SoCalCatman72 Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Ok, so I've been pondering this for a while, along with the status of the planet Pluto and the relative speed of sound in a vacum (trick question). I'm not attracted to physical beauty anymore. I mean, it's not to say that I don't think a beautiful woman is attractive, it's just that when it comes to physical attraction, just the person's looks alone don't do it for me. I mean if I were to be at the beach and see a gorgeous model type in a bikini, I just don't have the urge to fantasize about being with them physically. I don't know if it's because I'm getting older (but I doubt it because I know men who are my age or older and they are still the same horndogs they were as teenagers), or if the years of drug abuse has fried something in my brain, or if I'm simply too intimidated by beautiful women and have justified this response in my own psyche? It's bugging the heck out of me, and I'm starting to think that I'm not normal. I have absolutely no doubt that I'm heterosexual, so lets not go with the 'maybe you're gay' line of thought. I just can't understand why most of my male friends see an good looking woman and practically start drooling and foaming at the mouth in excitement, and I just look at her and think, yeah she's beautiful, but how long could she hold an intelligent conversation for? Am I wierd? I just can't get a physiological reaction from just looks alone. They have to have that certain something that I find attractive on an intellectual level?
quankanne Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I just can't understand why most of my male friends see an good looking woman and practically start drooling and foaming at the mouth in excitement, and I just look at her and think, yeah she's beautiful, but how long could she hold an intelligent conversation for? maybe you're just more mature than your male counterparts. Most people are initially attracted by looks, but at some point, they realize that it's character that stands out the most in the dark. boy, I wish I could instill your attitude in one of my "kids," who is hung up on looks and money, rather than looking for inner beauty of a person!
a4a Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Ok, so I've been pondering this for a while, along with the status of the planet Pluto and the relative speed of sound in a vacum (trick question). I'm not attracted to physical beauty anymore. I mean, it's not to say that I don't think a beautiful woman is attractive, it's just that when it comes to physical attraction, just the person's looks alone don't do it for me. I mean if I were to be at the beach and see a gorgeous model type in a bikini, I just don't have the urge to fantasize about being with them physically. I don't know if it's because I'm getting older (but I doubt it because I know men who are my age or older and they are still the same horndogs they were as teenagers), or if the years of drug abuse has fried something in my brain, or if I'm simply too intimidated by beautiful women and have justified this response in my own psyche? It's bugging the heck out of me, and I'm starting to think that I'm not normal. I have absolutely no doubt that I'm heterosexual, so lets not go with the 'maybe you're gay' line of thought. I just can't understand why most of my male friends see an good looking woman and practically start drooling and foaming at the mouth in excitement, and I just look at her and think, yeah she's beautiful, but how long could she hold an intelligent conversation for? Am I wierd? I just can't get a physiological reaction from just looks alone. They have to have that certain something that I find attractive on an intellectual level? You mean you think about women in a way other than just sexual? No way!!!
magichands Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Am I wierd? No...just a bad speller. Or you have very mild dyslexia - butt hats' debatabel. I just can't get a physiological reaction from just looks alone. Yes, that's (often) true enough. Try touching.
grateful Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I just can't understand why most of my male friends see an good looking woman and practically start drooling and foaming at the mouth in excitement, and I just look at her and think, yeah she's beautiful, but how long could she hold an intelligent conversation for? Am I wierd? No, you are HOT! If I were single and looking for an online BF I'd be hitting you up in PM's.
Author SoCalCatman72 Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 Yes, that's (often) true enough. Try touching. Yeah, but I've got to get that inital attraction before I want to touch.
Moai Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 You're not weird. I am the exact same way. I still enjoy looking at an attractive woman, but it is in a more "artistic" way. I don't have the urge to go over and dialog her or anything. I have noticed that I seem to see beautiful women everywhere, whereas before it didn't seem like it does now. Nobody is as beautiful as my girlfriend, though. No kidding. My dream job would be to look at her all day. In fact, I have to force myself not to or I'd probably starve to death. Cheesy, cheesy, cheesy, but also totally true.
