Sand&Water Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 Yesturday, I broke up with a dear male friend of mine [who I have feelings for - I like him]. I'm an emotional wreck, right now. I don't know if I made the right decision. I want to go back, and tell him how I feel. I want to know if he is geniunely interested in me; likes me; wants to see where this might lead to; if he has feels for me. I didn't bluntly ask him. I was scared. I was shy to attempt to hurt the friendship. But, it's already a mess. My mind has been running back and forth, from the one side of the delimma to the other. Should I have stayed, and given the friendship a chance? May be I should have remained friends with him, and hoped in the future something good would come out of it? I left the friendship, because of a few factors: (1) I had developed an interest in him; feelings towards him that I could no longer pursue friendship. It was ruining my life. I was in pain, and still am. (2) I have responsibilities, and things to look after. I can't handle the friendship with him, and my life with school, family, work, relatives, and stress related to family issues. (3) It is tough for me to open up myself to him, share talk with him without my feelings get involved. He has always tried to get me to open up to him. He thinks because I'm not open to him about my life then I must be hiding myself and major issues/things. But the he tells me this ... "whether you like it or not, i do like you and i do care". He also said that he cares about he, or else he wouldn't have stayed with me. Stayed in the friendship, that is. and then I told him, that he has been flirting with me... He said: "i haven't been flirting with you.....talking yes, flirting no" For the record - he said and hinted at many things that would have made any woman believe he was interested. Was I fooled? I feel like he lead me on. He gave me 3 options: (1) continue what you've been doing, being detached etc. (2) call the whole thing off (the friendship) and never speak again OR (3) continue chatting without having the barriers anymore and just enjoying the conversation. He told me, he prefers #3. ...I chose #2. Did I make the right choice? Was this the right thing to do? I'm agitated. Insight/thoughts/ideas would be much appreciated. Thanks for reading.
Author Sand&Water Posted September 17, 2006 Author Posted September 17, 2006 The whole situation is an entire mess! My brain hurts from thinking about it. And, the fact that he is a very laid back type of guy says all too much. I told him, two people can't be friends forever. He replied with 'Why not?'. He has blurred the line between friends and more than friends (at least IMO).
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