princessa Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Now, most of my friends usually make fun of me when I talk about this issue... And yeah I admit it is funny sometimes how when there's a baby all the girls go "awwwwwwww".. except me who goes "ewwwwwwww" and runs the other way.. But nevertheless sometimes I wonder whether there's something wrong with me. I've never been around pregnant women, let alone babies in my whole life. And this whole concept just freaaakkss me out like nothing else. I don't like babies, I've never even touched one. I was at Toys R Us the other day and the whole BABY section just FREAKED ME OUT. I don't know if it's some fear that I just need to get over or what.. The ironic part is that I'd actually like to have a kid sometime in the faaaaarr far future hehe (I'm 21).. but everytime I imagine myself having a kid, the kid is always about like 3, 5, 10 years old.. never a baby. And i cannot imagine myself being pregnant. Umm.. so people, AM I A WITCH OR WHAT??????
a4a Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Now, most of my friends usually make fun of me when I talk about this issue... And yeah I admit it is funny sometimes how when there's a baby all the girls go "awwwwwwww".. except me who goes "ewwwwwwww" and runs the other way.. But nevertheless sometimes I wonder whether there's something wrong with me. I've never been around pregnant women, let alone babies in my whole life. And this whole concept just freaaakkss me out like nothing else. I don't like babies, I've never even touched one. I was at Toys R Us the other day and the whole BABY section just FREAKED ME OUT. I don't know if it's some fear that I just need to get over or what.. The ironic part is that I'd actually like to have a kid sometime in the faaaaarr far future hehe (I'm 21).. but everytime I imagine myself having a kid, the kid is always about like 3, 5, 10 years old.. never a baby. And i cannot imagine myself being pregnant. Umm.. so people, AM I A WITCH OR WHAT?????? welcome to my world.... they friggin gross me the hell out too. I can deal with them when they hit 10- 11ish. No projectile vomiting, whining, pissing poop making machines for me. And I do not find baby items to be "cute" either. More like overpriced and a waste of money.
quankanne Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 nope, you're perfectly normal. And you've got the guts to admit your fear of babies. I love kids, but newborns give me the heebie-jeebies, and I refuse to hold babies that are under 4-5 months old because I'm afraid of them. And because I find babies to be much more interesting after a certain age ... the good news is that they're infants only for a little while
superconductor Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 It's not likely a phobia, like a fear of small places or a fear of heights or flying or something like that. It's just that you don't have a burning need or desire right now to start squeezing out wee ones. Babies can be cute, sure, but they also make a lot of noise, they keep people awake, and a parent's entire life for a couple of years is dealing with fluids, both bodily and otherwise. If the baby isn't spitting up or filling the diapers with poo or drooling or sneezing or peeing or puking, they're spilling something.
a4a Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 It's not likely a phobia, like a fear of small places or a fear of heights or flying or something like that. It's just that you don't have a burning need or desire right now to start squeezing out wee ones. Babies can be cute, sure, but they also make a lot of noise, they keep people awake, and a parent's entire life for a couple of years is dealing with fluids, both bodily and otherwise. If the baby isn't spitting up or filling the diapers with poo or drooling or sneezing or peeing or puking, they're spilling something. Then they grow up and wreck your car..... and wreck your life as well. It's easier when you can just keep them in their cage. ...... er crib I mean.
a4a Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I'm afraid I'll drop them. oh no don't worry about that ... they bounce...... usually 2-3 times before the crying starts..
Author princessa Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 I love kids, but newborns give me the heebie-jeebies, and I refuse to hold babies that are under 4-5 months old because I'm afraid of them. Hahahah this made ma laugh. But you forgot one detail though.... you're all MEN I mean.. if I have a kid... I'll have to actually hold it and stuff you know.. US WOMEN don't have the LUXURY of ignoring our newborns until they become INTERESTING!!!!!!! My father was like that too. I hear he ignored me until I was able to be ordered around
hotgurl Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 If it makes you feel better. i don't like babies. I don't want to hold them or coo over them. But i loved my daugther when she was born and I was totally fine with her as an infant and enjoyed it. Maybe I just don't like other people's kids.
quankanne Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 hotgurl has a very valid point – a lot of girlfriends who became moms have told me this. That they don't like kids, but it was different with their own. But you forgot one detail though.... you're all MEN I mean.. if I have a kid... I'll have to actually hold it and stuff you know.. US WOMEN don't have the LUXURY of ignoring our newborns until they become INTERESTING!!!!!!! actually, I'm female, auntie to a ton of little ones (well, most are grown up now), but I never volunteered to hold any of them when they were new. But, like I said before, they grow up fast, so they're not scary for long
HeyYouGuys Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Actually, you're not abnormal....just in the minority. I never liked babies, never thought they were cute and never wanted to hold them. As I got older, I became more TOLERANT of them, but overall, never really interested. I thought I'd have kids someday, but as the years rolled on I realized....it just wasn't for me. I didn't want the whole parenting lifestyle, so I chose not to have it. Now you may still go to have children. You may still never be enamoured with babies! As strange as it sounds, some of my female friends have told me they loved their own babies but still couldn't stand other people's. One woman told me she found the baby stage dreadfully dull and boring, but really enjoyed her kids once they grew older. So don't feel bad about your reaction to babies. I think a lot of people do the 'awwww so cuuuute' thing because they think it's expected of them.
