Sand&Water Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Values, This thread is hilarious. The ideas, and form of understanding that is being passed around. Just funny. When you are around an attractive woman, act like you are The Lion -with a soft side. If you are truly interested in the woman, show your lion side. That means, have a sense of determination for getting the woman. Don't leave empty-handed if you are into her. Then hit it up a notch, by showing your soft side while still keeping your lion-ness. Make Clever Remarks. You should act, and say things that give her the vibe that "You know what you're doing -you've got everything under control" [when in reality, you may be not have a clue about what is going on]. This in entail, will bring out the confidence you desire her to see. Be friendly, though. I have encountered men who may 'seem' friendly but I can tell right away there is a lot of aggression, hatred, frustration, dislike, and very little patience. Sand&Water
Author Values Posted September 19, 2006 Author Posted September 19, 2006 Sand&Water, your advice about being the lion with a soft side is exactly what I did with my now ex. I was SO into her when I met her that I would not take no for an answer. I have to admit though that with her it was obvious she liked me from the start, not slutty obvious but twinkle in her eye obvious. From reading all the female posts about guys doing the chasing and not leaving "empty handed" I am shocked. Everything you women say is what has been burned into my brain as behavior that gets the police to show up. "Sir we've heard you told her you weren't going to leave empty handed", but officer I read online that that's the way to act! --click-click-- "Watch your head sir" aaaahhh! I'm more confused now than I was before I asked the damn question, but I guess that's what you women had in mind the whole time, your laughing at me right now aren't you, stop, stop it! I guess I'll try your advice soon. I still haven't gotten to the point of asking this girl out that works near my offices. But that was an old post. I think being 6'3" and weighing 145 pounds in high school has left me with an image I can't shake even though I've long since grown into my frame. That and the fact that I am basically a nerd. I have cool, regular guy traits and friends, but I've always had an overactive brain for these kinds of issues. Whatever, thanks for the advice, if I end up in jail for pursuing a girl soon, I'm going to be looking for you girls to bail me out.
Sand&Water Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Values, I couldn't resist. The entire post was funny. "your advice about being the lion with a soft side is exactly what I did with my now ex." It does work, afterall. [some variations can result from excessive manipulation of the advice given at hand]. You did get yourself a girlfriend. Keeping a woman in your arms is something, only, you can achieve [with the right tools, and under the right circumstances]. Sand&Water
IWalkAlone Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 So what's the difference bettween a "lion with a soft side" and a creep who can't take a hint that you're not interested in him?
Author Values Posted September 20, 2006 Author Posted September 20, 2006 So what's the difference bettween a "lion with a soft side" and a creep who can't take a hint that you're not interested in him? A restraining order.
Ripples Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Ok, I haven't read the entire thread, so this post may be completely out of context, please ignore if it is! If I catch someone looking at me, I can never be sure if they find me attractive or are doing the open-mouthed "Oh, that poor girl, isn't she brave?" routine. I've come unstuck more than once. So nowadays I just tend to stick my tongue out at whoever is staring and then smile afterwards, just incase.
Lisa32 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Oh people...stop sweating it. It's not going to be so hard when the perfect fit for you comes walking down the street. As a matter of fact, you'll realize how easy and natural it is...and you'll be wondering why you thought it was so difficult when you were single. I guarantee every single one of you will be married with children one day...but only if you want to get married one day. Then we'll be seeing your postings in the Divorce section (just kidding).
Green Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Ripples what are you talking about the poor girl who is brave? are you missing a leg or something. your damn hot ripples if thats you in the avatar. As for Values look you should have never asked women about what attracts them most women put into your body wouldnt know the first thing about what it feels like to hit on a hot chick who doesnt want to be bothered. I'm 6"3 a pretty slender guy myself so maybe we look alike so try to relate to me here and my many recent experiences with women. First of all you shouldnt give a damn if a girl ends up thinking your a creep for just comming up to her and making small talk and then trying to get her number. Obviously it matters if a girl is interested in you but your going to be missing out if you try to figure that out before hand just take a chance on any girl you yourself are atracted to and try not to worry about being turned down. Dont be so seriouse about hitting on these girls it should be a fun thing for you like hey I spotted a real hottie now I'm going to go hit on her. Heck some times I hit on girls while there with guys if I dont see them kissing in the chance that shes out with a guy whose not her bf. the point is stop being a little baby and worying about wether a girl finds you good looking or not and just do it!
Author Values Posted September 20, 2006 Author Posted September 20, 2006 Thanks for the baby remark there KMT. I agree with most of the rest of the stuff you said. The situations and girls I'm talking about in my posts aren't ones that I am really liking but ones that I see that I might want to take out a couple of times and then get down with. I'm trying to work on/figure out my casual everyday girl getting skills. I respect women a lot, probably more than they deserve (thanks ex), I'm trying to work on what basically amounts to a charming way of saying, "I've never seen you here before, How about dinner soon, followed by 3 hours of wild sex."
Flicker Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Has anyone noticed that Pink Amulet's posts are always about herself and how hot she is?
funkify Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Ok, if a girl stares even if she doesn't smile - she likes you I know if I really like a guy without having spoken to him I will stare but am too shy to smile just in case he looks back in disgust and I humiliate myself! I usually keep looking until he gives a smile, then I'll smile back.
Ripples Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Ripples what are you talking about the poor girl who is brave? are you missing a leg or something. Yes.
SmoochieFace Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 So what's the difference bettween a "lion with a soft side" and a creep who can't take a hint that you're not interested in him? I'm interested to know the difference as well.
Ross_K Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 It must feel really nice to have a woman show interest in you.
