G.for.Girl Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 It is like if I ask a boy out, he would then ask another girl out. Its like I have awaken his dating appetite. Does this ever happen to anyone? This hurts so much and I dont know what I can do to prevent this happening? The man would get a BIG HEAD, start thinking he is a chick magnet, And the problem is he would start chasing other girls, usually girls who are so out of his league or someone he's been admiring for years. Please help, welcome any positive or negative comments.
Zankon Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 There 2 cases i think: 1: You ask the boy out and he thinks he owns the world. 2: It seems you're too easy Let me explain #2 because it happened to me. When a girl asked me out, it seemed to me that well if I invest my time into this what tells me she won't just do the same with another boy an just keep rolling... Why do you think boys like girls they can t have? BEcause a boy knows once he gets her, if somebody else hits on her he knows she ll pull her resistance card.. it's like a safety net shall I say. Hope it helped... it's my personal point of view but I am weird so never mind if it doesn't make sense.
lone she-wolf Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Ummm.........just read post above mine.........Umm...nevermind ANYWAY!! Yes, it has happened to me. I'm pretty sure its because you build up the guy's ego, oh I mean self confidence, ESPECIALLY if you are good looking. I hate when guys do this and it is SO obvious when they do.
Adunaphel Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 It is like if I ask a boy out, he would then ask another girl out. Its like I have awaken his dating appetite. Does this ever happen to anyone? This hurts so much and I dont know what I can do to prevent this happening? The man would get a BIG HEAD, start thinking he is a chick magnet, And the problem is he would start chasing other girls, usually girls who are so out of his league or someone he's been admiring for years. Please help, welcome any positive or negative comments. It also happened to me. Still happens. *sighs* They don't like me (even if they usually give out mixed or wrong signals - I would not ask them out otherwise), yet, like you, I set the good example. :laugh: What hurt me the most is that a couple of times guys recycled flirty things I said to them and used them to ask the other girl out. :mad: At least those girls never were not really more out of their leagues that I was. Oh, this also applies to you. You are not less out of his league than those other girls are. perhaps you boosted his confidence so much because he would have never thought a girl like you would ask him out.
fishtaco Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Um... this is just what happens sometimes when you go after someone. They tell you no, then hook up with someone else. I get that all the time, comes with the territory, and not some complicated mind game, and isn't gender specific. I mean it doesn't make sense to me that when a girl asks a guy out, he has to say yes while the reverse isn't true. I give you kudos for taking the initiative to go after a guy. But I will give you the same advice as I give all the other guys... Chance of success is low, don't let failures discourage you, quantity is the key, keep asking them out one after the other and eventually you'll get a hit. Being a girl you have a great advantage, guys will ask you out even if you don't try. The fact that you try also will only increase your chance of success, but you can't expect 100% success. Just forget him, he sucks anyway. Go after someone cuter.
MsArtful Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 You SUCK REAL BAD U SUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!! I HATE YOU, and have problems
G.for.Girl Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 What hurt me the most is that a couple of times guys recycled flirty things I said to them and used them to ask the other girl out. :mad: YES, that's what they do. I feel like I am giving out free dating lessons. -- I suggested several places for getting together, and the men asked some other girls out to those places -- even on messenger, they recycle my flirty words and even icons. Why cant he just concentrate on me? Why does he have to do tests the 'new dating skills' out on other girls?
Walk Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 You SUCK REAL BAD U SUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!! I HATE YOU, and have problems Huh?
Walk Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 I tried seeing it as a service I've done for another human being. Here was a guy who was feeling low, and I boosted his ego enough that he would once again fling himself into the lions den of "dating women". Without my wonderful, charismatic, and beautiful self.. that poor man would still be wallowing in single-hood, his ego in the dumps, allowing his pathetic life to pass him by. So I did my good deed for the day. hahahh Not that it really helps thinking that way.. but I try to take it as a compliment. For whatever reason he felt we didn't mesh, but doesn't mean I'm less of a person. Otherwise he would've been wallowing even deeper in depression for only having ugly boring girls hit on him.
Spinderella Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Maybe try not asking guys out, but subtly flirting, using body language etc. I still think most guys like to be the chaser, it's biological. The girls they are chasing, have obviously NOT asked them out, so it could be they do just like to be the chaser. Since alot of guys don't expect to be asked out by a girl, this is probably a real ego boost, but they might think you are easy, or more guy-like, therefore after asking alot of guys out. Try being subtle, and see what happens. Maybe just smile at them alot, talk to them, but not neccessarily in an over flirtatious way, and definetly not overly sexual, slightly teasing, perhaps. That way, they will wonder, if they could get you, without it being handed on a plate.
Steph21 Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 If you see a guy is looking at you, look away and act annoyed that he would look at you. Then when he talks to you, act nice and such, but as though you really think you could do better than him. Guys tend to think women are more smitten by them than they actually are, so if you already act pretty positive about him he'll really think you like him, probably too much and it's a turn off.
G.for.Girl Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Maybe try not asking guys out, but subtly flirting, using body language etc. But I dont see these guys everyday at work. If I want to ''subtly flirt'', either one of us have to arrange a date, and it is usually me. And if I just give him a phone call, we dont really have much to chat about, there are just too many uncomfortable silences and the phone calls usually end rather quickly.
MsArtful Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 I'm just letting the people of this thread know that the "YOU SUCK" post, was not done by me. My younger brother has obviously found the website, and I will no longer let my account automatically sign in.
MsArtful Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 There 2 cases i think: 1: You ask the boy out and he thinks he owns the world. 2: It seems you're too easy Let me explain #2 because it happened to me. When a girl asked me out, it seemed to me that well if I invest my time into this what tells me she won't just do the same with another boy an just keep rolling... Why do you think boys like girls they can t have? BEcause a boy knows once he gets her, if somebody else hits on her he knows she ll pull her resistance card.. it's like a safety net shall I say. This is unfortunately very true.
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