Sand&Water Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Nobody is as beautiful as my girlfriend, though. No kidding. My dream job would be to look at her all day. In fact, I have to force myself not to or I'd probably starve to death. Cheesy, cheesy, cheesy, but also totally true. I envy you. I do! I'm just kidding. You're lucky; must be very fulfilling. Catman, You are not alone. And, you are not weird. You're just more mature than most males your age. Where are the real men, thesedays? I wish more men, like you, would understand the importance of intelligent conversations, and emotional/soulful bonds. Sand&Water
Author SoCalCatman72 Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 Thanks for the ego boost grateful I guess I'm just a bit frustrated, trying to figure out why I am still single, and though I meet attractive women all the time, (I live in South Orange County where plastic surgery is all the rage ) I am, for the most part dateless (my own fault). I guess this is part of it, being that just looks in themselves is not enough justification for me to ask a woman out. It seems to me that the women I have been attracted to, I have gotten to know through work, church or some activity where I run into them a lot, and we have something in common we can start off talking about. I guess this is why I don't go to bars and clubs anymore. Besides, how can you find out if a woman has common interests when you have to yell at the top of your lungs just to introduce yourself, and interestingly enough the women that seem to attract me the most aren't model type beautiful (I know a few actual models through one of my clients and I don't think I could carry a conversation with them for more than 5 minutes) but they are the kind of people that are comfortable in their own bodies, and have a lot of interesting things to talk about. I'm a mixed up guy
mental_traveller Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Ok, so I've been pondering this for a while, along with the status of the planet Pluto and the relative speed of sound in a vacum (trick question). I'm not attracted to physical beauty anymore. I mean, it's not to say that I don't think a beautiful woman is attractive, it's just that when it comes to physical attraction, just the person's looks alone don't do it for me. I mean if I were to be at the beach and see a gorgeous model type in a bikini, I just don't have the urge to fantasize about being with them physically. I don't know if it's because I'm getting older (but I doubt it because I know men who are my age or older and they are still the same horndogs they were as teenagers), or if the years of drug abuse has fried something in my brain, or if I'm simply too intimidated by beautiful women and have justified this response in my own psyche? It's bugging the heck out of me, and I'm starting to think that I'm not normal. I have absolutely no doubt that I'm heterosexual, so lets not go with the 'maybe you're gay' line of thought. I just can't understand why most of my male friends see an good looking woman and practically start drooling and foaming at the mouth in excitement, and I just look at her and think, yeah she's beautiful, but how long could she hold an intelligent conversation for? Am I wierd? I just can't get a physiological reaction from just looks alone. They have to have that certain something that I find attractive on an intellectual level? No you're not gay or weird. I have pretty much the same view - I find myself much more attracted to a woman's intrinsic sensual nature, personal chemistry, call it what you will, than whether she looks like a Sports Illustrated model. The great thing is that women of that type tend to be good in bed, and lots of guys aren't even looking at them, so you have far less competition. Ignore what everyone else thinks and just go for the women that get your heart racing, you'll know when you see them. Put aside your previous preconceptions of beauty, and recognise that 80% of women have the potential to be "sexy" if they just act it. It's a lot more fun, believe me!
Adunaphel Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I'm not attracted to physical beauty anymore. I mean, it's not to say that I don't think a beautiful woman is attractive, it's just that when it comes to physical attraction, just the person's looks alone don't do it for me. I mean if I were to be at the beach and see a gorgeous model type in a bikini, I just don't have the urge to fantasize about being with them physically. You have probably just scored a lot of points with a good % of the ladies who'll read your post. or if I'm simply too intimidated by beautiful women and have justified this response in my own psyche? Naw, you are not. It's bugging the heck out of me, and I'm starting to think that I'm not normal. I have absolutely no doubt that I'm heterosexual, so lets not go with the 'maybe you're gay' line of thought. What about the "maybe you are more than a Pavlov dog" line of thought? I just can't understand why most of my male friends see an good looking woman and practically start drooling and foaming at the mouth in excitement, and I just look at her and think, yeah she's beautiful, but how long could she hold an intelligent conversation for? Am I wierd? I just can't get a physiological reaction from just looks alone. They have to have that certain something that I find attractive on an intellectual level? Not weird. Just picky. Welcome to the club. Are you aware that this might spare you quite a lot of trouble down the road? Those dooling and foaming friends of yours risk realizing that looks are not enough only *after* getting engaged to one of those beautiful but dumb ladies.
