jgrdn2003 Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 i am a little confused on this casual dating stuff...what is it? my situation is, i have been seeing this guy as in his words casually dating. the first 2 weeks we talked every few days, then all of a sudden we either talk on the computer, the phone, text message or see each other everyday, but he says we are still casually dating...what is up? he said yes he has went out with a few others but no sex has happened with them unlike with us, almost everytime we are together if we go back to his place we end up in bed. he has me so confused. he just got out of a 6yr relationship a few months back and says he wants to casually date. in my eyes i feel we are dating and not the casual dating either, at least not the last few weeks it does not seem like casual dating to me. please anyone with some sort of advice here or opinion? i have not caught him ever lie to me so of course yes i believe him when he says he has not slept with others, how can he when he is either with me or i know where he is because he tells me.....i am very confused here....help
lone she-wolf Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 You are casually dating, as in "free to date others". And he has. He just has not bedded them yet. I've been here, ONCE, for 2 years! If he made the statement that he just wants to "casually date" BELIEVE HIM, even if it does not FEEL like it. In my opinion, the best thing you can do in this type of situation is request that he tell you if he gets sexual with one of his OTHER "dates". That way you can decide if you want to share or not.
fishtaco Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 Excellent advice lone she-wolf. Believe him. A lot of women make the mistake of thinking they know better than the guy what he is feeling, or worse yet, you can change them. It is what it is... open dating. Only time this can move forward is if both of you want it. And that starts with the talk of going exclusive, and not by any other actions -- Valentine's day gifts, cuddling after sex, romantic evenings... doesn't mean anything until you have the talk. But you alway have the choice of ending it if you don't like where this is going. I'd say just enjoy it. Go out and meet some men. You get to have a temporary BF while you look for someone better than him. Sounds like a good situation to me (as long as you don't fall for him).
brightrose Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 "Sounds like a good situation to me (as long as you don't fall for him)." Sounds like great advice! Also, I am big on this, remember to protection and be aware of the possibilities that his "casual" behavior could be dangerous (if he does sleep w/ another w/o telling) since you are having sexual contact w/ him.
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