Who should I believe?

[I&ME]

Here is the situation, I need some opinions. Thanks everyone.

 

I started full time job from May, after graduated from Uni.

 

here is this charming guy at work, lets call him L.

L is the first person I met when I walked into the office on the very first day of my Job, he was in charge that day. he was very nice to me.

then He was my mentor for a day.

 

I am a quiet person, and I smile a lot. He has made a lot compliment about me at work.

He is always nice to everybody, so I never assumed anything like he likes me. One day he just said to me that we should catch up for lunch sometimes. and he give me his number and messenger address.

 

so we did chat online after that day, he told me how he think I have a great smile, and good personality, and he likes me, and he want to go out with me. I do like him, so we did end up meet offwork oneday, just to chat. besically he told me how he feels about me, and he told me he has two gfs in the past both from work, and one is already married now, and the other still working in the office, he even told me there names, and he told me the first gf they break up because they both too busy, and the relationship just did not work out, the second gf done wrong by him twice and the break up. I said to him, I do willing to get to know each other better. he told me, he is serious about relationship and bla bla besically all the right things that a decent guy would think and do.

(this happened at the end of July.)

 

few days later at work, here is this lady, lets call her M.

M asked me if I am single, and she wants to introduced me to one of her friend. However she said" he is just a bf type guy, just to have fun, not be serious" , I told her that I am serious about relationships,I dont play. then she said, "ok, if you are serious person, then I wont introduced you to him" then she said that in our office there is one person I should try to avoid and that person is L. she said, you must find he is charming, and so sweet, but he will just play you and lie to people about what happened between you two, which will destroy your reputation. she said it happend to her friend who L dated before, she did not tell me her friend's name, and told me not to tell L what she said to me about him, otherwise she will not forgive me.the reason she told all these, because she think i am sweet and look innocent, she think L will ask me out, she dont want see me hurt at that end. Lady M dont know L already told me he likes me and I have met him offwork once.

 

few days later, here is another lady, who told me, L is a very nice man, but he seems not willing to settle down, seems he like to targeting the new people at work.she said once he settle down he is a very good man.

 

 

I did not know what to do, should I go out with him to get to know him better, or really I should believe lady M and try to avoid him.

In the past one month, I havent been talking to him much , just say hello when we see each other ( I have told him, that i just graduated from uni, started work, I feel like its still time for me to learn and work hard not to think about other things such as relationship too much, he said he would not disturb my work) ( I dont talk much at work anyway) and we havent go out. we did talk online, every time he would say he miss seeing me, and he would like to go out with me. something like that.

 

 

 

so, whats your opinion, what should I do? go out with him when he ask me next time? or find excuse to avoid get involved with him?

 

thanks very much for your opinions.

 

cheers

[Guest]

just go along with what you feel. doing things your own way can bring satisfaction. personally i would get to know someone well first before getting involved properly.

[alfmetalhead]

you dont have to follow peoples opinions, so just go with your heart. try and get to know the guy and if doesnt work out then hey, at least you tried. i personally would give it a go cuz thats how i learn in life, and if you get hurt, then you will be more careful in future. but if it works out then wow, congratulations! good luck