Yamaha Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I just don't have the urge to fantasize about being with them physically. Is this the same guy who had a thread recently called SEX??? You were horney and wanting it so I think you have sexual urges. Maybe your the type who needs to like the person before you want to get physical with them Nothing wrong with that but it does put a damper on your one-night-stands.
Author SoCalCatman72 Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 Oh yes, I have sexual urges (frequently), but after some analysis I've determined that my "sex" thread was the product of loneliness and depression, wanting to hold and be held. Maybe your the type who needs to like the person before you want to get physical with them Yes, I agree wholeheartedly. Even before, I was never into the casual sex thing.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 I'm not attracted to physical beauty anymore. I mean, it's not to say that I don't think a beautiful woman is attractive, it's just that when it comes to physical attraction, just the person's looks alone don't do it for me. I mean if I were to be at the beach and see a gorgeous model type in a bikini, I just don't have the urge to fantasize about being with them physically. I just can't get a physiological reaction from just looks alone. They have to have that certain something that I find attractive on an intellectual level? Jeez - why do all the mature, intelligent, non-superficial guys exist only in Mills & Boon and on LS?!! Well, Catman, the way I see it, you're at a stage where you don't judge people by their looks alone. Which is a good thing, as long as you're OK with it.
Pink Amulet Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 It's because you like cats. Men that like cats have a good moral foundation.
Pink Amulet Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Well... he doesn't have sex with women...
littlekitty Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Don't most people need more than just attaction to form a relationship with someone? I mean, you can't survive on looks alone....!! You have to 'click' with that person and find them intellectually interesting as well! But then again... maybe it's the gay thing!!
Adunaphel Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 It's because you like cats. Men that like cats have a good moral foundation. This got me interested. So I had good reasons all along to be wary of guys who like dogs better than cats?
stoopid_guy Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 So I had good reasons all along to be wary of guys who like dogs better than cats? Intreresting... Cat's are more independent than dogs, but dogs are more loyal and protective... Agree with the Catman though, physical attractiveness has very little to do with how much fun a lady is to be around.
Adunaphel Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Intreresting... Cat's are more independent than dogs, but dogs are more loyal and protective... ...even to jerks that treat them badly. I like some dogs, though - expecially the ones that don't get too readily affectionate to just about everyone. To get back on topic, it feels good to know that to some guys looks are not enough even to "just" get turned on. There's still hope for further evolution of mankind.
Author SoCalCatman72 Posted September 19, 2006 Author Posted September 19, 2006 Maybe your'e gay Well... he doesn't have sex with women... But then again... maybe it's the gay thing!! In my best Mr. Garrison voice (South Park) 'I'm not Gaaaaayyyyyy........' LOL, you guys are too funny :laugh: PA, I used to have sex with women, but it caused too many problems I love all animals, except maybe the creepy crawly critters. I tend to prefer cats because as a general rule, you have to make them like you first, before they will be all warm and snuggly with you. I also admire their independence...........hmmm interesting, those are some of the same things I like in women. A dog will come when you call, a cat takes a message and will get back to you when it's convenient for them.
basscatcher Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 I prefer cats too. They are inquizitive creatures, always curious like me! I like to watch their air-O-bat-tic nature.. You never know what the heck they will do or what stunt they will perform. Kinda like men too! (Hmm, did you put your pic up in the past? I heard your a cutie!)
Author SoCalCatman72 Posted September 19, 2006 Author Posted September 19, 2006 One of the funniest thigns is when you have more than one cat, and one is behind a closed door and the other one is on the other side. You see these little paws playing tag through the crack under the door. Correction, it's funny until they are doing it a 3am, and you have to get out of your nice warm bed to open the door and let one out or the other in. No Pada, I never posted a pic, except my furry moniker there in my avatar. I think I'm rather average, but that's just my opinion.
calalily Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Actually I feel the same way - I find guys considered conventionally good looking to look very generic. They all look like very bland lobsters (the whole abs thing). I personally like something unique and quirky about someone to fall in love with.
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