once removed Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Well if you have read some of my post from before you know I have put myself though the ringer over the mm I loved who ran off not with me but with another woman. I thought my life was just about as bad as it could get. I was depressed to no end. That was a lifetime ago. On Friday night at 2 am my 4 year old little girl came to me and told me that her father had pulled her pants off and was touching her in her privet parts. I am in a living nightmare now. Yes I took her to the Doctors, yes her father is in jail. But innocents is not lost hers and mine. I never thought he could do such a thing I’m jaded now, don’t know if I could ever believe in a man again. I stayed in my marriage for my kids and now I’m leaving it to keep them safe
bunset Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 o r, I am so sorry that you are experiencing this horror! Please get counselng for both of you. I'll keep thoughts for health and healing and better days for you in my heart.
GreenEyedLady Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I feel so awful for you and your daughter. My prayers are with you and your family.
Pink Amulet Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Oh no People say it on here all the time... but this really is a nightmare. How long ago did this happen? How did the father have unsupervised access to your child? Can I ask what he is in prison for? (they should throw away the key IMO).
Author once removed Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 I don't know how long it went on. The first and only time my lil girl came to me I took her to the hospital right away. I wanted to be proven wrong. I never thought that I would have to protect my baby girl from her own father. That is the one man in her life she should be able to trust. That is the one man that should never do her wrong. This all went down on Friday. He is in jail at this time. I hope to god he stays there. Lucky he did not go any further than touching her. Granted that is to much. He will not be alone with her ever again. I gave her my word that she will never go though that again. I am just sick. I've changed the locks on the house. told all the people around me. Not for sympathy but to keep me and my kids safe. I'm going to court in the morning to for a restraining order. I've put a stop to our CC Cards. I've filing for divorce asap. I'm doing everything I can do to keep both of my kids safe without making this worst for them than it already is. I wish I could go back to the biggest issue in my life was a broken heart. I wish I could take this all away. I can't I have to be strong. I can't sink into a mans arms to feel safe. However my number one job in life is to keep my kids safe. I failed once it will not happen again.
stillhere Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I am so sorry this happened, but do not blame yourself. It is not your fault that this piece of sh*t did this to her. You're right, your number one priority is your children, and you are protecting them. Now you know. The only way you can possibly blame yourself is if you sat there and allowed him to do this to her, which you didn't. Good for you for reporting him and i hope that judge makes him pay dearly for what he did to his innocent daughter.
whichwayisup Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Well if you have read some of my post from before you know I have put myself though the ringer over the mm I loved who ran off not with me but with another woman. I thought my life was just about as bad as it could get. I was depressed to no end. That was a lifetime ago. On Friday night at 2 am my 4 year old little girl came to me and told me that her father had pulled her pants off and was touching her in her privet parts. I am in a living nightmare now. Yes I took her to the Doctors, yes her father is in jail. But innocents is not lost hers and mine. I never thought he could do such a thing I’m jaded now, don’t know if I could ever believe in a man again. I stayed in my marriage for my kids and now I’m leaving it to keep them safe I'm so sorry! My thoughts are with you and your daughter. All I can suggest is some therapy, for both of you. And I hope he pays for this in jail for a very long time!
kymberann Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 So sorry to hear of these circumstances. Sending out tons of support your way. Let's hope he gets his if and when he serves jail/prison time. Just like others have suggested, seek some therapy. I was molested when i was a young girl by a nneighborhood pervert. The best thing my parents did for me was get counseling as well as being honest open and willing to talk about it on my terms. I wish you much peace through this process. Best!
Author once removed Posted September 19, 2006 Author Posted September 19, 2006 yes I've already set up therapy for both me, my little girl and my son. After all we all have to deal with it. I am lucky it is a free service though my work. All I can do is give my kids all my love and support and be there for them. It is my job to protect them and I will. Thank you all for your support. Talking though it is helping me. Once Removed
whichwayisup Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 You might want to continue posting your feelings in the coping section too. Just copy and paste this link http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t99278/ to your thread in there (if you want to start one) so that way you don't have to go back into detail from the beginning. I'm glad you all are getting support. And again, I'm sorry that this has happened...
scaredinlove Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Well if you have read some of my post from before you know I have put myself though the ringer over the mm I loved who ran off not with me but with another woman. I thought my life was just about as bad as it could get. I was depressed to no end. That was a lifetime ago. On Friday night at 2 am my 4 year old little girl came to me and told me that her father had pulled her pants off and was touching her in her privet parts. I am in a living nightmare now. Yes I took her to the Doctors, yes her father is in jail. But innocents is not lost hers and mine. I never thought he could do such a thing I’m jaded now, don’t know if I could ever believe in a man again. I stayed in my marriage for my kids and now I’m leaving it to keep them safe Sorry to hear that,I hope you and your daughter to heel from this nightmare. Good luck .
NoIDidn't Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 yes I've already set up therapy for both me, my little girl and my son. After all we all have to deal with it. I am lucky it is a free service though my work. All I can do is give my kids all my love and support and be there for them. It is my job to protect them and I will. Thank you all for your support. Talking though it is helping me. Once Removed Also free counselling is available by federal funds in EVERY state. Your work may only provide 5 to 10 free sessions, more than likely just 5. The government provides 12. Mind you, way more than that is needed. Your daughter is to be commended. She is so brave, telling you right away. Instead of showing her how disgusted you are with her father, tell her how proud you are of her. That she knew she could tell you speaks volumes of the relationship you have with her. You two sound very strong and courageous. Remind yourself of that often. It will keep the anxiety from eating you alive. You, too, are to be commended. I am so sorry for what has happened. I wish you peace and healing. (One day I may tell my story, just not ready to yet.)
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