.
Author db75 Posted September 21, 2006 Author Posted September 21, 2006 I'm 41 years old and I have no problem with women. Of courese, I do have the advantage of genes that suggest I'm much younger than I actually am. Age means nothing for men, unless you can't walk or hold you bladder anymore. Very true. Me and all the men in my family are fortunate in the gene department. My grandfather for example is 86 years old, still has all of his hair, it's still jet black and he looks like he's in his late 60's and gets more action than men half his age.
SmoochieFace Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Move to the DC area. My sister lives there and says there are way more single women than men, and a lot of them are educated, attractive, independent women working good federal government jobs. You shouldn't have any problems dating there. Plus, dating gets easier for men as they get older - the pool of women they're dating is also older and likely to be more self-aware, so they know want in a relationship and they're not out to just fool around. *cough* bull... *cough* ...it. *cough* Sorry, but I beg to differ...
serial muse Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 My grandfather for example is 86 years old, still has all of his hair, it's still jet black wow, really?! no dyes or grey roots in sight? that's kind of astounding.
Author db75 Posted September 21, 2006 Author Posted September 21, 2006 wow, really?! no dyes or grey roots in sight? that's kind of astounding. I swear. No dye job or anything. The guy is just old school, worked hard all his life,stayed in great shape. The man just loves life. I also attribute some of his youthful appearance to his Native American heritage. He's fairly dark complected and like I said still has the jet black hair. After my grandmother passed away 10 years ago, he really showed a side of him we just never new was there. The funny thing is he was married to my grandmother for somewhere around 50 years. I remember him looking at me and telling me several years after her death, he said to me "Boy, don't you ever get married." What the hell do you say to that, an 86 year old man, married 50 years tells you don't get married? Despite what I want for myself, sometimes I think I should listen to him.
mental_traveller Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Look - in 100 years you will be dead, nothing but food for the worms & maggots 6 feet under. No one will give a damn whether you had a family or not. How the hell can you be afraid of not having a family? So what if you don't? Just go out and live life, meet lots of people and hook up with the ones you like. Eventually you will meet one who is a natural match, and if you never do then who cares, you'll have had a load of fun trying! Fear should be reserved for things like limb amputations, terminal cancer, wars and genocide. Not pathetic concerns like whether or not you happen to reproduce within the next 3 years.
Meg_77 Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 I find myself in a similar kinda mind frame as db75 - not necessarily the married part as I have my own views about that - which goes along the lines of I won't be getting married until there are kids on the way, I personally don't see the point before then. Maybe that has something to do with being engaged and then being let down. But I feel pretty determined to find someone who knows their own mind and is stable. I really want to have kids too and I worry about never meeting the right person. I don't know if I am just in that part of the processes where you come out of a relationsihp thinking.... next time I won't make the same mistakes again. All these boxes must be ticked (stable, financially stable,knows their own mind, wants kids, won't consider me second rate to his interests/career etc.) before I will consider some guy to date again. Is this realisitic? Does anyone out there really feel like they are stable? Can anyone say they know their own mind? Or are these just things you find out about a person over time, do you think?
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