Bamaboy2006 Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 Well if you have read my other post you will know what im talking about, if you dont, read it. I have looked at my single status and have decided the probability of being a bachelor forever is perfectly fine. I may struggle with it for a little while but i think i can deal with it. Any suggestions on ways to help deal with something like that or any ideas on what I can do to help it be not so bad?
Mirnsy Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I am thinking that you get real nervous around girls but moreso around those you find attractive. So I'd say try and talk to a girl that you don't find attractive at all. Also, next time you meet a girl, try and pretend that she's one of your buddies. Don't stare at her breasts or anything. Listen to what she has to say, focus on what she has to say and you'll come up with something of your own to say. Give girls compliments, they like that.
Author Bamaboy2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 I am thinking that you get real nervous around girls but moreso around those you find attractive. So I'd say try and talk to a girl that you don't find attractive at all. Also, next time you meet a girl, try and pretend that she's one of your buddies. Don't stare at her breasts or anything. Listen to what she has to say, focus on what she has to say and you'll come up with something of your own to say. Give girls compliments, they like that. You got that right I do. I dont know why i mean they are just like any other person. I guess it comes down to me being shy. I have always been real shy and have never really got over it yet.
Walk Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 I felt like you at 20... I knew with all certainty that I would be single forever. I'd die alone at 80 with my 4 cats and little yippee dog.... I never dated in highschool. Never even potentially dated. I saw all my friends hook up with other people. I saw people i wanted to date ignore me. I watched as everyone else found someone... and no one wanted to date me. I felt like a freak. Felt like something must be wrong with me. Felt like I was ugly or somehow flawed. So many others seemed to find people with ease.. and yet, I couldn't. Except... I realized that to actually live life, I had to put myself in positions of potential failure. You can't have what you want if you never try. And what is the point of living if you hide in the shadows your whole life, living in fear of rejection or ridicule. So I said **** it. Started asking guys out. Didn't go so well at first. I didn't know all the little clues, and language of the dating world. So I crashed and burned a LOT at first. Made a total ass out of myself at one point. I picked myself up, dusted myself off, and tried again, and again, and again... And amazingly, I got better at it each time. Learned from the failures and kept the positives. I became more confident in myself. End result. I don't have any problems in getting dates now. I've dated some really hot guys in my past. But you have to put yourself out there and realize that you are going to crash and burn for a while until you can gain the skills and knowledge you need to be successful. Be willing to fail in order to potentially gain. And if one person didn't work out.. there are 3 billion others that may. Make it your choice to be single, but don't make it because you feel forced into that lifestyle.
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