SixthSt.Girl Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 It depends on what mode I'm in. A lot of times when I'm out shopping, I'm focused on getting things done and don't pay much attention to who's around. If I see a man who I think is attractive, I'll give him a small smile if he's looking in my direction. I'm pretty shy, so I can't hold eye contact for long. In short, I look, but I try not to be obvious about it.
Green Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 First ripples I hope ur full of it but your still hot even if your missing parts, and Values your not a baby but you need to stop thinking about this so much and just do stuff girls assume you want to have sex with them it would be harder to convince them other wise so just say hi and start talking with them
RecordProducer Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 I may look at an attractive guy, but don't wish to establish any contact cuz I am married and love my husband. So whatever signal I might be sending (I rarely see anyone interesting anyway), even if I would smile or something, it would be totally innocent and with no intentions of further contact whatsoever. I wouldn't want to make any contact and if a guy would approach me, I would let him know that I am married. If I were single, sure, I would send signals and like to be approached by someone who seems cute on the first sight. It's better to be approached by 100 guys I don't like then NOT be approached by a guy I would like. I think you should approach every girl you like if you're single. Even if she is not so interested in your looks, she might fidn you interesting after she talks to you. With us women - not everything is about hot looks. For example, if she sees your car...
RecordProducer Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Has anyone noticed that Pink Amulet's posts are always about herself and how hot she is?Have you noticed that she IS hot? I have. No, I haven't noticed that she is talking all the time about how hot she is, but if that's a part of her life, I don't see why she would pretend that it doesn't exist and that she is ugly. I also don't see why that bothers you. But if you want to notice something, you will create it in your mind if necessary... I, for example have noticed that she has a big pimple on her nose... well you can barely see it, but it's there... I know it's there... Even if it's not there.. I SEE IT!
Almost Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 So what's the difference bettween a "lion with a soft side" and a creep who can't take a hint that you're not interested in him? Looks. If a woman finds a guy physically attractive, she'll respond positively to his advances. If she's doesn't find him attractive, she'll think he's a creep.
Almost Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 First of all you shouldnt give a damn if a girl ends up thinking your a creep for just comming up to her and making small talk and then trying to get her number. Obviously it matters if a girl is interested in you but your going to be missing out if you try to figure that out before hand just take a chance on any girl you yourself are atracted to and try not to worry about being turned down. Dont be so seriouse about hitting on these girls it should be a fun thing for you like hey I spotted a real hottie now I'm going to go hit on her. Heck some times I hit on girls while there with guys if I dont see them kissing in the chance that shes out with a guy whose not her bf. the point is stop being a little baby and worying about wether a girl finds you good looking or not and just do it! I think this is pretty good advice - aside from the run on sentences and misspellings. I need to try to have this kind of attitude and not be so dead serious and sensitive all the time. I think I'm a lot like Values, so I can understand where he's coming from, although I'm older and fatter now and not as hot anymore.
Almost Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 If the guy doesn't make the move on me, then I know it's not meant to be, or he wasn't man enough to pursue me. Women like to be chased...and men like to chase. It's just how it is. You can disagree all you want...but it's the man's job to chase. Women love when a man makes her feel special. We like to see the extent you'll go to, to win our hearts. That's why most women are able to grow to love a guy. Guys usually know right away...women grow to love. You are the hunter...we are the hunted. Women always say this, but in reality, if a guy chases you and you don't find him attractive, then suddenly he is behaving like a creep, he's a stalker, he's scaring you, it's sexual harrassment, etc. So women really should act interested in a guy if they are interested. They shouldn't just act uninterested and think if the guy doesn't come after her in spite of her acting uninterested, then he's not "man enough." Only really super hot guys who know they are super hot can get away with totally going after women all the time, without getting any signals from the woman that it's ok if he pursues her.
Flicker Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Have you noticed that she IS hot? I have. No, I haven't noticed that she is talking all the time about how hot she is, but if that's a part of her life, I don't see why she would pretend that it doesn't exist and that she is ugly. I also don't see why that bothers you. But if you want to notice something, you will create it in your mind if necessary... I, for example have noticed that she has a big pimple on her nose... well you can barely see it, but it's there... I know it's there... Even if it's not there.. I SEE IT! Actually, no, I have not noticed that she's hot. This is not relevant to her ability to give advice or be sympathetic. I wasn't suggesting that she pretend she is ugly, but truely beautiful people don't feel the need to point out their attractiveness to everyone.
Pink Amulet Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 No, I haven't noticed that she is talking all the time about how hot she is, but if that's a part of her life, I don't see why she would pretend that it doesn't exist and that she is ugly. I also don't see why that bothers you. I chose to ignore the post when I saw it. I know I bring the same amount of balance between "me stuff" and selfless advice as everyone else on here. Most of us are here to give advice, and take advice. It is difficult not to talk about yourself when you have been living with yourself every damn day since your were born I have learnt how to deal with this kind of stuff so it really isn't a drama. It's just funny that she had her photo up earlier, and now she doesn't Anyway, back to ignoring it
lovestruck234 Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 I chose to ignore the post when I saw it. I know I bring the same amount of balance between "me stuff" and selfless advice as everyone else on here. Most of us are here to give advice, and take advice. It is difficult not to talk about yourself when you have been living with yourself every damn day since your were born I have learnt how to deal with this kind of stuff so it really isn't a drama. It's just funny that she had her photo up earlier, and now she doesn't Anyway, back to ignoring it Awwww, it's ok Pink. I know how hard it is being so damn hot all the time!! Just kdiding!! An Aunty once told me something......"The pretty girls seem to have a harder time than the not so pretty ones..." Bottom line.....she's just jealous!..
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