Guest Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I'm going out with a wonderful woman in her mid-20's and we both love each other to bits. But there's just one thing which I don't like, and it feels really irrational but it bothers me - it's her cell phone and her mom! When we were first going out her mom would call all of the time, even when we're getting intimate, and my gf would stop everything to pick-up and then have a 15 minute conversation about her dog. I was really gentle and mentioned how I felt pushed aside once the calls came and things have got better. The 15 minute dog conversations with mom happen once in a while but far less frequent so it's cool. We've been away on vacation a few times and the cell gets really intrusive - calls from her family to ask pointless questions about the location of some weird object when we're relaxing, and some more phone conversations about the dog. We've never been too far away on vacation, so maybe her family didn't think it was a faux pas to call once in a while.... Now we're going really far away overseas on vacation and I was looking forward to having her all to myself.... but she's already called the cell company to check how much calls home will cost and I've been told that she has to call home every day or her mom won't be happy. It's already made me feel a little sad that she can't just be alone with me and that she absolutely must call her mom each day. Am I being stupid in letting this get to be a problem? Is it really too much to ask for 1-2 weeks of cellphone free vacation? I'm really close with my family but I only call them once a week at the most, so I guess I don't understand the need to call each day
Cheshire Cat Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Am I being stupid in letting this get to be a problem? Is it really too much to ask for 1-2 weeks of cellphone free vacation? I'm really close with my family but I only call them once a week at the most, so I guess I don't understand the need to call each day It's more like it's not worth it to argue about it while you are finally on a long vacation overseas on your own. It might end up spoling your good mood a lot more than bearing with a few phone calls would. Parents who have always been so protective and are used to calling their daughter every day even when she travels to some not distant place are very likely to get even more anxious/protective if she goes overseas with her bf. Your gf seems reasonable enough to be able to compromise - the calls and the phone converstions about the dog decreased when you told her it bothered you, but asking for a phone calls free vacation would be a little too much, given the situation. She might spend 5 minutes on the phone each day, but you'll have her attention for the other whole part of the day, for two weeks. And at least this time she'll be the one doing the calling, she won't have to pick up a ringing cell phone in inconvenient moments.
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