Super89Rex Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 A) What do they want? B) Why is what they want always what I think I am? C) Why is what they want never me?
Sally00 Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Well uh, this is pretty vague and I don't even know who you are. But I say that women want someone who will treat them with absolute respect, courtesy, honesty, trust, etc. Maybe you just don't have much self-confidence. Appreciate the person you are. You have to love yourself before others can love you.
stoopid_guy Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Sally's right, the questions are too vague. You could describe a specific lady and yourself and ask those questions, you could also ask "what do you want" and get forty different answers from forty different ladies, but I doubt that would help you.
pricillia Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 A) What do they want? B) Why is what they want always what I think I am? C) Why is what they want never me? A. What do women want well that is different for each woman... I want a man that I can trust be excited about let all my inhibitions go and that I truly love I can't explain it it is just the right connection. As far as b and c go those questions are not about women they are about you. Be more specific... On what occasions did you have trouble and why do you feel rejected...
lovestruck234 Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 A) What do they want? Ah, My Dear...you will NEVER know the answer to this question....it will always remain a mystery....
johan Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 A) What do they want? B) Why is what they want always what I think I am? C) Why is what they want never me? Here's a question for you, Queryman: What do YOU want? Is it your approach to find a woman and try to give her what you you think she's after? Or are you more interested in building a life that a good woman can choose to be part of? If it's the latter, then questions A and B are moot (NOTE to all: m-o-o-t is the correct spelling here. Not m-u-t-e.) Regarding C: if you're taking care of business, this will take care of itself. Just don't be a monk like me, and you'll be fine.
Lights Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Regarding C: if you're taking care of business, this will take care of itself. I'll have to jump in here; I'm afraid that there isn't much that could be further from the truth. Paying attention to other things in one's life is most certainly a worthy thing to do, but doing so won't necessarily surround oneself with desirable women nor necessarily make one appear desirable to them.
Noos Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 A) My friends and I want someone who is respectful, has manners, a good sense of humour, who is kind to other people, emotionally supportive and someone we find physically attractive. The latter requirement does not translate into wanting George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Often, a guys personality makes him more physically attractive, especially a guy who is smart and funny. Why do you think David Spade gets all the girls? A hot guy who is self-centred and dumb cancels out his advantage of good looks. The former requirements do not mean "nice guy". We also want a guy who stands up for himself and is not a doormat. Guys who never say no are bland and too compliant. Did you know that the looks are the easiest part of the equation to find and that the other requirements are far more elusive? B) You probably are what they but lots of women, myself included, have their own issues that make them too stupid to realise this. That's not your problem - it's their problem. C) See B. People are too hung up on appearances, status, people with money, people who are at the top of the societal tree. D) just be yourself because trying to be someone else to meet with another's approval will just land you in therapy and therapy is expensive. If you have an idea in your head of what your ideal relationship will look like - forget it. You set your self up for disappointment that way.
johan Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I'll have to jump in here; I'm afraid that there isn't much that could be further from the truth. Paying attention to other things in one's life is most certainly a worthy thing to do, but doing so won't necessarily surround oneself with desirable women nor necessarily make one appear desirable to them. Oh, yes. Thanks for the correction. I certainly did leave out making oneself desirable and being around women, and of course, that made me farther from the truth than anything else in the world possibly could have. You, on the other hand missed being alive and being a human male. So I guess we're both taking things for granted.
superconductor Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 A) What do they want? They don't know themselves, so there's no way any one else could possibly know. Even Sigmund Freud couldn't figure it out. B) Why is what they want always what I think I am? Again, because what women want changes with the tides, the moon, the wind direction and what they had for breakfast, there's no real way to be what they want. C) Why is what they want never me? Probably because you're rational and your moods/personality traits don't change with every passing moment.
Pink Amulet Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Okay spill Super89ex.... what exactly is your problem? We don't have time to intepret your vague questions...
Adunaphel Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 A) What do they want? Each woman is looking for something different. What they want will tell you quite a lot about them. B) Why is what they want always what I think I am? They either don't really want what they claim they want, or your perception of yourself is not accurate. C) Why is what they want never me? See above.
Walk Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 A) What do they want? I want: A man. One that isn't afraid to say I crossed the line. One who isn't afraid to show emotions. One who can clearly express his thoughts and feelings, especially when there's a problem. One who is going to place my wants and needs at the same level as his. One who can honestly say what he wants and needs, and intelligent enough to be able to communicate them so that I understand. One who has values and morals and will stick up for them even if he may suffer ridicule or embarresment. Yet intelligent enough to know when those values or morals may need to be re-evaluated and either kept, or altered to fit new knowledge. I want a man. Not a little boy. B) Why is what they want always what I think I am? Self-bias? You think you hold these traits that women want, yet don't portray it at the level they desired. ie: we want a guy who is caring, but you call 7 times every day... you believe you're showing her you care.. she feels suffocated. Or we want a man who's not clingy, but you refuse to call her for 3 days because some book told you not to. So you believe you're being what she wanted, yet all she see's is an ass. C) Why is what they want never me? You're looking in the wrong places? The traits you look for in women are not compatible with who you are? You don't love yourself and project an image of low self-esteem? You don't set boundaries for how you will be treated so women lose respect for you and leave? You fear rejection and ultimately believe it will somehow damage you so you avoid situations where rejection/failure may occur? I don't know....
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