Guest Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I'm afraid I'll drop them. That's the most common fear. Understandable considering the baby is likely the most treasured thing the parents have. You'd probably be nervous if you were holding a vase worth millions too. Conversely to you baby haters , I'm a man and I love babies and young children. I'm not easily grossed out or sqeamish, so that helps I'm sure. I'm going to be frank and suggest that most people should wait until about 30 to have babies. A lot of maturing occurs between 20 and 30. You'll need it. Even a nurturing person can lose their patience in child rearing.
a4a Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Just get some used kids...... older, housebroken, and less expensive. Also able to perform tasks.
Author princessa Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 Just get some used kids...... older, housebroken, and less expensive. Also able to perform tasks. HAHAHAHAH *thumbs up*
SoCalCatman72 Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 But you forgot one detail though.... you're all MEN I guess I'm the exception to the rule, I absolutely love babies . I love the way they smell when they've just been bathed and powdered, I love the way they wriggle in your arms, I love when they first try to walk and talk, I love the way they look around at everything new with wonder and delight, but most of all I love the way they look at you with perfect innocence and love. Yeah diapers and other fluids are yucky and annoying, but hey it's no different than what comes out of me per se. Interestingly enough, this Sunday, I was wiping a 1yr old's runny nose, didn't think anything of it, except that it needed to be wiped.
a4a Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I guess I'm the exception to the rule, I absolutely love babies . I love the way they smell when they've just been bathed and powdered, I love the way they wriggle in your arms, I love when they first try to walk and talk, I love the way they look around at everything new with wonder and delight, but most of all I love the way they look at you with perfect innocence and love. Yeah diapers and other fluids are yucky and annoying, but hey it's no different than what comes out of me per se. Interestingly enough, this Sunday, I was wiping a 1yr old's runny nose, didn't think anything of it, except that it needed to be wiped. oh I want you to be my babys daddy.....
Author princessa Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 I love the way they smell when they've just been bathed and powdered, I love the way they wriggle in your arms, I love when they first try to walk and talk Like I said......... EEeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwww
a4a Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Like I said......... EEeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwww I double that EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!! and raise you a
honeybunch2k5 Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I feel ya...I think babies are cute, but I wouldn't want to touch one. I prefer toddlers and older, no barfing babes, thank you. I love the way babies look, but touching them is a different story. I guess I'm afraid of breaking one (like I break everything else).
Princess112 Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I myself adore kids. But I suppose it's the way I've been raised. I've been taking care of children since I was 5 (taking care of my little cousins) and I've helped everyone around me babysit. I've even been in 4 labors, and I volunteer at a Children's Hospital. But most of the women around me are a little... grossed out by children. And I completely understand them, when infants, they're always crying, pooping, and eating. Then they start gaining independence and start tearing the houses down, driving everyone crazy. They enter their "terrible twos" and test their boundaries, their favorite words become "NO". Then school starts and in come the incessant questions... and their favorite word changes to "WHY." Then come their teens, and in comes their seeking for individuality.. and all the troubles and turmoils that brings. When seen from that perspective, it seems it's all negative... But seeing their day-to-day changes, seeing the way they grow and the way they learn.. it's truly a marvelous experience. Kids sometimes bring out the best in you, helping you relive the simplicity of life back then, and bringing back all the happy memories. Most of the women (and men) I know used to try to steer clear of children, either because they were too rowdy, too fragile, too disgusting, you name it. But then they became parents.. even if by accident, and their whole life turned around. Children really are a magnificent thing. A lot of people however are... scared. Scared of dropping the child, scared of "messing up" as parents, scared of being a complete failure. But nobody has a manual to parenting, and each child is different. You and the child are learning life together and that's what makes it so special. In any case, if the idea of infants still scare you, have you ever considered adopting? There are hundreds of children without families, children whose parents have died, or whose parents were too young and immature, or with other personal problem. A lot of people who adopt go for the infants, to take care of children as young as possible, but time passes by and the older kids gets left behind. It would be marvelous if people would take them in. They're in so much want of a family, wanting to please you as much as possible, they're usually the best behaved children ever! There's lots of possibilities, and what you're going through is perfectly normal.
Author princessa Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 Isn't the whole purpose of having a kid to have a continuity of your own genes? I'm a bit reluctant to adopting... and I know my boyfriend would never want to do that anyways.
blind_otter Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I like being an auntie. I can visit but I don't have to live there, and when the bodily fluids start flowing I can hand the kid to the parent. Everybody wins! I like kids ok but when I spend an extended period of time with them I start saying snippy things like "Why can't you sit quietly and read?" I hear when you actually reproduce though, there are horomones that kick in to make you temporarily insane.
TheSilentType Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 babies are awesome. just so cute and innocent and dumb. even a crying baby really doesn't bother me....i like them all. now teenagers....there's a real nightmare for you
Guest Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Like I said......... EEeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwww I had the same reaction... baby smell? EEEEEWWWW I don't care if they're clean...I don't like it and I especially don't like when they're all squirmy in you arms.. EEEEWWWWWW
Guest Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 I'm not big on babies. I don't like people much until they can speak coherently. One of my good friends gave me her kid to hold during some religious ceremony. I thought it might be nice. It was hot, sweaty, smelly, and heavy. Couldn't see what the big deal is about having litters of them. That pretty much nailed the last nail in any thought I might have had about having kids. Now adopting some kids whose parents got killed in an accident or something - I'd do that.
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