jmargel Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 A marriage with infelidity is not a marriage. It's just a piece of paper to you that doesn't mean anything. Your husband has become your sugar-daddy. You sound very immature, IMO too immature to be in a marriage. You've probably had this self-serving attitude your whole life and it will be you who will be missing out in the end. Quit living a lie and tell your husband about the affairs. I'm pretty sure your husband is well aware that he's not very big, and probably loves you even moreso that you have accepted him as he is. However what is sad is, that you haven't. You are basing your love for your husband based on his penis size. You really need to get your priorities straight in your life.
Mz. Pixie Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 How about YOU try that for a month (or should I say for the duration of your marriage!!!) and see how it goes. Some of us females prefer loving the old fashion way. And I think she already mentioned her vaginal problem, but in a more tactful way. Either way, I think the man tricked her into marriage and he gets what he deserves. How did he trick her into marriage?? Do ya think that they discussed penis size before marriage?? If he wouldn't engage in sex then I doubt that they discussed the length of his unit. Newsflash Guest, lots of women live in sex lives being pleased that way- because either they cannot orgasm from intercourse or their partners have erectile dysfunction. Not all of them have affairs or are unsatisfied. There is no right or wrong way to make love- it's different for everyone. She mentioned her vaginal problem in a more tactful way- too bad she didn't use that much respect when mentioning her husband's penis.
Sup Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 If he was/is a Christian before marriage, I'm sure he was going by what the scripture says, to paraphrase: To abstain from fornication. That's not the way it's written, but that statement sums it up. I feel it's very possible that he was trying to do just what the Bible says.
Mz. Pixie Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 I just thought of something. What if he would have said "Dang baby, I need to tie a board to my ass to keep me from falling in" That wouldn't have made the OP very happy!
travellingman Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 He told me we should wait to have sex until marriage Not having sex doesn't mean you don't see his dick before you marry. When we were dating, my wife practically inspected every ball hair before she ever let me have sex her. Your story sounds like a bit of fiction.
LittleLady Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Not having sex doesn't mean you don't see his dick before you marry. When we were dating, my wife practically inspected every ball hair before she ever let me have sex her. Your story sounds like a bit of fiction. That sounds like fiction too. Either that or your wife is a little nuts. Men who have really small penises are very insecure. I was dating one man like that before and it took a long time before he would allow me to see him naked. The relationship didn't last long. Not only was he a very boring person, but he didn't do that much for me in the bedroom either. I sympathize being stuck eternity with a man who cannot please you. Sure some people may not have orgasms during sex, but it can still be pleasurable. I don't get lustful feelings to screw a vibrator. I want a man inside me, whether I come or not. I can finish myself off another way, but I still enjoy sex. If I had to screw a vibrator for 50 years, um, well, I would never allow that to happen because I wouldn't be married for that long if I was that miserable. Word to the wise. Don't marry before you see and experience all of the goods both sexually and non-sexually. haha. He probably became "born again" after his first gf dumped him because of his shortcomings! How convenient!
Mz. Pixie Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 That sounds like fiction too. Either that or your wife is a little nuts. Men who have really small penises are very insecure. I was dating one man like that before and it took a long time before he would allow me to see him naked. The relationship didn't last long. Not only was he a very boring person, but he didn't do that much for me in the bedroom either. I sympathize being stuck eternity with a man who cannot please you. Sure some people may not have orgasms during sex, but it can still be pleasurable. I don't get lustful feelings to screw a vibrator. I want a man inside me, whether I come or not. I can finish myself off another way, but I still enjoy sex. If I had to screw a vibrator for 50 years, um, well, I would never allow that to happen because I wouldn't be married for that long if I was that miserable. Word to the wise. Don't marry before you see and experience all of the goods both sexually and non-sexually. haha. He probably became "born again" after his first gf dumped him because of his shortcomings! How convenient! There can be a thing as a penis being too big too. This whole thread is ridiculous and cruel.
JackJack Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 There can be a thing as a penis being too big too. This whole thread is ridiculous and cruel. WORD! I second that.
billhere57 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Ahh. I see. So your husband's normal size penis isn't pleasing your incredibly large vagina and you think he's the one with the problem.
skeletonindacloset Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 Small penis/big vagina stuff aside, it sounds like you have no qualms doing something incredibly hurtful to your husband and you seem fine with continuing to do it over and over again. I think leaving would be the most caring thing to do but with the limited details of your post it sounds like you're not the most caring person. I suggest looking at something other than your own satisfaction.
MySugaree Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 It all depends what you mean by a "good" marriage. In the short term, your affairs with better endowed men will make your marriage tolerable. During this "honeymoon" phase, which could last years, you'll be the loving wife and mother at home and a lover away from home. You'll have the best of both worlds. However, your life will be split, and the daily deceit will take its toll. Affairs are not for the faint of heart. In time, though, the affairs will most likely degrade your marital experience. As your husband ceases to be a meaningful source of intimacy, the ties that bind will fray. He'll remain the father of your kids--nothing more, nothing less. You'll most likely stop viewing and treating him as your husband. Still, for the kids' sake you'll try to keep your family together at least until the kids are much older. Who knows, you might succeed in having your cake and eating it too. But there are always wild cards: falling in love, getting caught, the loss of that "loving" feeling. Good luck, practice safe sex and try not to pulverize your husband's self-esteem.
