infatuated Posted September 16, 2006 Posted September 16, 2006 I need advice. So basically, I have really liked this guy for a while. So on the first day of school, I noticed that when I came in he did a double take and then kept staring at me as I walked by. So everytime I would walk by him he would stare at me or check me out. Even my friends noticed. So I really started to get the feeling that he liked me back too. And then it started to seem like he would try to see me more often (wouldnt talk to me, but would just walk by.) So basically we had the whole eye contact thing going on and what not. So then The first friday back at school, it turns out that we went to the same party. So everytime that I would try to talk to him, he would answer me but he would just stare at the ground and he wouldnt look up. Then later on, everybody was sitting on couches and chairs in a circle, and there was an empty spot beside me. So instead of coming to sit down there he just walked into another room. So then it was back to Monday, and he would still always be staring at me. But sometimes he would look away, and sometimes he would just keep staring once I noticed. So we are in the same gym class, and we both have a spare at the same time. So at the end of a gym class (we had been outside and were coming back into the gym to get our bags), I was walking out to get changed and he was coming in to get his bag. So as we walked by each other we had the most intense eye contact, and then he sort of looked down after and he a little smile on his face. So then yesterday, he was walking down the hall with a guy who I am friends with on spare, so I went up to them and was like, "im going to hang out with you guys". Well something to that effect. So he wouldnt even look at me as we walked to a table. So then he sat down and started to read this music section of a newspaper, and he had his head really close to it, and he wouldn't look up. So I tried to ask him a question about an article so that he would talk to me or atleast look up, but all he did was gently push the newspaper over to me so that I could get a better look at it. He didnt answer me or look up. So later on I saw a friend of mine walk by, so I went to say hi to her, and then when i looked at the table he was staring at me. But then when I got back to the table he wouldnt look up again. So then we all decided to go sit outside. SO me and the other friend, went and sat down beside a tree. So then he went and sat on the OTHER side of the tree, facing away from us. So he would talk to J (ill just call him J, hes friends with both of us and the guy i mentioned before), but he wouldnt look at me. So then Later on he was sitting with his friend L(im sort of friends with L too) L. So I asked L if he was going to a show later, and he said that probably would come. So then the guy that I like was just staring at the ground and wouldn't look up. So I was like to him, " you should come to the show too!" And he didnt answer me or even LOOK. Im sorry that this is long, but I just didnt want to leave anything out. So if you can just explain to me what is going on and what I should do, that would be amazing. And Does he like me? Im seriously so confused right now.
Hitman10000 Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 Alright, it's very obvious the dude wants to jump your bones but he is holding himself back because he is shy. Signs that a "shy guy" totally digs you: 1. Stares at you when you're not looking, but you can sense his eyes. 2. The first couple of conversations is very nervous and awkward 3. Seems to be around when you go somewhere, he just happens to show up. 4. He will purposely avoid you but keep within a observational distance. 5. He acts normal with others, but freezes/acts quiet when you're around There's a couple things that will happen/you can do to speed things up: 1. Wait for him to make the moves 2. You make the moves
JackEverett25 Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 If you've made all of this eye contact, then it is obvious this guy likes you. Usually, if a guy is confident enough to play the flirt game like you all have been playing, then he should really want to talk to you. Even shy guys, generally open up when they know you like them back. I wouldn't force things though. It seems that you have taken some initiative on your own to try to expedite things. One thing I've learned over the years is that EVERYBODY is different and everyone has their own things inside that make them tick...if he's flirting, yet avoids every opportunity to follow through with things with you, then he's probably really scared of rejection, but you never know. I'm really glad you are giving this guy a chance though. I used to be really shy a long time ago, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, but having been down that road, I can tell you once I actually knew a girl liked me and we started talking, everything was generally easy from there on out and I could be completely myself. If you are making an effort on a guy who obviously likes you, and he is avoiding you, then perhaps he's not worth the trouble. If it happened once then things like that happen, but if you're consistently trying to make things happen, then you should probably look elsewhere as you can't make someone show more interest in you.
Author infatuated Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 thank you both for replying! So basically, he likes me but most likely nothing will ever come out of it? Do you think that I should still give him a little bit longer to see what happens, or should I just give up now? But JE, if you were him do you think it would be obvious that I liked him? Or did you mean that the girl told you that she liked you and then you found it easier to talk with her?
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