Guest Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Maybe the reason you don't feel anything is because your coochie is like a grand canyon and he falls in!!! How big is the guy you are having a affair with?
Sassy Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Ahh. I see. So your husband's normal size penis isn't pleasing your incredibly large vagina and you think he's the one with the problem. ROFLMAO!!!! :lmao:
kulyok Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Funny how bitter and resentful some comments are, given that their authors were unfaithful themselves. I thought this was the place for constructive advice and help. Yes, affairs are morally wrong in our society, and I totally support this view. But what happened to "hate the sin, love the sinner", or to simple compassion? Would you, yourselves, like to be hurt this way? No wonder the original poster did not post again. Folks, stop it.
Clevelandfan Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 What a piece of work. Where's the value system in people these days? Unreal.
SoleMate Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Just out of curiosity: Is it ever possible for a married woman to express dissatisfaction with her husband's penis on an anonymous forum without being excoriated? And mind you, I'm not even talking about the "affair attack". Let's take it as a given that she deserves criticism for having an affair. But to go on and suggest that she is an immoral user and "piece of work" because she's dissatisfied with her husband's penis?
burning 4 revenge Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 I've heard it stated more than once by women that men with small penises should become homosexuals even if that is not their natural inclination. I wonder what anyone's thoughts are on that?
Touche Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Boy those women who say that must not like gay people very much. They (well not lesbians) deserve big penises too don't they? Sheesh...
Mz. Pixie Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 Just out of curiosity: Is it ever possible for a married woman to express dissatisfaction with her husband's penis on an anonymous forum without being excoriated? And mind you, I'm not even talking about the "affair attack". Let's take it as a given that she deserves criticism for having an affair. But to go on and suggest that she is an immoral user and "piece of work" because she's dissatisfied with her husband's penis? I think it was the way she said it that set me off exactly. That and her underlying context that she was using him for financial support. In other words he was good enough to spend his money supporting her but not good enough for her to be faithful or not to slam his private parts.
Touche Posted September 22, 2006 Posted September 22, 2006 I think it was the way she said it that set me off exactly. That and her underlying context that she was using him for financial support. In other words he was good enough to spend his money supporting her but not good enough for her to be faithful or not to slam his private parts. "Slam his private parts!":laugh: I don't think she's doing that!
shortnsassy Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 Long story short.. I might expand later, but this is my second marriage and my husband is religious and was only with one woman before me. He told me we should wait to have sex until marriage, even though he wasn't a virgin because he was a born-again christian. Anyways, I think it was bs. Needless to say our honeymoon was the biggest farse in history. No offense to the men, but after birthing four children, I need something with a little bit of girth. His pecker isn't doing it for me. I used to be a tailor for about 5 years and have a good eye. 3 inches hard doesn't do anything for me. In fact, I don't feel anything. We've been married for 1 year and 3 months. My affair started 5 months ago and is going strong. My husband, I care for him and he is a great provider. I am well taken care of and can have whatever my heart desires, except in the sexual department. I do not desire him at all. In fact, I kind of find him looking as less of a man and just not attractive. Is there anything we can do like get him a penile implant?? I was thinking of getting maybe vaginal rejuvenation to tighten myself up and therefore feel more friction during sex. But honesty, before having any children I was with one man around his size and it still didn't do much for me. All my affair has been about is just sex. NO feelings or emotions involved. So is it possible to have a good marriage, even though an affair is going on. It is only satisfying me sexually since my husband cannot. But there is nothing deeper than that. Just sex.. am I delusional or do I just see this a little differently than most people? you must had seen something in your husband after all you married him. i dont think its because of the 3 inch penis. i think you just wanted the affair. if you want out of the marriage get out. let your husband get a new life. theres more in life then just sex. theres a women out there for your husband it wont matter to her if his penis is 3 inches.
MrsHellFire Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 Funny how bitter and resentful some comments are, given that their authors were unfaithful themselves. I thought this was the place for constructive advice and help. Yes, affairs are morally wrong in our society, and I totally support this view. But what happened to "hate the sin, love the sinner", or to simple compassion? Would you, yourselves, like to be hurt this way? No wonder the original poster did not post again. Folks, stop it. I agree Kulyok.
MrsHellFire Posted September 23, 2006 Posted September 23, 2006 Just out of curiosity: Is it ever possible for a married woman to express dissatisfaction with her husband's penis on an anonymous forum without being excoriated? And mind you, I'm not even talking about the "affair attack". Let's take it as a given that she deserves criticism for having an affair. But to go on and suggest that she is an immoral user and "piece of work" because she's dissatisfied with her husband's penis? Yep, I guess a lot of these posters took her thoughts about her husband too personally and it hindered their own egos. But if it was a man talking about their dissatisfaction in the bedroom, no one would blink an eye!
Guest Posted September 24, 2006 Posted September 24, 2006 Yep, I guess a lot of these posters took her thoughts about her husband too personally and it hindered their own egos. But if it was a man talking about their dissatisfaction in the bedroom, no one would blink an eye! Actually I suspect it is a 50% 50% proposition. I don't think many of the female participants would feel much sympathy for a man crowing about cheating because his wife "tricked" him by ballooning from a Size 4 into a Size 22 after he said "I do". Maybe I'm wrong... Sure she has a right to move on. But leave his credit cards and bank account along behind with the small wing wang.
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